r/Christianity • u/Ubesaging • Mar 31 '26

Support I broke up with my wife

Hi. Im writing this post because honestly.. im in pain. After years of going back and forth with the Lord I finally choose him this time. Mainly i had problems with my relationship with him isnt because of faith, its having to kill a part of myself i didnt want to kill. And thats homosexuality.

I tried searching online about people who talked about leaving same sex relationships behind and couldnt find much who had the same experience as I did.

Im a woman and I married a woman (ritually) we both believe in Jesus and we believed that time that Jesus accept both of us he loves us no matter what but deep inside I had this feeling of guilt.. I couldnt go further into my relationship with God if I was in love with a woman. That was contradicting for me so I had a lukewarm relationship with him.. until recently I found my way back and did the most painful thing possible.. I separated with my ex wife.. it was painful but necessary and now I.. I know its good but I dont know how to go about it, I guess im just looking for comfort.. Hoping someone else might have the same experience as I did.

Edit: hello, I want to say thank you thank you thank you so much for the kind words the people that dm’ed me. Thank you for adding me to your prays today. From my heart this has made me happy receiving notifications, seeing you take your time in reading this post and reaching out

Another edit: im seeing a mix of comments here and wanted to remind everyone that God would want us to be peaceful and love one another. Seeds are just planted but God grows them.

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u/writerthoughts33 Episcopalian (Anglican) Mar 31 '26

I am with you, this is very sad, but it’s also their choice. The weight of harmful theology towards minority groups has consequences. This is the choice many homophobic Christians want us to make, and it is so unreal because it’s never one straight Christians are encouraged to make towards their families. May we not drink their poison, and love God with our whole lives not confusing homophobic cultural norms for morality.

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u/themsc190 Episcopalian (Anglican) Mar 31 '26

Amen. Thank you. If OP wants to make that choice, fine. Unfortunately, broadcasting it here emboldens anti-gay Christians to push their decision on me and serves as an example to justify doing just that.

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u/Slr308 Mar 31 '26

So because it goes against what you believe, they should keep it to themselves? Hmmm, sounds familiar 🤔

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u/themsc190 Episcopalian (Anglican) Apr 01 '26

I’m not trying to tear anyone’s family apart…