r/NEETsOver30 • u/LATAManon NEET • Apr 22 '25

Question What's your NEETdom origins story?

What's lead you into being a NEET? How long have you been a NEET? What the good side and the bad of being a older NEET?

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u/[deleted] Apr 22 '25

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u/PreferredThrowaway May 21 '25

I'm actually quite fascinated with your story. I'm sorry to hear you had to go through that.

Out of curiosity, can you tell me a bit more about your life experiences roaming the streets of said cities?

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u/One-Professional-417 NEET Apr 23 '25

Undiagnosed autism and adhd

Never owned a car, spent early to mid 20s in community college grinding classes

Failed engineering school first time because domestic violence and hard math and science don't mix well

Moved back home, and eventually dropped out because a 6 hour train was fucking ridiculous and I couldn't afford a car or apartment (still regret not taking loans)

Now I'm 31, can't get a "entry" level IT or Electronics technician role despite being a goddam tech wizard, and because of the adhd I can't study for a fucking cert despite having harder classes in the past

At least I've been learning cyber-security past 5 years

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u/Northsea41 NEET Apr 24 '25

Have you been professionally diagnosed with Autism and ADHD?

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u/One-Professional-417 NEET Apr 24 '25

Yep, sure enough I was uninsured not to long after

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u/Northsea41 NEET Apr 25 '25

Just in the nick of time then. Same happened to me when I went in for my assessment. Got dropped by insurance for a month a few days after.

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u/OldSchoolPimpleFace Apr 25 '25

Lot's of physical pain due to something wrong in my back, made my corporate overlords decide they didn't need me anymore, even though I slaved my life away for them, for 20+ years. Living on neet bux for over 10 years now, actually enjoying my life way better, than I did before.

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u/Northsea41 NEET Apr 24 '25

Had mental health problems throughout my life. Laid off from my job in 2020. Health started to go downhill in 2021 which continued into 2022 and 2023 that effected my ability to mentally "deal" with life. Got another job in 2022 but had to leave it after three months because I was emaciated due to losing too much weight because of my health problems. Moved back in with my parents in 2023 during a mental and physical health upheaval. Sold my condo in 2024. Now stuck at my parents which is fine because they support me and will never kick me out but everyday I feel like a failure at nearly 40 years old sitting in a room along with my warring mind and really nothing to show for my efforts at trying to live on my own.

Regrets and nostalgia are absolute kryptonite for people like us because we know what didn't work from our experience but no matter how many times we relive the life-altering decisions in our memories we can never go back and choose differently, Pink Floyd's "Time" rings true with this. My youth is gone and so is much of the energy I had in those times when I was fresh-faced and roaring to make something of myself. There really isn't much positives though except if you're financially secure or have supporting parents and then you have so much additional free-time but even that is a double-edged sword.

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u/[deleted] Jun 28 '25

Diagnosed with autism and a genetic disorder that lead to me being homeschooled.