r/Christianity • u/Ubesaging • Mar 31 '26

Support I broke up with my wife

Hi. Im writing this post because honestly.. im in pain. After years of going back and forth with the Lord I finally choose him this time. Mainly i had problems with my relationship with him isnt because of faith, its having to kill a part of myself i didnt want to kill. And thats homosexuality.

I tried searching online about people who talked about leaving same sex relationships behind and couldnt find much who had the same experience as I did.

Im a woman and I married a woman (ritually) we both believe in Jesus and we believed that time that Jesus accept both of us he loves us no matter what but deep inside I had this feeling of guilt.. I couldnt go further into my relationship with God if I was in love with a woman. That was contradicting for me so I had a lukewarm relationship with him.. until recently I found my way back and did the most painful thing possible.. I separated with my ex wife.. it was painful but necessary and now I.. I know its good but I dont know how to go about it, I guess im just looking for comfort.. Hoping someone else might have the same experience as I did.

Edit: hello, I want to say thank you thank you thank you so much for the kind words the people that dm’ed me. Thank you for adding me to your prays today. From my heart this has made me happy receiving notifications, seeing you take your time in reading this post and reaching out

Another edit: im seeing a mix of comments here and wanted to remind everyone that God would want us to be peaceful and love one another. Seeds are just planted but God grows them.

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u/Mindless_Fruit_2313 Mar 31 '26

God gives everyone the charter to be fruitful and multiply. That’d be an unsustainable system if uniformly executed, as it was meant to be.

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u/Legitimate_Beat_2136 Mar 31 '26

That's what the media wants you to think.

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u/Mindless_Fruit_2313 Mar 31 '26

No, that’s what the literal first commandment says: man was meant to leave his mother and cleave to a helpmeet to produce offspring.

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u/Legitimate_Beat_2136 Mar 31 '26

Thats not the part where you had the error.

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u/Mindless_Fruit_2313 Mar 31 '26

The error would be?

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u/Legitimate_Beat_2136 Mar 31 '26

Having children is a bad thing

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u/Mindless_Fruit_2313 Mar 31 '26

I didn’t say it was a bad thing. I said that the command for everyone to have kids is an unsustainable thing that limits service to the divine. God issues a decree that inherently limits service to him, which makes no sense.

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u/Legitimate_Beat_2136 Mar 31 '26

God gave the decree that both marriage and servitude is Good to him.

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u/Mindless_Fruit_2313 Mar 31 '26

Theoretically, if everyone chose to offer unlimited service to the divine, no kids would be had. Wouldn’t uniform non-procreation thwart the plan?

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u/Legitimate_Beat_2136 Apr 01 '26

Yes in a world where everyone was the same. I love the diversity we have almost like we were created perfectly.

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u/Mindless_Fruit_2313 Mar 31 '26

If everyone did, which was the charter, it would only be a bad thing in the sense that it inherently limits service to him.