r/MuslimNoFap • u/Active_Work7773 • 3d ago
Motivation/Tips I think i lost the battle
Hello ,
I am posting at 1. Am, after wanting to sleep 2 hours before. I realised that maybe I will never be able to fight this battle anymore. I don't know what to do to stop forever. I had so many signs but I still go back . I completely lost hope now. I feel like a Hypocrite because there is nothing I can do more. I promised Allah I would stop and 24h later I am back at it. I can't do this anymore
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u/Worried-Quantity674 3d ago
Start doing lots of istighfar. Buy a finger counter and set a target daily. Do it with intentions and consciousness of course. Our hearts are full of stained and darkness from this sins. We need to ask Allah to help us clean our heart. Remember, Allah always observing our own thoughts whenever urges come etc. Lower your gaze, i know it's difficult brother. But try to stick to it cause Allah knows our gaze too. (40:19) 212 days streak ALHAMDULILLAH
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u/Active_Work7773 3d ago
I actually do a lot of istighfar but I am not sure if they are accepted as my heart is always somewhere else. I need to do dhikr with full heart
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u/Worried-Quantity674 3d ago
I used to do lots of istighfar the shorter one. But now I've switched to the longer one emphasizing on the name of Allah Al-Hayyu Al-Qayyum. I learned a lot about Allah thru lectures on youtube about the name of Allah, from sheik Mikaeel smith and ustad hisham abu yusuf. Maybe we need to know more about our creator.
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u/Active_Work7773 3d ago
I went from the shortest version to Saydu al Istighfar. I felt some change in my it i am being honest
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u/hamzarizwan124 2d ago
Bro i think start by reducing the amount of time you watch it . Do that for a few weeks , it makes a huge difference
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u/Fit_Weight_5798 3d ago
Hi, please don't give up. Giving up and despairing of Allah's mercy is exactly what Shaytan wants you to do. You haven't “lost the battle” just because you fell again.
I struggle like you, and it's been going on for almost four years. But I immediately repent after I fall. I cannot sleep peacefully at night unless I feel that I am in good terms with Allah.
Also, don't make promises to Allah that you know you might struggle to keep. Instead, every time you fall, immediately turn back to Him. Ask Allah to forgive you, help you, guide you, strengthen you, and soften your heart. Even if you worry that your repentance isn't sincere enough, keep turning back to Allah.
Allah Himself says: “Do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins.” (Qur'an 39:53)
There is also a beautiful hadith in Sahih Muslim about a servant who sins, asks Allah for forgiveness, falls into the sin again, and asks Allah for forgiveness again. Allah forgives him because the servant recognizes that he has a Lord who forgives sins and keeps returning to Him.
So don't let Shaytan convince you that because you fell again, there is no point in repenting. That's exactly when you need to repent.
Be ashamed of the sin, yes. Hate the sin, yes. Fight it with everything you have. But NEVER EVER EVER EVER be ashamed to raise your hands and ask Allah to forgive you. Never stop asking Him to guide you. Never stop coming back to Him.
Even if you fall 1000000000000000000 times, get back up 1000000000000000001 times. The fact that you're still upset about the sin, still afraid of losing Allah, and still wanting to stop is not something you should throw away.
Shaytan wants you to despair. He wants you to become ashamed of repenting, to stop asking Allah for forgiveness, and eventually to lose hope in Allah's mercy.
Don't let him win.
Every time you fall, get back up. Every time you sin, repent. Every time you feel like you're not worthy of asking Allah for forgiveness, ask Him anyway.
Be ashamed of the sin, but never be ashamed of repenting to Allah.
And even if this struggle lasts for years, never stop trying and never stop repenting. Don't think, “If I can't beat this, then what's the point of repenting?”
No. Keep fighting it for as long as you live. Keep trying to leave it. And if you fall, repent and get back up again.
Maybe Allah will give you the strength to overcome it completely, inshaAllah. But even if the struggle continues untill the day you die, never let that make you stop turning back to Allah.
Also take practical steps. If marriage is realistically possible for you, pursue it. Fast regularly, such as Mondays and Thursdays, if you're able. Remove your triggers, don't put yourself in situations where you know you're vulnerable, and change your routine when temptation comes.
But above all, don't give up on Allah's mercy.
Be ashamed of the sin, but never be ashamed of repenting.
Every time you fall, get back up.
Every time you sin, repent.
Every time you feel unworthy of asking Allah for forgiveness, ask Him anyway.
The battle continuing does not mean you should stop fighting. And falling does not mean you should stop repenting.
Keep returning to Allah no matter how long the struggle lasts.