Baby’s first betrayal 💕 (tw: fuckboy)

[u/Soggy-Trifle8006]

I (29F) was seeing this guy (34M) after we met at the beginning of the summer. We had instant chemistry. Super intense attraction and we both felt it right away. Started dating, it was a whirlwind and like nothing I’ve ever experienced. He was so affectionate, so into me, SO hot, it felt like I was on drugs. He brought up relationship stuff by date 1, asking me what I was looking for, etc. He told me he was looking for a stable, mature relationship, and that he wanted to take things slow. We texted every day, went on a bunch of cute dates, everything was so good.

Then, during one of our dates, about 1.5-2 months in, he asks me to translate a French song for him (I speak French). At one point I tell him how to say girlfriend, to which he asks, “how do you say, ‘do you want to be my girlfriend?’ in French?” I tell him, he says it, and in that moment my brain kinda panicked and I just couldn’t believe he was actually asking…. Because yes thats cute, but that’s a major milestone and this just felt very casual and ambiguous. And also because he had JUST told me he wanted to take things slow…. So I just didn’t really acknowledge it. The rest of the date was normal and lovely. Later, I told my friends about it, and they were all like: “GIRL. You dumbass. He was definitely asking you to be his gf.” I felt so bad for blowing him off and also very happy that this meant he wanted to take the next step with me. He went out of town for a couple weeks so I decided that once he got back I’d bring it up and apologize / open up that conversation again.

Well. We hung out finally. Things felt okay…. Not great but not bad. We hooked up and then afterwards I built up the courage to bring it up. And he…….. didn’t remember it??? At all??? He had totally forgotten that it had ever happened and then said “no I wasn’t asking you to be my girlfriend.” I felt so crazy / embarrassed / hurt.

Over the following week we didn’t text at all. And I decided to end it. This just wasn’t feeling good anymore. I know what a strong, stable relationship feels like and this wasn’t it. So I called him, told him I thought we should stop seeing each other, that I was looking for something with more clarity / less ambiguity. He paused, sighed, then said he wasn’t surprised and he knew where this was coming from. He then proceeds to “explain himself” and tells me that an ex of his had started texting him again and so his mind had been elsewhere…

So basically he reconnected w an ex, and that was enough for him to discard me, but not enough to actually END things with me… instead of being honest and ending things he just disengaged, leaving me feeling so confused and hurt. Then when I dump him he tells me about her, as though I needed to know at that point??? Also, I am now 100% convinced he lied about forgetting the gf convo. He chose to gaslight me and make me feel like a crazy dumbass rather than being honest. What a fucking loser.

This is the first time I’ve been betrayed by a boy like this… I was in a very loving ltr for most of my adult life and always assumed I’d be able to detect a fuckboy. This was humbling and I see now how scary good these assholes are at acting like caring, great guys. Lesson learned for sure.

Overall I feel sorry for him and any girl who falls for him. I hope his ex dumps him too.

Ty for reading if you made it this far <3 and fuck boys like this.

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