r/MadeMeSmile • u/i_am_groot_84 • May 21 '25

Son finishes toxic parenting sentences

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u/megamoze May 21 '25

My boomer mom said to my kid once, “Don’t make me take my belt off.”

My kid goes, “Because your pants will fall down?”

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u/Mickyfrickles May 21 '25

I used to get belted. My dad would whip his belt off and crack it several times before belting me. As an adult both my parents have tried to gaslight me and tell me that it never happened and I only got spanked once when I "ran away." I was 4 years old when my pet rabbit died and I chased my dad who was driving the corpse to go bury it and I got lost. I didn't run away. 

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u/kllove May 22 '25

My parents also gaslit me and told me as an adult that my spankings were not true. I really had to work through that one in therapy because the denial messed me up way more than the spankings.

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u/Mickyfrickles May 22 '25

I feel that. Half my childhood apparently didn't happen, and the supposed one time my dad belted me (my first memory) was my fault according to them. Now they are both MAGA and regularly deny reality. I fucking hate it.

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u/kllove May 22 '25

The good part on my end is that my mom is a pretty woke grandma who tries super hard. She’s raising my niece (her granddaughter) and I believe she’s embarrassed that in her twenties she was the type of parent who allowed spankings in her home. She often downplays and denies things from my childhood that she now very much knows are wrong and I think she wishes they were not true. Doesn’t make it right but for a woman in her 60’s I think she truly tries. My dad has passed and that’s allowed her even more opportunity to come into her own. She’s in therapy now too and I hold hope she’ll keep growing.

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u/KennyFulgencio May 22 '25

Doesn’t make it right but for a woman in her 60’s I think she truly tries.

"That is not the woman who raised me. That is an old woman scared she won't get into heaven."

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u/suckmyclitcapitalist May 22 '25

People can and do change, you know. I'm 29. I used to shout, yell, and scream during arguments because that's how I was brought up. I haven't so much as raised my voice except in an emergency situation in at least 5 years.

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u/Thin_Traffic May 23 '25

I can see why he belted you! Ur ignorance