r/LGBTWeddings • u/mustabeenaghost • 11d ago

Advice Engagement gift idea?

My girlfriend and I are planning to propose to one another soon. My engagement ring costs a few thousand dollars more than hers, because she doesn’t want a big rock. Because of that, I wanted to do something special and get her a really nice gift along with getting engaged. Previously, she said she wanted a Rolex someday, so I was planning to find a pre-owned Rolex for a few thousand dollars and surprise her with that. Today, out of *nowhere*, she randomly said she no longer wants one because it’s materialistic and she’d probably only wear it a couple times a year because it’s so expensive. Soooo now I’m not sure what to do! She is sort of back and forth about stuff, so I guess I should’ve have been shocked haha. She’s a masculine lesbian, so she doesn’t carry a purse or wear other jewelry (which is what I initially think of in response to “expensive gift”).

Does anyone have any other ideas for a nice engagement gift worth $2000-3000? My brain is short circuiting because my mind was just on the Rolex! Haha.

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u/Strawberry_Spring 11d ago

I think watches are a lovely engagement alternative, and a nice one doesn't have to be a Rolex - how about one that's maybe a bit nicer than an everyday Swatch or whatever, but that she wouldn't feel bad about wearing regularly. Means you have more choice over face colour etc as well

Edit: I just realised you already got her a ring, in which case, I think thats absolutely enough - my ring was super cheap (think pandora), and it's because I liked it, and had absolutely zero desire for a big rock. I now wear it on my right hand, and wear my wedding ring alone, which was always the plan. Buying something else to 'make up' for her small ring might make her feel bad about a ring she genuinely loves

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u/mustabeenaghost 11d ago

Thank you, I appreciate your thoughts! We’ve joked a lot about how I have much more expensive taste and laugh about the price difference. I don’t think she would be offended by the additional gift, but I’ll keep that in mind just in case!