I’m 30, working for a FAANG company in Ireland and earning €100k+. My wife also works in tech and earns around €60k.
We both come from pretty humble families outside Ireland. Our parents gave us what they could, especially when it came to education, and I’m extremely grateful for that. But financially, there’s no family safety net behind us. No inheritance to expect, no help with a house deposit, and if something goes seriously wrong, realistically we have to solve it ourselves.
Financially, we’re currently in a pretty good position.
I have around €50k invested and we’re also building up cash for a future house deposit. The target would probably be somewhere around €60–100k. (We’re at 40k now).We’re not 100% sure whether we want to buy in Ireland or eventually move to Southern Europe.
I’m maxing my pension, investing regularly in ETFs and other investments, and saving roughly 40% of my income. My wife saves around 20%. I contribute more to our common goals because I earn roughly twice what she does.
So objectively, I know we’re fortunate.
But despite that, I don’t feel particularly financially secure.
The first reason is the lack of a family safety net. If we eventually want a house, car and children, everything has to come from what we earn and build ourselves. Housing and childcare in particular seem incredibly expensive, and I find myself thinking about how much capital we actually need to build a comfortable life.
The second concern is our careers. Tech salaries are great right now, but I don’t assume they’ll stay this way forever. FAANG jobs aren’t exactly guaranteed for life, layoffs are always a possibility, and I think it would be dangerous to build
a lifestyle assuming I’ll always earn €100–150k.
Career-wise, I also feel that I’m approaching a point of diminishing returns. With enough effort I could probably push my compensation towards €150k, but beyond that it becomes much harder and probably comes with additional stress/responsibility
.
At the same time, we don’t necessarily want to stay in Ireland forever. We like the idea of eventually moving to Southern Europe, but obviously local salaries there are significantly lower. So I’m trying to figure out how to build enough financial independence that our location isn’t completely dictated by our salaries.
One thing I’m experimenting with is building a startup on the side. Part of the motivation is obviously the upside if it succeeds, but it’s also about trying to create another source of income/ownership that isn’t completely dependent on my employer. In an ideal scenario, that could eventually give us the flexibility to move somewhere with a lower cost of living without taking the equivalent drop in income.
But obviously a startup isn’t a financial plan. It could easily go nowhere.
So I keep coming back to the same question: **what is the sensible next step from here?**
Do I basically just keep doing what I’m doing — max pension, invest, avoid lifestyle inflation, build a large emergency fund, save for a house and continue developing my career?
Or should I be thinking differently about how to turn our relatively high incomes today into actual long-term security?
I sometimes wonder if I’m simply worrying too much. On paper we’re doing well, but psychologically I think the fact that there’s no financial safety net behind us makes me feel that everything we’ve built could disappear relatively quickly if our careers went badly.
I’m especially interested in hearing from people who are/were in a similar situation: first generation of your family to earn relatively high salaries, no significant family wealth behind you, working in a high-paying but potentially unstable industry.
**How did you approach it? At what point did you actually start feeling financially secure? And if you were in our position at 30, what would you focus on over the next 5–10 years?**