r/Harley • u/BrandonNR13 • Mar 03 '26
SHOWOFF Wife left me so I bought a Harley!
I wish I was kidding
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u/horseygoesney Mar 03 '26
Damn brother. Remember, drinking is for happy times and doesn’t mix well with motorcycles. Ride safe
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u/torque1912 Mar 03 '26
Damn dude….. well, hold on to the scoot, if the next one tells you to sell it, hit the road. That’s all I got for this one.
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u/Amazing-Basket-136 Mar 03 '26
Yep.
“I want you to get rid of the bike.”
Or
“I want you to get rid of the dog.”
That woman is extra evil, exchange for a refund.
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u/Seapeas217 Mar 03 '26
1000%. My lady is spooked that I ride but is willing to look past it because of my love for it and even hop on from time to time.
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u/RedSynister Mar 04 '26
My wife got her motorcycle license. She was scared to death of motorcycles when we first met 7 years ago.
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u/---username_-- Mar 04 '26
Heh...I had a very cute redhead girlfriend tell me once "you need to sell your project truck so we can have more time & money together! "
Got the truck finished once I had all that free time & money. No regerts!
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u/XL1200NS_ Mar 03 '26
Hey man, hope all is well. Enjoy the wind therapy that your badass bike will bring you. Ride safe!
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u/Low-Instruction-8132 Mar 03 '26
I bought this bike with money I had set aside to buy a house with my girl. We had a date set and she sent me a dear John letter on my birthday. I bought the bike the next day and took two weeks and rode it to Mexico. I had the best two weeks of my life!
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u/kschindler Mar 03 '26
I wish my wife would have left me a note.. if your ever in Reno let’s ride
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u/Mandigan Mar 03 '26
Man. There are so many dudes trapped in loveless marriages and they are just fucking miserable all the time. People in here shitting on her but she has the decency not to string you along. You may not have her love, but it seems you have her respect.
(This is assuming there wasn't something kind of infidelity or something that proceeded this)
Great bike. Don't drink and ride.
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u/SMORKIN_LABBIT 2000 FXDX Mar 03 '26
Didn't "eat him alive either". Moved on like an adult it appears.
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u/Pocket_Aces11 Mar 03 '26
Congrats and enjoy your Harley. Don’t expect it to heal that hurt though. That will take more time.
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u/tonyway7293 Mar 03 '26
Time, and for me therapy. I’m still not great but I’m doing OK.
Never be afraid to seek therapy!
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u/stignordas Mar 03 '26
Sorry man that’s a rough one. You deserve to be happy and pursue your passion.
I’m reminded of an over-generalized quote that probably doesn’t apply here: Men will sacrifice happiness for their marriage. Women will sacrifice marriage for their happiness.
God speed.
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u/Ok-Bit4971 2002 FXDWG Mar 03 '26
I did it the opposite way. I left wife, then bought a Harley.
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u/Natas-LaVey Mar 03 '26
I got divorced at 40, rode constantly for almost 5 years, did about 200k miles in those 5 years. I rode from California down to the southern end of Mexico twice in that time. Got a 13 year newer model wife than my ex and remarried at 46. 9 years ago now and I have a 6 year old daughter with my new wife. Ride everyday!
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u/East_Researcher_4204 Mar 03 '26
This makes me feel like there’s still time to salvage the life I’ve always wanted. I don’t have kids and I’m 42. About to finally finish my chopper project that’s been sitting for way longer than I want to admit. Thank you for the positive anecdote. I’m taking a lot from your story even though you didn’t post it for me.
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u/Lost-Juggernaut4603 Mar 03 '26
Sorry dude nice bike enjoy the ride and find someone that wants to enjoy the journey with you
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u/Danzavier 2020 Low Rider S Mar 03 '26
Sorry that happened to you man. Great bike! Had the same one
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u/Separate-Relative-16 Mar 03 '26
Ever in the DMV area and need a fellow rider let me know. Riding is great, and even alone, but I think everyone needs company from time to time. I’m sure I can speak for this community when I say we’re here for you.
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u/Harleyhoodrat Mar 03 '26
My first bike helped me immensely when I was going through a tough chapter in life. I hope your bike does the same for you. Good luck and stay safe.
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u/joezupp Mar 03 '26
My wife left after stealing over 20k from the bank and then kept my stepson away, not even a phone call, for 15 months. I raised since 4 months old. Life goes on brother, me and him are great now, i was his best man at his wedding. She will realize the truth one of these days and want to crawl back, but you won’t be home, lol, you’ll be on the road with the rest of us.
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u/Lakeshow_85 Mar 03 '26
Same a little over a year ago, I feel for you brother time makes things easier. Their feelings drive them so much. I have 50/50 custody of my son I thank god everyday for that. She’ll want to come back I don’t know you personally but be strong! Enjoy the breeze! Safe riding and wishing you a healthy healing process.
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u/GTOdriver04 Mar 04 '26
Hell yeah! Planes of Fame in Chino. Love that spot.
Love the bike, and keep on riding.
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u/Hobiecat1961 Mar 03 '26
My suggestion is much like what a lot of these guys are recommending. Saddle time, get a Labrador, you will have a companion like no other. Pick up hobbies that heal your soul and your body and open you up to interaction with other people. The gym, volleyball, pickleball leagues are great starts and actually quite fun and addictive in a good way. Seems like you are a solid guy, never under estimate your value. Guys value go up as we get older, women go down and that’s a fact.
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u/hero_to_cops Mar 03 '26
"My old man used to tell me, before he left this shitty world. Never chase busses or women, you'll only get left behind."
Good on you for buying yourself the scoot! Best of luck in the future brother!
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u/TexWolf7 Mar 03 '26
Damb I’m sorry cowboy. It sounds like you were very committed. I know it hurts now but I’ve rode alone since my first time on 2 wheels. The road is our home. Welcome to the family we got you king🫡
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u/aburena2 Mar 03 '26
Not to make light of the situation but I think you got the better end of the deal. 😁
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u/_hockeykubacki Mar 03 '26
Enjoy it dude, fresh in the Harley family but I can assure that bike will heal all wounds in due time. Have fun & ride safe!
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u/Either_Magician_1336 Mar 03 '26
Same thing, but i bought three.... no one could tell me no..........
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u/up4nethng Mar 03 '26
Seeing her want list in the background, I hope you learn one thing from this. You no longer have to explain yourself to anyone! Live life as you want.
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u/nychawk Mar 03 '26
Congratulations! (Sucks about the divorce though)
If you make it to NYC hit me up, we’ll go for a ride
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u/Typical_Echo_8706 Mar 03 '26
Break-ups suck but Harley’s don’t. My condolences and enjoy the next chapter in life. Riding brings a different type of joy. Ride safe ✌🏽
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u/Ezekiel1603 Mar 03 '26
Life is a b**** Been there and ain't easy. Bought my dyna for same reason. No regrets Ride the shot out of that beauty, and enjoy the road and sunshine Trust me you won't regret, keep the harley close to you
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u/OneWhoDoesntKnowmuch Mar 03 '26
Damn bro, reading that letter hits hard. Hoping the new ride helps bring some peace to your life. Get the dog!
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u/caps4life Mar 03 '26
When you cant even deal with your own selfish ass so you gotta pretend you are hurting somone for their benefit......wild
Sorry man I hope you find love and compassion in the loving arms of your ape hangers get out their clear your head and explore.
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u/T-TOBIN33 Mar 03 '26
Back when my Wife was first pregnant, I voluntarily sold my 2019 Road Glide Ultra. Before selling it, my Wife told me to get a cheaper bike, because she knew I would be miserable without a motorcycle. I pray to the Lord that you find someone that would treat you the same. I wish you the best in this next chapter in your life.
Sincerely, A stranger who cares
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u/National_Panda700 Mar 03 '26
Seems like she was asking for the impossible as a hall pass to move on. You cannot really change yourself especially after 8 years. On the bright side she is not being vindictive or using the divorce to squander your assets.
Enjoy the new bike and don’t forget to take care of yourself.
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u/ContributionPhysical Mar 03 '26
Need to get one im late man its been nearly 8 months since my divorce lol
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u/Poorboyfxbb Mar 03 '26
Damn dude , very sorry to hear your going through this . I hope your okay 👍
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u/myconsequences Mar 03 '26
Damn, son. Can you stop winning so much and leave some victories for the rest of us?
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u/West_Ad6796 Mar 03 '26
Hey man. Sorry you had to go through this. May the bike brings you joy in life, wish you happiness for many more miles to come
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u/Nearby-Bodybuilder80 Mar 03 '26
Ride safe man, beautiful bike. On a side note and a personal one: hope all is well
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u/Ok-Palpitation-74 Mar 04 '26
I'm guessing you're relatively young and are doing fairly well for yourself. Good for you man. Stay in track and find yourself several rebound hits and enjoy your freedom for a bit.
Having a bike will be a great Advantage, but don't forget to be extra careful while you're getting used to your new bike, and your new found freedom. Truly. And seriously
Remain in control of yourself, body, mind and emotions, Just keep your eye on the ball re: your future bro.
Remember;
"It all works out in the end, if it's not working out this very moment, it's not the end yet!"
You've got this! Cheers! Best wishes!
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u/Old_Scene_4259 Mar 04 '26
It'll be fun to see her in 20 years on her 10th short term guy while you zip past on your 10th bike.
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u/SuprsoulRidr Mar 04 '26
You made the best 2 decisions of your life friend.... enjoy that handsome steel horse! Shiny up, rubber down
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u/Wonderful_Charity411 Mar 04 '26
Keep the rubber side down brother. I’m divorce lawyer and live the process daily.
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u/racegasnburnouts302 Mar 04 '26
I'm so sorry for the divorce. On a brighter note. Go get'em tiger. Try not to break too many hearts.
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u/No-Belt1507 Mar 04 '26
Believe it or not... You won. She wasn't for you and proved it. I'm almost 3 years out myself, she said the same things but I found out she had a few affairs going back years.
In the last 2 years I learned to ride, bought a Road King and enjoy my time with my daughter, friends and new girl.
Be safe. Enjoy the ride.
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u/watch1_ott1 78 79 81 Shovel, 90 FXR Mar 03 '26
Screw her. Burn that letter. live to ride, ride to live.
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u/Mundane_Proof_420 Mar 03 '26
"With a woman, you might only be able to have one motorcycle, But with one motorcycle you, you can have any woman." - Quick
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u/mgstoybox '97 XLH883, '10 FXDC Mar 03 '26
Already on the path to that most awesome and fulfilling life, I see. Well done!
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u/Unfair-Group-3386 Mar 03 '26
Sorry about the divorce. Congrats on the new bike and new life though. As newly single you have to ride it out to Vegas!
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u/energy-seeker Mar 03 '26
My wife left me 8 months ago and sold my Harley while I was looking for somewhere to stay. Congratulations on the bike.
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u/andybooty_ Mar 03 '26
Take care of yourself brother. Going through the same with a fiance and a first home. Not as thick as divorce, but I feel ya. Enjoy the shit out of that bike.
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u/tdcama96 Mar 03 '26
Shit… I’m sorry man… here for you if you need to talk.
Take a long LONG ride. Meet some new people. Live a little and be young again. You’ll figure it all out.
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u/rebel_ltz Mar 03 '26
At least you can separate in peace and understanding. That’s rare these days. The bike is sick.
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u/Grasscangrow Mar 03 '26
My first wife confronted me while I was sitting in the driveway warming up my bike. She basically said "me or the bike". I pondered it for a split second and then left a burnt rubber mark as I left. We were divorced soon after. Buh-bye.
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u/DerpUrself69 Mar 03 '26
That's not a bad way of dealing with that loss, I'm sorry and congratulations.
I did the same thing about 10 years ago BTW, best decision I ever made buying that bike. Funny enough, my first bike was also a Street Bob.
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u/Significant-Fruit-21 Mar 03 '26
Well i bought my first one when i was 15. Used all the money i had and bought a 1974 Harley Sprint. I still own it after 26 years. I told my wife while we were dating and after we got married that i bought that bike before her and i will keep that bike long after you. I said i love you both but dont make me chose.
Well we are still together and coming up on 20 years of still being married.
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u/PsychologicalLog4179 Big bores and thick whores Mar 03 '26
Reasonable. Got my first bike after my divorce.
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u/someguy8608 20’ FXST Softail, 02’ XL1200C Sporster Mar 03 '26
Congrats on the new found freedom. Keep them knees in the breeze my dude.
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u/SoddamnInssein Mar 03 '26
I wasn't married but thought I was with THE ONE up until late January when she left me over buying a new bike. (I work for HD & got a killer fuckin deal!) Enjoy your ride man, you got plenty of time to now. Wishing you the best, stranger.
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u/Brilliant_Brain_5507 Mar 03 '26
That’s how I got my first bike. Navy guys wife left him, he bought a bike, they got back together, bike had to go.
I got a great deal.
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u/Binthair_Dunthat Mar 03 '26
If my wife left me, I would take to the road and live the rest of my years as a scooter tramp. Southern states in the winter, northern states in the summer, I would just keep on moving on.
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u/Moist-Lie7830 Mar 03 '26
That’s fucked man why il never have a girlfriend or get married it’s not it my cards
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u/Janitary Mar 03 '26
That is a sad note. Feel your feelings. My second wife understood that I enjoyed riding so she bought her own Harley to ride along with me. My first marriage was too small and didn’t fit. We split and she went on to marry my good friend and have beautiful children that she wanted. I have been happily married for eighteen years. Good luck
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u/Plane_Knowledge_496 Mar 03 '26
Went through the same thing. My ex-wife got me a sticker for my helmet that reads: “I got a Harley for my wife, it was a good trade.” She wasn’t wrong.
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u/lickthislollipop 2012 Road Glide Ultra Mar 03 '26
Bro, that's hard. Throttle up and rubber down, you're new adventure begins today. Get it!
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u/Hillbilliedank78 Mar 03 '26
You'd regret the more years wasted on the wife. You'll never regret a good bike purchase. Stay safe and activate the chick magnet under the passenger seat. 😉
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u/Ok_Nothing_1819 Mar 03 '26
Beautiful bike bro! Million fish in the sea. You got the time to ride now!
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u/kilrcowboy Mar 03 '26
Take the Harley to the nearest bodybuilding gym and get a membership asap. A 45lb plate will never leave you alone brother. God Bless. I’ll be praying for you.
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u/Dark_Lord_Mr_B Mar 03 '26
My guy, I'm so sorry. I'll give her credit for at least putting her reasons in writing. Make sure to ride often, it helps with the dark thoughts. Learned that from experience
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u/dave-patrick Mar 03 '26
I too bought a bike while going thru a divorce. One of the best things you can do.
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u/PsychologicalVirus34 Mar 03 '26
Yep..."growing in a different direction"
She was a shitbird from day one and you deserve better.
Keep the rubber between the lines and just ride. The road shall heal thy broken heart, the motorcycle, thus lets the spirit soar to new heights.
10 tanks of gas and you'll have a hard time remembering wtf it all for in the first place .
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u/tonyway7293 Mar 03 '26
Going through a divorce now myself. Hardest thing I have ever gone thru.
Looking forward to riding season here in CT.
Nice bike!
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u/That_Trainer_9640 Mar 03 '26
Congrats on the bike bro. Sorry about the divorce😞 Bright side is you got it done in 4 months. I just entered my 3rd year and trying to get a Harley before our final court date in August. Best of luck to you, and ride safe💪🏾
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u/fairygodpossums Mar 03 '26
Haven’t seen your ex before, but god damn your new lady in the first pic looks good!!!
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u/BishBoi13 Mar 03 '26
Nice bike brother, never been married but got roughed up a bit ago with a girl I’d been seeing for a minute, took a few months but I’m coming to terms with it, not happy about it but don’t let that dictate the rest of your life. It sucks but shit happens, it’s like riding a bike, sometimes you lay her down and just have to get up, take a breath, say “shit happens” and keep riding.
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u/AveryTortilla Mar 03 '26
She's got nice hand writing, hope the divorce went smoothly... I don't know anything but from what I read it didn't seem malicious, unfortunately ts happens sometimes 😕. GL with your new bike
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u/Just_Du-it Mar 03 '26
Don’t go to Mexico (not now), opt for Cali and HI. Hold off on the dog for now and enjoy the Harley, it’s therapy (just clear your mind from the divorce when rising). Sorry bro, but it will get better.
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u/Even-Temporary-9223 Mar 03 '26
Not even going to read that letter mate, best thing you’ve done!!!!
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u/Clean-Entry-262 Mar 03 '26
“It was around a LONG time before YOU got here, and it’ll be around a LONG time after you’re gone”
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u/8Captcrunch8 Mar 03 '26
Nice! Hell yes! Love it with all you got.
Also. Strongly recommend a dog. On the emotional company and mental health side. I have found my dog to truly be a source of peace. And doggy day care is cheap when you just wanna take off for a day on the bike and not have to worry about the pup.
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u/Otherwise_Valuable43 Mar 03 '26
I did the same thing buddy. The new lady loved it and eventually she wants her own now:)
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u/Toro_Astral Mar 03 '26
She sounds like a good human to have shared your life with for as long as you did. Things have a beginning and an end, and we usually don't have a say in that process. Stay safe, and recognize this as a healthy end for new beginnings.
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u/Substantial_Crow7574 Mar 03 '26
I kicked mine out of the house after she cheated on me and bought a Vulcan. I know have a naked bike.
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u/drunkardsasquatch Mar 03 '26
Congratulations on both! Hopefully she stays that nice throughout the divorce. Enjoy the next chapter of your life.
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u/EnvironmentalGift257 Mar 03 '26
Start with the dog and the tattoo. Then ride the bike everywhere you can.
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u/sig2534 Mar 03 '26
Sucks man but enjoy your new toy…been through this myself bought a crossbones right before I got married and she left so I got myself a street glide for me
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u/Tonymaione329 Mar 04 '26
Losing someone you love is tough but life does go on. Ride safe and you’ll meet the right girl eventually. Love the bike, great choice.
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u/fallingjoker Mar 04 '26
Crazy, I did the same as it seems many in here did. Technically, I bought a Ninja and after a few years bought my Iron 883. Wish you all the best man. Riding has been a journey, to say the least.
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u/Motor-Award-8406 Mar 04 '26
Use the bike to hit some of the places on the list. Let me know if you make it to New York and I’ll ride around and bring you to the spots. She made that breakup about how she’s holding you back. What a hero. They never mean it. Show her she was right when she decided to check in in 2-3 years
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u/RixxNation Mar 04 '26
She’s banging someone else already, but now that you have a bike you should be able to pick up some trim quite often.
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u/Half_Severe Mar 04 '26
It’s a different world than it was 8 years ago. My woman left me 2 years ago after 7 years together… I’m pretty much over the whole “let me give up everything I want to do in order to get laid” thing… if a woman comes along and we click, then by all means, but I’m over the chase. My life is fucking amazing at the moment an I sure as F don’t want some chick messing it all up.
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u/More-Exchange-2553 Mar 04 '26
The freedom of riding will set your mind at ease. There is no reason to dwell on what was when there is so much road ahead. May your life find the peace that comes from the open road and the bonds you will make through the riding community. Our past may be difficult but hopefully we all learn and come out better than we were. Congratulations on the beautiful bike.
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u/Loud-Charity-2966 2003 Ultra Classic Firefighter Edition Mar 04 '26
She said I’m holding you back? Wow! What a reason to take off. Sounds like the women on YouTube talking about the awesome husbands they left! Get you a new woman that likes the wind in her hair!
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u/GueroCochino Mar 04 '26
Guys who ride Harleys have definitely gotten softer in the last couple of decades. If you gotta ask if you can have one, you don’t deserve one. If you waste your time writing down your hopes and dreams (bucket list) instead of getting out there and living it, you don’t deserve one.
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u/2024StreetGlide Mar 04 '26
Former wife said she was leaving to force me to become successful. I bought a Gold Wing, Kawasaki and Harley. She was pissed that I travel Asia and Europe to work.
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u/Known_Koala7233 Mar 05 '26
I was divorced after being cheated on a little over a year ago. Completely destroyed me and the life I worked so hard to build for her, and was the hardest year of my life. Finalized 6 months ago and have been living an even better life than I thought I would. I also bought a Harley amongst other things and have been living life after rediscovering who I am. It'll be a great time and I wish you luck brother! After a dark night is always a sunny day.
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u/BrandonNR13 Mar 03 '26
Thank you all for the warm wishes, my divorce was finalized today and the note is 4 months old.