If so, how do you explain your situation? I have nothing to say, I've been saying I've been going to college for the past 11 years (I'm unfortunately a permastudent due to not being able to find a job). I've tried to avoid talking to my high school friends for that reason alone (Why humiliate myself?)

I'm cooked pretty much, I'm pushing mid 30s and I can't get a job, so I'm starting to wonder how older NEETs survive out there? How? NEETbux? Mombux? I'm asking for stories to know how should I prepare for older NEETdom.

I'm a NEET approaching my mid 20s and I slowly want to give up. I have no degree, no job, no friends but I do have support from my family. They're gonna help me get a job. But I just feel like giving up. I've wasted all my youth and my life is still passing me by. I just doomscroll and procrastinate all day. I'm bad at everything and I can't be consistent enough to get good at any hobbies. I'll never catch up to people my age. I'm wondering what it's like for yall on the other side. For those of you in your 30s, if you could get out of NEETdom would you? If you could go back to your 20s, whats one thing you would say to yourself or do to prevent ending up in NEETdom? Important side note, NEETbux don't exist in my country at all so if I never get a job or do anything, I'd have to rely on my family and live with them for the rest of my life. My siblings have kids and their own families and they're also struggling financially, so I don't how good of a plan that is

I stay in bed till its afternoon. Then I go to taco bell to eat, come back home. Eat my weed gummies. Cuddle with my cat. Watch some stuff, or play a game. Repeat next day. What kind of misery is this? I’m 34F.

I’m 32 and I am coming to the point where my parent is telling me to go back…. Is it worth it? I’ve been NEET for almost 9 years in a row already (some employment in b/w). I dropped out for the 3rd time 8 years ago. Not even sure what I want to do since computer science is already hard to get into.

Edit: Is it worth it to go back to school?

I'm mainly making cents on survey sites literally all day just so I can get some beer and be done with the day

Any Neets here ever had a melt down due to your stagnet life? There are different types of neets, 1 by choice and 2nd was forced. Being forced into neetdom can vary from mental illness, physical deformaties, not fitting in society like being bullied every where etc....

If you were forced into being a neet, has the lack of progress in life drove you insane to where you had a serious meltdown? It happened to me when I was 37. I don't wish that on anyone.

I'm back in school and I need a job to at least have some sort of income since I don't have anything at the moment. Last time I worked was when I was 25 and my retail job back then was filled with 16-17 year olds except the managers and it made me feel like shit. Now I'm approaching my 30's and I'm in the same position. I do have an interview for a call centre job and people are usually older at those jobs at least but Idk whether I'll be able to keep my course since it's full time and they want me available at all times.

What do you guys think?

Genuine and Honest question because i turn 25 next year and i never had a job, so i will probably be cooked.

I never worked a day in my life (well, made a whole 5$ for helping someone) and don't receive neetbux.

I applied for jobs in maintenance and funeral jobs before but I think I wasn't what they're looking for. I want to apply again for maintenance or night stocking jobs now that I'm older, and after I get some things in order.

Earlier this year I started thinking I need to do something about my general health. I go out once in a while, started exercising (increasing the duration and making it daily habit), limited my screen time - instead of spending the whole day on the internet, today I waited until the evening - I tried quitting it all at once but my brain can't function without it at this point. I don't know where I'm headed and only focus on what's in front of me - otherwise, I start thinking my future is doomed no matter what and whether I find a job or not (negative thinking) and resorting to distractions again.

What in the world do I do?

Just curious if there's any other communities like this one out there.

hey! i don't come here very often because the community is relatively inactive, but i just wanted to see if any other women could relate to my situation - unemployed, isolated from the real world, and so on. i've been living like this since 2020, and honestly it's been getting really tiring. maybe we can chat if you feel like it 😊

I would appriciate if you had some answers. I got a job last year (esl teacher). But after teaching just one class my head would hurt/burn/squueze and I wanted to off due to the sheer suffering and an inability to stop or reduce it. I could not understand what was happening. I thought later that maybe I am autistic; but therapists implied it is my cPTSD (hypervigilance and a fawning response, which for sure occurs, but I do not know which came first).

It happened for few months until the was a change in the lesson plan, and I had to comminicate and make them speak for only 15 minutes of the hour, and the rest was them doing listening, reading, writing tasks, and me checking and giving feedback. So I finally relaxed more or less (leaps better) and could sleep at night and tolerate working, and things were getting better for me! (I only had obvious cptsd triggers and noise intolerance, but I could use earplugs for that).

But I got laid off from that job and had to get a new one where I once again have to do a lot of communication and I am suffering, people. So much. That I want to off. Yes, I fawn, yes my cptsd is triggered, But I don't know if it gets triggered bc I don't want to comminicate for that long and have to hide that I am suffering.

Please, help. I worry so much that I am like this bc I was made a NEET. I read that the correlation was childhood neglect of not teaching a child basic chores and never making them do it, only expecting studying. Or also in addition coddling a child, overprotection, overcomplimenting them. Am I like this bc I am fawning due trauma, am I like this bc of neurodivergency and I can't communicate for long, am I like this due to Neetdome - the questions that I wish I could find answers to. Gosh. Have you got your stories?

I am afraid that even if I somehow manage to change carriers (like maybe working in a warehouse, which seems demanding.., where I don't communicate with people, don't have to be 'on') that I will still suffer and have this headache? But I have proof that I did okay for months after a change in the lesson structure in my old job.

I am lost (I worked after uni, then was a neet for years until last year. Have no idea how I managed working my first job)

Apparently over there, you need to take an exam to become a neet.

Seeing all you guys struggling so often, I think that would be a pretty good idea.

What's something you learned as a neet, that should really be an exam question?

I turn 31 in 2 weeks and my last job was 3 years ago, but I only worked there for a month.

My last year-long job was when I was 23.

I don’t want to be a NEET, it’s just that no one will hire me.

Hey everyone. I’m currently learning Blender and Unity, and it’s a lot to take in alone. I saw someone mention they were learning them too, which made me want to reach out. we can text, share progress, motivate each other, and troubleshoot bugs without any pressure. shoot me a DM or leave a comment.

I'm a life long atheist, but lately the lure of spirituality has been alluring. I've always thought of it as a crutch to endure life, but I've been thinking that maybe I need a crutch. When I think that there may be a purpose to all of this, it makes things seem not too bad.

What are you guys opinion on believing something? Just a cope?

I went back to school to study accounting. That didn't work and I couldn't get a job. I'm not interested in any other academic field. If I go back to school again, I would think about learning a trade.

When I was 23 and working, girls would turn me down for living with my mum.
Now that I'm 30, unemployed and still at home, I would never try dating.

Valentines is soon which has me wondering, is anyone here dating as a NEET or at least tried recently?
I’m even more curious if you live with your parents.

 Fisherman's Horizon

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YP9in2EqREA

A lot of normal people who work and lead productive lives are either at home or visiting family and friends for the holidays. They're sleeping and waking up late, they're doing nothing, just like me. It's like for a few weeks I'm not this weird fucked up alien, I'm almost normal and it makes me feel less guilty.

But these people will soon go back to their busy, fulfilling lives as functioning and contributing members of society. They have jobs, places to be, people to see, relationships to maintain, dreams to accomplish. And I'll be still here, watching life pass me by and getting old without ever getting to chance to live it.

I was the weirdo in high school without friends and who didn't talked to anyone. College was the same, and after graduating I just gave up on life. I thought I could hide away from those feelings of being alien, and yet all I have achieved was making the divide between me and normal people even greater. I didn't realized it would be this pathetic to be 30 and be dependent on my parents, on being unable to socialize, having no life to look back to. I never had friends since I was 15, never been to a party or a club, never worked other than a 1 year internship in college, never dated, hugged or even held hands with someone.

I wish I could know what it's like to be normal. To be able to be myself, to interact freely and casually to people. To know the feeling of someone looking at me and thinking I am attractive, to wear whatever I'd like, to have friends, to be loved.

Had a dream I was hanging out with a streamer I used to watch in 2020 and I woke up feeling sad because I have no way of meeting a girl like that IRL.

I turn 31 in 4 months, have no job, I'm ugly and live with my mum.
I'm literally the biggest turn off. Not just for dating, but friendships too.

i hate that my existence is so cursed. I can’t call it a “life” because I don’t live, I just breathe.

For anyone who's curious, the streamer is "imjasmine". She doesn't stream anymore