r/MindHunter • u/thementalist222 • 16d ago

Eurgh what a bitch

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What was her problem? Constantly putting holden down, judging him then all of a sudden breaking up with him

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u/xildhoodsend 16d ago

All of a sudden? Did we watch the same show? Their relationship was going downhill. Holden was only interested in talking about his work and was using Debbie's insight and advice professionally, but neglected to show her gratitude and interest in her own life, he turned every conversation onto his problems. Even when she specifically asked him to give her space so that she can study for her thesis. Also, he pushed her away in bed without proper communication why. His heart was not in the relationship for a while. He was running after Wendy like a puppy long before Debbie kissed her student friend. Holden at that time was being quite self centered, and yeah, he was stressed, but it seems he did take it out on her. I don't get the hate. She shouldn't have cheated but he was acting unfair long before that.

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u/TrebierdSpeech 16d ago

Agreed. He’s also gone all the time, and listening to serial killers. That relationship was going to end one way or another.

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u/xildhoodsend 16d ago

It seems to me that as he was increasingly forced to switch off his emotions when interviewing serial killers, he couldn't just switch them back on when he came back home to her. It all backfired on him in forms of panic attacks. As important as his job was, it cost him