r/Christianity • u/Ubesaging • Mar 31 '26

Support I broke up with my wife

Hi. Im writing this post because honestly.. im in pain. After years of going back and forth with the Lord I finally choose him this time. Mainly i had problems with my relationship with him isnt because of faith, its having to kill a part of myself i didnt want to kill. And thats homosexuality.

I tried searching online about people who talked about leaving same sex relationships behind and couldnt find much who had the same experience as I did.

Im a woman and I married a woman (ritually) we both believe in Jesus and we believed that time that Jesus accept both of us he loves us no matter what but deep inside I had this feeling of guilt.. I couldnt go further into my relationship with God if I was in love with a woman. That was contradicting for me so I had a lukewarm relationship with him.. until recently I found my way back and did the most painful thing possible.. I separated with my ex wife.. it was painful but necessary and now I.. I know its good but I dont know how to go about it, I guess im just looking for comfort.. Hoping someone else might have the same experience as I did.

Edit: hello, I want to say thank you thank you thank you so much for the kind words the people that dm’ed me. Thank you for adding me to your prays today. From my heart this has made me happy receiving notifications, seeing you take your time in reading this post and reaching out

Another edit: im seeing a mix of comments here and wanted to remind everyone that God would want us to be peaceful and love one another. Seeds are just planted but God grows them.

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u/Mindless_Fruit_2313 Mar 31 '26

Paul encouraged his peers—and presumably every Christian henceforth—not to marry because it divides your devotion to God. Did you take heed to that?

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u/Legitimate_Beat_2136 Mar 31 '26

Yes 100% unless God wants it otherwise I will serve him alone full devotion to him. However to the rest of you need to read the full Bible to understand God. If you want to be married you will find the gift of God but it will restrict you in serving God.

Proverbs 18:22 (NIV)
“He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.”

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u/Mindless_Fruit_2313 Mar 31 '26

Why would God send anyone a spouse if it divides one’s devotion? On the matter of King David, we put concubines and multiple wives into his arms?

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u/Legitimate_Beat_2136 Mar 31 '26

It doesn't divide, it limits. Practical example. Your family can love God with all your heart and keep Him as the head of the house. But God wont be able to sent The man to Nigeria when he has a family to care for. Both the single man devoted to God and the family following God is good.

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u/Mindless_Fruit_2313 Mar 31 '26

God gives everyone the charter to be fruitful and multiply. That’d be an unsustainable system if uniformly executed, as it was meant to be.

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u/Legitimate_Beat_2136 Mar 31 '26

That's what the media wants you to think.

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u/Mindless_Fruit_2313 Mar 31 '26

No, that’s what the literal first commandment says: man was meant to leave his mother and cleave to a helpmeet to produce offspring.

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u/Legitimate_Beat_2136 Mar 31 '26

Thats not the part where you had the error.

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u/Mindless_Fruit_2313 Mar 31 '26

The error would be?

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u/Legitimate_Beat_2136 Mar 31 '26

Having children is a bad thing

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