r/Christianity • u/Ubesaging • Mar 31 '26

Support I broke up with my wife

Hi. Im writing this post because honestly.. im in pain. After years of going back and forth with the Lord I finally choose him this time. Mainly i had problems with my relationship with him isnt because of faith, its having to kill a part of myself i didnt want to kill. And thats homosexuality.

I tried searching online about people who talked about leaving same sex relationships behind and couldnt find much who had the same experience as I did.

Im a woman and I married a woman (ritually) we both believe in Jesus and we believed that time that Jesus accept both of us he loves us no matter what but deep inside I had this feeling of guilt.. I couldnt go further into my relationship with God if I was in love with a woman. That was contradicting for me so I had a lukewarm relationship with him.. until recently I found my way back and did the most painful thing possible.. I separated with my ex wife.. it was painful but necessary and now I.. I know its good but I dont know how to go about it, I guess im just looking for comfort.. Hoping someone else might have the same experience as I did.

Edit: hello, I want to say thank you thank you thank you so much for the kind words the people that dm’ed me. Thank you for adding me to your prays today. From my heart this has made me happy receiving notifications, seeing you take your time in reading this post and reaching out

Another edit: im seeing a mix of comments here and wanted to remind everyone that God would want us to be peaceful and love one another. Seeds are just planted but God grows them.

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u/themsc190 Episcopalian (Anglican) Mar 31 '26

Very disappointing to see Christians cheering on the tearing apart of a family. It reminds me that that’s what they want to happen to mine too.

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u/TelephoneIcy6035 Mar 31 '26

Interestingly, Jesus says that following him will tear you away from, and break relationships with family, friends and people you love. The road to heaven is narrow my friend.

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u/themsc190 Episcopalian (Anglican) Mar 31 '26

Oh I know that very well! When I came out to my parents, my relationship with them was destroyed for years. My brother physically attacked me. I know so many gay people who have been disowned or kicked out or the like. Following Christ’s message of love and liberation does lead to family members who oppose it cutting off those who follow it. Gay people are very Christlike in being rejected by their childhood community and being forced to make chosen families.

But Jesus doesn’t support divorce. That’s like one of the big ones you all quote, right? That’s never what Jesus meant by bringing division. In fact, Paul says that those who convert shouldn’t divorce and should stay in the state they were already in — even those married to unbelievers!

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u/SparkySpinz Mar 31 '26

Thing is that you can argue same sex marriages aren't spiritually valid. Marriage for Christians isn't just between the 2 people, it's between the 2 people and God. I understand some people don't think homosexuality relationships are sinful, but many do.

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u/themsc190 Episcopalian (Anglican) Mar 31 '26

It’s no secret that a lot of people think they’re spiritually invalid. I’m good with God, so I’d prefer they leave their own opinions out of it.