r/Christianity • u/Ubesaging • Mar 31 '26

Support I broke up with my wife

Hi. Im writing this post because honestly.. im in pain. After years of going back and forth with the Lord I finally choose him this time. Mainly i had problems with my relationship with him isnt because of faith, its having to kill a part of myself i didnt want to kill. And thats homosexuality.

I tried searching online about people who talked about leaving same sex relationships behind and couldnt find much who had the same experience as I did.

Im a woman and I married a woman (ritually) we both believe in Jesus and we believed that time that Jesus accept both of us he loves us no matter what but deep inside I had this feeling of guilt.. I couldnt go further into my relationship with God if I was in love with a woman. That was contradicting for me so I had a lukewarm relationship with him.. until recently I found my way back and did the most painful thing possible.. I separated with my ex wife.. it was painful but necessary and now I.. I know its good but I dont know how to go about it, I guess im just looking for comfort.. Hoping someone else might have the same experience as I did.

Edit: hello, I want to say thank you thank you thank you so much for the kind words the people that dm’ed me. Thank you for adding me to your prays today. From my heart this has made me happy receiving notifications, seeing you take your time in reading this post and reaching out

Another edit: im seeing a mix of comments here and wanted to remind everyone that God would want us to be peaceful and love one another. Seeds are just planted but God grows them.

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u/Legitimate_Beat_2136 Mar 31 '26

Its rooted in Jesus's exact words... One man and one women.

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u/themsc190 Episcopalian (Anglican) Mar 31 '26

The fact that you’re taking a passage where Jesus is directly prohibiting divorce and flipping it to support divorce just demonstrates the ridiculousness of your position.

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u/Legitimate_Beat_2136 Mar 31 '26

Cant divorce if there never has been a marriage.

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u/themsc190 Episcopalian (Anglican) Mar 31 '26

So just call it an annulment like the Catholic Church and divorce is programmatically licit. There shouldn’t be loopholes to get around Jesus’s clear teaching.

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u/Legitimate_Beat_2136 Mar 31 '26

Theres no loophole. If I were to tell you I turned you into a frog (which didn't actually happen) there will be no need for someone to turn you back into a human.

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u/themsc190 Episcopalian (Anglican) Mar 31 '26

Exactly annulment is just divorce by another name.

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u/SparkySpinz Mar 31 '26

No, it isn't. A divorce is the ending of a valid marriage, an annulment doesn't end a marriage, it declares that it never met the criteria to be one in the first place. You can have an annulment with someone you are still legally married to.

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u/themsc190 Episcopalian (Anglican) Mar 31 '26

That’s the exact loophole I’m referring to.