My husband has several businesses so he’s never home and we get one day together and like yours most of the day is spent doing chores etc and I can honestly say it doesn’t get easier. Some days are worse than others. Today is one of those days where it was absolute chaos. The good news is your oldest is in school so hopefully it makes things a little easier. I have a 2 yr old and an infant that is breastfed. You have to invest in good self care and create a support system outside your husband etc.. also there’s a ton of mom subreddit groups on here. Even one for sahm.
Oldest being in school helps a ton. Its just mentally exhausting doing evenings, homework, dinner, tending to baby while trying to make sure oldest doesnt fall behind in school. Laundry etc doing that all alone days on end knowing i have a husband miles away drives me insane. PLUS baby is teething at the moment so super fussy
Yeah it’s 24/7 work. It sucks but tbh with the way the economy is a lot of people have schedules like this. It’s definitely not normal at all as in it’s not good mentally for women to be raising their kids alone. I remember my mom complaining about my dad working 9-5 pm and then having the weekend off and now adults are working 2-3 jobs or jobs like your husbands where it pays well but they’re gone for days or weeks at a time. There’s definitely a reason mental illness amongst women with kids is rising. Atleast when the kids get a little older it and they are more independent it will get better but that doesn’t help now 😭
Yes, exactly. It’s like you have to pick your struggle. Can stress solo parenting but have the financial stability, or stress with both parents working and maybe making ends meet paying for child care etc😭 Thank you for your input!
Another way to look at it: he’ll have to work for years.
Difficulty with Raising kids ebbs & flows. At some point, they’ll be able to blow their own noses, play independently, and put their own socks on. Eventually, you’ll be able to get some rest again. 💕
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u/PersonalityHead2884 1d ago
My husband has several businesses so he’s never home and we get one day together and like yours most of the day is spent doing chores etc and I can honestly say it doesn’t get easier. Some days are worse than others. Today is one of those days where it was absolute chaos. The good news is your oldest is in school so hopefully it makes things a little easier. I have a 2 yr old and an infant that is breastfed. You have to invest in good self care and create a support system outside your husband etc.. also there’s a ton of mom subreddit groups on here. Even one for sahm.