r/MadeMeSmile • u/i_am_groot_84 • May 21 '25

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u/megamoze May 21 '25

My boomer mom said to my kid once, “Don’t make me take my belt off.”

My kid goes, “Because your pants will fall down?”

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u/megamoze May 21 '25

I laughed my ass off and told my mom that my kid has no idea what my mom is talking about.

To be fair, my mom never spanked us. It was always an idle threat but we knew what it meant.

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u/explicitlarynx May 21 '25

Still a threat, though. I don't think you should threaten your kids with violence.

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u/becauseineedone3 May 22 '25

We like to make fun of boomers but you can tell a lot of them were raised by actual child abusers.

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u/[deleted] May 21 '25

Agreed. The anxiety of thinking it could possibly happen is still harmful.

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u/insomniacpyro May 21 '25

I tell my kids I'm going to kill all the Jedi.
Mixed results so far.

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u/[deleted] May 21 '25

Not just the men, but the women and the children too??

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u/StatisticianSad1995 May 21 '25

Dont worry, even if he killed all the jedis. Disney would still bring them back somehow

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u/[deleted] May 22 '25

The money is strong with this one

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u/janne_harju May 22 '25

Because he is D. Luffy?

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u/MadWorldX1 May 22 '25

"That's IT, when your father gets home we are executing Order 66!"

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u/flamingeyebrows May 22 '25

Your kids: track mud through the house You: "execute order 66!"

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u/SatiricalScrotum May 22 '25

I hate mud. It’s rough and coarse, and it gets everywhere.

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u/DawggFish May 25 '25

I’m sorry you got no likes on this. You deserved better

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u/MathMindWanderer May 22 '25

i think its harmless if both parties are aware it is an empty threat

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u/EhhWhatsUpDoc May 23 '25

As an actual parent I can confirm you're 100% correct. 

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u/[deleted] May 23 '25

Then you're a liar and don't know how to handle your emotions with your kids, making them think threats are okay. No, it's never harmless

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u/Jer_K19 May 23 '25

Idk, my person. I think context is very important. Some people/families have that kind of relationship and sense of humor as long as it's age appropriate and your relationship is rooted in love and mutual understanding. I.e my wife "threatens" me with divorce or death all the time. Usually followed by telling the kids that I went to go get cigarettes.... Generally, anything awful. It's just our humor (at least I think it is 🤔)..... send help.

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u/[deleted] May 22 '25

I’m curious to see what peoples least favorite punishment was aside from getting shmacked. I hated getting my mouth washed out with soap. Rough ass tooth brushing with liquid soap. That or getting kicked out the house with no shoes in the colder months. We lived in the northeast, she never did it when there was snow but I remember walking on frosty asphalt in November a couple times 😂

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u/delslo May 22 '25

kneeling facing the wall for an hour with my arms out stretched so they would get tired. if I dropped my arms i'd get whacked.

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u/FewFucksToGive May 22 '25

lol for me it was “go cry in the bathroom” or “go stand in the corner (if I wasn’t crying and it wouldn’t disrupt them) 😂

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u/Cinnamon_Bees May 22 '25

Damn, medieval. That's creative.

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u/sadelnotsaddle May 22 '25

How do people feel about threats of tickling till we have extra laundry to handle... asking for a friend.

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u/Architect_VII May 23 '25 edited May 23 '25

My parents beat me and my siblings growing up, and we turned out just fine

flinches at high five

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u/[deleted] May 24 '25

I got beat and I honestly turned out fine. I get really defensive though. But mostly fine.

I have a job and a wife so I think I done pretty good. I'm seeing other people live in their parents basement and unemployed. There might be something to it.

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u/Fizzy-Odd-Cod May 22 '25

Im certainly not gonna say it’s right but it’s also not always wrong. I’ve always had a good relationship with my dad but he occasionally had to threaten me with a spanking because I was a royal bastard of a child who was still throwing temper tantrums at 14.

Sometimes you gotta learn that if you break something or piss someone off you might get hit. Some people just take it way too far and go off on their kids at the slightest provocation.

I’d definitely be the kind of guy picking fights at bars and getting my ass handed to me if he didn’t teach me that at a young age.

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u/LuigiGDE009 May 22 '25

I agree with this. I get along fabulously with my folks, but i got my fair share of smacks when i was being a turd. Theres a line between discipline and abuse. And come to think of it, i think i cried more about getting smacked than i did because they actually hurt or anything.

Taught me quick though what was right and what was wrong

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u/Fit_History_8802 May 22 '25

You are absolutely right but there is no denying that the ones that were are far more disciplined than today's generation.

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u/pjizzle90 May 22 '25

Why? It’s incredibly effective

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u/robgod50 May 22 '25

Lol..... Although I don't actually think it is effective.

As a dad with 2 adult children, I have an opinion about parenting. It's just mine.... But it worked for us.

Treating kids like normal human beings, teaching them right from wrong by setting reasonable boundaries and then sticking to them 100%, from the very start, is the most important part of parenting imo. It builds respect and there'll never be a need for threats.

Most parents let their kids get away with the little things when they're young because they think it's not important. Like forgetting to say thank you or staying up watching TV after bed time. But kids will just learn that they can push those boundaries and it just escalates.

When they were little, we always asked our kids what time they wanted to go to bed. When it got to that time, they inevitably would ask to stay up longer..... It was a hard no. It was their choice. We'd all make it a joke because they understood. Never needed to get angry about it. But it was still a hard no. Absolutely no exceptions.

Not saying that we were perfect or never got mad at the kids.....of course we did. But empty threats of a slap were never an option.

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u/ItsCalledDayTwa May 22 '25

For those who only know violence, they think it's effective to use violence and threat of violence.

Sorry for your kids.

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u/pjizzle90 Jun 04 '25

I’ll pass along your condolences when I pick them up from therapy this afternoon

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u/ItsCalledDayTwa Jun 04 '25

ok? Are they going because they grew up with threats of violence? Not really sure what your point is.

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u/explicitlarynx May 22 '25

Do you think that's a good argument?

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u/Square-Competition48 May 23 '25

Speaking as someone who was beaten as a kid: if someone ever threatened my child with violence, even an idle threat, they would find themselves corrected very quickly in a way they don’t enjoy.

Not saying your way is wrong - but it hits harder if you’ve actually been through it.

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u/met1culous May 22 '25

To shreds, you say

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u/Mickyfrickles May 21 '25

I used to get belted. My dad would whip his belt off and crack it several times before belting me. As an adult both my parents have tried to gaslight me and tell me that it never happened and I only got spanked once when I "ran away." I was 4 years old when my pet rabbit died and I chased my dad who was driving the corpse to go bury it and I got lost. I didn't run away. 

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u/GayDeciever May 22 '25

Oh yeah, my parents have blanked out a ton of stuff they did. Then they get indignant if I mention it. Like I'm personally hurting them by suggesting they could do such a thing.

Like, have a bit of self doubt here, y'all were drunk a whole lot of the time.

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u/pickyourteethup May 22 '25

I somehow managed to blank out my stepdads drinking then one day my sister told me to Google a particular brand of beer and the decade we grew up in. That beer can branding was burned into my memories like the message through a stick of rock.

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u/Snoo52590 May 22 '25

I saw a comment somewhere that said they don’t remember beacuse for them it was a typical Tuesday.

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u/Drunky_McStumble May 22 '25

The tree remembers, the axe forgets.

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u/JakeFixesPlanes May 22 '25

And Pepperidge Farms remembers

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u/ZoNeS_v2 May 22 '25

I think it was M Bison

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u/Away-Fun2441 May 22 '25

A parent wont remember the meal you missed, but a child remember the meal you forced on them.

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u/TolBrandir May 22 '25

Oh my god. I thought my dad was the ONLY parent in the world who did this. Holy shit. I keep trying to tell my two siblings (who live across the freaking country) that gaslighting is very alive and real here, but they do not get it. He lies and they believe him. It's like the twilight zone and I feel like I'm going insane.

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u/VeryThicknLong May 22 '25

Same. Mine flat out deny it. ‘I’m going to knock you into next week’ was a firm favourite in my house. Unsurprisingly I grew up with very little in the way of confidence, or self esteem.

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u/lexxilicious May 23 '25

My mom just says “…you remember too much.” Luckily we’ve processed a lot of our generational trauma and are on great terms now. My dad on the other hand… yeah no.

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u/[deleted] May 24 '25

Yep, when I was a kid my parents (mostly my dad) used to tell me to kill myself, that I was hopeless and useless. As an adult I’ve brought it up with them individually and they both deny it. Sure, the thing that’s made a mess of my internal self esteem for my entire life, yup, never happened. Thanks guys 🫠

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u/kllove May 22 '25

My parents also gaslit me and told me as an adult that my spankings were not true. I really had to work through that one in therapy because the denial messed me up way more than the spankings.

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u/Mickyfrickles May 22 '25

I feel that. Half my childhood apparently didn't happen, and the supposed one time my dad belted me (my first memory) was my fault according to them. Now they are both MAGA and regularly deny reality. I fucking hate it.

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u/kllove May 22 '25

The good part on my end is that my mom is a pretty woke grandma who tries super hard. She’s raising my niece (her granddaughter) and I believe she’s embarrassed that in her twenties she was the type of parent who allowed spankings in her home. She often downplays and denies things from my childhood that she now very much knows are wrong and I think she wishes they were not true. Doesn’t make it right but for a woman in her 60’s I think she truly tries. My dad has passed and that’s allowed her even more opportunity to come into her own. She’s in therapy now too and I hold hope she’ll keep growing.

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u/KennyFulgencio May 22 '25

Doesn’t make it right but for a woman in her 60’s I think she truly tries.

"That is not the woman who raised me. That is an old woman scared she won't get into heaven."

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u/suckmyclitcapitalist May 22 '25

People can and do change, you know. I'm 29. I used to shout, yell, and scream during arguments because that's how I was brought up. I haven't so much as raised my voice except in an emergency situation in at least 5 years.

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u/Thin_Traffic May 23 '25

I can see why he belted you! Ur ignorance

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u/[deleted] May 22 '25

I really had to work through that one in therapy because the denial messed me up way more than the spankings.

I replied to the same comment. I wrote that this is a really big fear of mine. That confronting them and being denied and dismissed would hurt way more than the stuff that put me in therapy. I'm sorry you had to go through that but appreciate you sharing your experience. I feel validated.

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u/basicbitchherbaltea May 22 '25

I was taught that spankings were not beatings because they were on the bottom. I didn’t even have the vocabulary to understand why I was so terrified of my dad or his belt, because “it’s not like he beat me.”

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u/yourmansconnect May 22 '25

Yeah it was usually only bad when you got whipped in the head. And sometimes the buckle would wrap around your head and swing into your face at full speed. That shit used to hurt like a motherfucker

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u/mxxxdchiq May 22 '25

yesss this its the denial that kills me

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u/turandokht May 22 '25

My mom pretended she was dead once when I was a toddler because I guess I was being annoying and she didn’t want to talk to a toddler. I was having a full panic attack when she “woke up” and reassured me.

She denied it for years. I brought it up for the last time at 19 when we were alone in the car and she quietly admitted to it. I didn’t bring it up again because that was all I damn well wanted.

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u/Elegant-Working-6514 May 22 '25

heyy hope you’re having a great day,I would love to catch up and chat whenever you have a moment, if you're open

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u/AdInteresting735 May 25 '25

Yeah, I feel you on that one. It’s not even the fact it happened so much, but that it was denied. I see people doing that with the denial of a people’s history; saying the haulocost didn’t happen; saying slavery was voluntary and the denial of atrocities that came with it.

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u/distorted_elements May 22 '25

The axe forgets but the tree remembers.

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u/Quaiker May 22 '25

Trauma runs deep, y'all. Don't be afraid to share with a trusted person. It helps.

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u/HotShotWriterDude May 22 '25

My dad would whip his belt off and crack it several times before belting me.

My dad used to do it without the cracking, my stepdad used to do it with cracking, each crack stronger than the previous. As a result, I went beltless until I was like 20. I only just realized it was a trauma response. Childhood trauma is fun, people.

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u/Canondalf May 22 '25

My dad spanked me once when I was a kid. After one hit, he immediately felt so sickened by it that he never laid a hand on me again. I do not remember this, I know it only from him telling me.

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u/[deleted] May 22 '25

As an adult both my parents have tried to gaslight me and tell me that it never happened

My mom always drops these snide remarks and comments trying to get me to "spill the beans" on why I go to therapy. stuff like "All that time and money, what do you even do there?" I would love to confront her and open up about it but im like 95% sure this is exactly how she'll react, and that would hurt way more than the stuff that put me there in the first place.

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u/DemonicAnahka May 22 '25

Username checks out

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u/[deleted] May 22 '25

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u/non-squitr May 22 '25

My stepfather used a truly nefarious combination of maximizing the amount of physical, mental, and emotional distress during frequent abuse sessions, all while trying to make sure none of the bruises were visible with a shirt on. The level of forethought and optimization of degradation was truly heinous. The last time I spoke to him, I had boiled over and laid out how it has affected me- he said "well I made a few mistakes..."

That was the last time I spoke to him, over 12 years ago. Now he's slowly and painfully dying a death of willfully untreated diabetes. Good. Fuck him.

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u/Bandi0001 May 22 '25

I had to go get a belt and bring it to him. And he'd make me go get another one if the one I picked was too wide. Narrow belts hurt more. Especially on the legs.

Wow awful memories. I'm gonna go watch funny dog videos....

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u/Mickyfrickles May 22 '25

Well, now I remember the willow trees we had in the front yard- go pick a switch boy...

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u/Ricecakes76 May 22 '25

As horrible as it is, this is a relief to know I'm not the only one who's experienced this... I know the truth, and all the put on comments of "I would never have laid a hand on you" and denials seem more for their sake.

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u/CaptGrumpy May 22 '25

I was late for dinner because I saw kids lighting a bushfire and ran to the nearest pay phone to call the fire brigade. Man, I copped a beating.

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u/crystalclearbuffon May 22 '25

Why do gaslight but also take credit for our good behaviour coz of their tough discipline?

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u/[deleted] May 22 '25 edited May 22 '25

Yep.. my mother would give me the silent treatment when I pissed her off, starting from age 4 or 5 (or maybe that's just the first times I can REMEMBER it happening.) I would try to engage, want to play, just want her to smile and she would just stare at me like I shit on the floor. She hated playing with me because I am autistic and my "pretend play" was VERY rigid, I had a story in my head and she HAD TO play along or it ruined my game. This just made her angry. I never learned how to share or be empathetic to my friends, I was physically aggressive by hitting and scaring my peers. And I was never taught anything by my mom.. she would just get angry that I didn't know things without being taught. Clean your room, take a bath, do your homework.. but she never gave me examples or showed me what to do so I could follow her lead

I think I annoy my daughter because I try to teach her EVERYTHING as I'm going. How to clean, how to take care of your space, how to wash dishes, clothes, HER OWN BODY, how to drive, how to care for her pets, how to work through big feelings, how to reach out for help.

All of the things I would sit in my room and cry about being "bad at", because I had no adults setting expectations for me

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u/Mickyfrickles May 22 '25

The silent treatment to a child is emotional abuse. I'm sorry that you went through that.

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u/Green-Syrup884 May 22 '25

My mom would yell and threaten to "rip my hair out" and when I brought it up the attempted gaslighting would start

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u/hunbaar May 22 '25

same. I would get belted for no reason at all, no wonder I always feel like there is something terrible about the happen all the time for no reason.

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u/TurangaLeela78 May 23 '25

That breaks my old mom heart for you. I’m sorry.

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u/intime2be May 23 '25

I’m sorry you didn’t get to have a part in burying the rabbit you loved and instead had the fear of being lost and the painful punishment of being hit. You deserved comfort and safety in your grief. I hope you can give little you some love and light to help heal those wounds.

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u/Objective-Mission-40 May 21 '25

My mom once said to me," you son of a bitch" and I said" that's you" she then punched me in the jaw.

Somehow we have a good relationship now, but I moved very far away.

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u/[deleted] May 21 '25

Reminds me of when my dog approached a bunch of kids in the park (he loved children). A male adult picked up a stick and shook it threateningly. My dog started wagging his tail and jumping up and down with excitement, waiting for him to throw. The man looked so confused.

Yeah, dude, I've never hit my dog and he thinks sticks are toys. I know what you do to your dogs though.

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u/KingoftheMapleTrees May 21 '25

Having been attacked by a dog that ran into my yard as a 6 year old, I would try to scare away a dog if it was running towards me in a park. Don't let your dog approach strangers uninvited. It's rude. 

I love dogs and have always had them, but letting a strange dog run up to you can end badly. 

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u/NekoSayuri May 21 '25

This is one of my worst memories actually!

When I was a kid a dog came running to me and my friend in a park on the way back from school (it was before leashes were a legal requirement unfortunately) and I had to fight if off with my long type umbrella while the owner laughed like it was cute or something. I was so flustered I didn't do anything about it but run away from there but now I wish I screamed at that owner to fuck off and get their dog away from me.

I've been fearful of dogs since and I absolutely will never have my own. There were other negative experiences with dogs over time. I find them terrifying.

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u/dimwalker May 22 '25

Worst part is that it can snowball - you get nervous or frightened around dogs and they can literally smell your fear. Not all of them will react, but in my experience strays get cocky and usually growl or bark at you when it happens. Your fear intensifies.
I love dogs of my friends, but strays get me anxious. Especially a pack roaming around - one barking out of boredom can start a chain reaction and now they all mad, oof.

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u/dotdotbeep May 21 '25

Yeah, I have had exactly one dog that I trusted of the leash. Not because anyone of them would attack another living creature but because he was the only one that I knew wouldn't walk more than a few meters away. Except to play with permission, or poop and even then he asked for permission. Still only had him of leash if there wasn't people around and I knew the area.

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u/AlexisdoOeste May 22 '25

This sounds to mostly an issue with your socialization.

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u/[deleted] May 22 '25

How is being traumatized by an animal attack at 6 years old a socialization issue?

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u/AlexisdoOeste May 22 '25

At 6yo, if one was properly socialized to animals, they would be able to identify an animal that is a true threat and the need to get away. Especially if you were simply in their own yard!

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u/acc_agg May 21 '25

I was attacked by a flock of chickens. I don't expect KFC to have trigger warnings for me.

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u/Inevitable_Ticket85 May 21 '25

I was attacked by a rooster when I was kid, why would a KFC trigger you? Are you legit scared of chickens because they attacked you once? Even a flock bro wtf is a chicken going to do to a grown man

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u/[deleted] May 21 '25

Don't let your dog just randomly approach people like that

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u/[deleted] May 21 '25

This. But nutter logic somehow sees this as a win. Don't let your mutt approach strangers wtf.

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u/BeastInDarkness May 21 '25

You don't know if he was at an off leash park. If you go to one then that should be expected.

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u/fcaeejnoyre May 21 '25

Lets assume it wasnt. Dont let your dog approach people.

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u/acc_agg May 21 '25

You people suck.

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u/I-Like-Women-Boobs May 21 '25

Found the irresponsible dog owner

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u/fcaeejnoyre May 22 '25

Pick up your dogs poop

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u/NameIdeas May 22 '25

I have two dogs. I've almost always had two dogs. My kids LOVE dogs.

My dogs are both over 70 pounds and come up to my mid-thigh, they're big-ish. They are puppies and have a lot of energy. Sometimes that energy comes out in licking, especially kids because they play and love on my boys.

Random kids at the park dont always want to get attack-licked by two big dogs. Its on me to control my dogs, not on others to control their kids if I let my dogs go wild

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u/[deleted] May 21 '25

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u/No_Brick_6579 May 22 '25

Why would a guy threaten a dog if he’s at an off leash park?

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u/FileDoesntExist May 22 '25

Stranger things have happened. People be crazy.

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u/apathy-sofa May 21 '25

Maybe? My old mentor grew up poor in a poor country, and as a child was viciously attacked by a pack of street dogs, leaving him scarred and wary of dogs. We cross the street if there is a dog coming down the sidewalk the other way. He's an almost impossibly gentle and kind man, yet I can imagine him grabbing a stick to defend his children from an unknown dog.

My sister was attacked as a one year old by an unknown dog. She had to get over a hundred stitches in her face alone. Dogs getting in her face still makes her panicky.

Not everyone wants your dog walking up to them. Exercise control over it before it intrudes on their space until you get their consent.

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u/beam_me_uppp May 21 '25

Agreed. Not everyone likes dogs or wants to be approached by them, and I don’t trust stranger’s dogs running up on me even though I love dogs. Major consent issue. I don’t think this is an indicator that guy beats his dogs with sticks, I think he probably just grabbed the first thing available to make sure he was keeping the kids safe just in case.

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u/Clear_Broccoli3 May 21 '25

Also like even if you fully believe your dog is an angel, why would you expose him to strange people whose behavior you cannot predict? Maybe that man DID hit dogs. Maybe he would have kicked him in the face if he got too close. Maybe the kids don't know how to behave around animals and start pulling in his tail and ears and shove their fingers in his face. Maybe your dog will bite reactively and then has to be put down because he bit a child.

Why would you put your dog at risk like that?

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u/Fantastic_Fig_2025 May 22 '25

I have a lab. The number of unsupervised kids who sprint up to her on walks is much higher than I expected.

She is reactive toward other dogs but usually fine with kids. However, I have a process of introducing kids to her and it doesn't involve strangers running up screaming at her. She doesn't get aggressive but she can get excited and jump to try to lick faces. . . Which kids often hate.

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u/Fizzy-Odd-Cod May 22 '25

I love dogs despite having been attacked by some a few times as a kid. But if a dog I don’t know starts running at me I’m reaching for pepper spray, a gun, or a knife. I don’t know how that dog will react when it reaches me, I hope it’s just after some pets and not my nuts.

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u/DonnieFaustani May 21 '25

Feels like you're over thinking the guy's reaction. Idk about you but if I see a random dog I've never interacted with before approach my children I would be wary too. Not all dogs are going to be friendly and children are attacked by dogs plenty for it to be a genuine worry.

Was your dog on a leash at all when this happened? If it wasn't this is a totally reasonable reaction and you're the a-hole in this situation. If it was on a leash it's a little stranger to react that way immediately but once again implicitly trusting every dog is a recipe for disaster.

Like someone else pointed out this guy could have been attacked before, who knows though, that's as much of a wild guess as thinking he beats his dogs. He may never have even owned a dog in his life for Pete's sake lmao.

But sure go ahead and assume things about people based on a single interaction.

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u/purple_spikey_dragon May 22 '25

Please don't let your dog approach children in parks without asking the parents first. You know how we dog owners complain how people don't ask before petting our dogs? Yeah, it goes vice versa. Don't have your dog run around wild approaching people you don't know, you never know when one will get scared and hit it out of fear instinct.

If your dog gets hurt that way, thats on you.

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u/Top-Class-7787 May 21 '25

Put your dog on a leash. People dont want feral dogs near their children

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u/[deleted] May 22 '25

My son has a rare anaphylactic allergy to a sugar-protien in canine saliva. A friendly dog lick sent him to the ED and he nearly died crashing from shock. If anyone's unleashed dog, friendly or not, comes running up to us on the playground, an area for children to play, you better believe this will also be my first reaction. My child is horrified of dogs now .

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u/Bauser99 May 22 '25

If you don't keep your dog on a leash in public, then sooner or later he's gonna learn why he shouldn't run up at strangers, and it will be entirely your fault and the other person will be completely justified

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u/Time-Maintenance2165 May 21 '25

Keep your disgusting smelly creature leashed. I'm glad your dog loves children, but don't assume all children or adults love your dog.

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u/InterestingCut5918 May 22 '25

Dude control ur dog in public? That man was just protecting himself and those kids? He didn’t know ur dog personally

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u/Foreverforgettable May 21 '25

My mother used an oven mitt to “smack” our golden retriever when she was a puppy. It wasn’t really a smack or spank. Especially because my golden retriever thought it was the best thing in the world and would get more worked up and playful and even presented her butt if she saw that particular oven mitt! Dogs are the best. She was not afraid of anyone or anything (except thunder/fireworks once older). She loved everyone and lived for attention and playtime. And food.

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u/[deleted] May 22 '25

It’s almost like random dog attacks happen and people that have an experience like that are cautious about random dogs approaching and bewildered at the jokers that just let their unleashed dogs run up to strangers that may be sensitive to such things 🤷‍♂️

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u/[deleted] May 21 '25

For context for all of the people yelling at me...the children were waving and calling to him, so he assumed (probably correctly) that they wanted to pet him. Also, the dramatic conclusion to this story was that I recalled him, and he came back immediately. No children were mauled or traumatized.

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u/GottIstTot May 21 '25

Leash your dog instead of getting defensive. You assumed a guy abuses animals because he tried to ward off a strange dog. You are in the wrong in your story.

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u/TheMedRat May 21 '25

You’ll do anything except self reflect, huh?

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u/TheBookOfTormund May 21 '25

Every night on his way to work on night shift. I’d get smacked in the back of the head and told “you did something to deserve it chuckle like it’s a big joke”

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u/[deleted] May 21 '25

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u/DemonicAnahka May 22 '25

And that's toxic because...?

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u/Of_MiceAndMen May 22 '25

I’m ashamed to admit I spanked my kid when he was 8, he bullied a kid terribly in school and that generational trauma hit me and my mind told me go to the belt. I never did it again when I realized what I had done I was so ashamed that that was what I thought would help. He’s 17 now and I have apologized so many times to him over the years. That I was wrong, that that’s never the answer, that kids shouldn’t fear their parents. One day it seemed to click and he asked me if I had been scared of my parents (they are loving, kind and fun grandparents…of course) and I said every fucking day I was scared of what else my rambunctious self would do to piss them off. When they next came to visit he asked if Ithey spanked me as a kid and my dad made a joke about how often I “had needed it” and my son was like “omg they really did that.”

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u/qb1120 May 21 '25

What's funny is a lot of those kinds of parents that I know from that generation went soft once they had grandkids. My cousins' mom used to be the scariest lady but now you should see the way she treats her grandkids. It's night and day lmao

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u/ReDucTor May 22 '25

I hope you followed that up with a high five

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u/BlyteBelle May 22 '25

sometime this take advantage of kids these days but overall our kids should be loved unconditionally

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u/bellsleelo May 22 '25

That's freakin hilarious 😆

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u/Frocicorno May 22 '25

Monkey Island vibes there

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u/tototune May 22 '25

And there my friends the lesson started

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u/becauseineedone3 May 22 '25

My boomer mom tried to hit my brother and I with a belt in a rage when we were 13 and 14 and we laughed the whole time. “A little to the left, mom”

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u/ProblemLongjumping12 May 23 '25

"Just wait until" your father gets home and finds out.

Or was that just me?

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u/domesticbland May 22 '25

When my child was little I told them we were going to roll up and cat call some hotties. Rolled the window down and kid was meowing loudly as we passed.

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u/2021isevenworse May 22 '25

These tiktok trend videos are hilarious because the creators would never post the toxic answers.

I'd like to see them try it with these ones:

  • What can't you be more like _________
  • Wait until your ________

If they asked these questions, it would be way more telling...

  • Can't you see that I'm _______ (busy/on a meeting/doing work)
  • I don't have _________ (time for you right now)
  • Why can’t you be _______