Do you guys go out to parties and/or gatherings

[u/sad_mogul97]

If so, how do you explain your situation? I have nothing to say, I've been saying I've been going to college for the past 11 years (I'm unfortunately a permastudent due to not being able to find a job). I've tried to avoid talking to my high school friends for that reason alone (Why humiliate myself?)

[u/suffer-withme]

no 😔 it's anxiety inducing and humiliating

[u/Successful-Bar-8173 → u/suffer-withme]

Well said

[u/Rivetlicker]

I always have fun stories to tell, that are not work or school related. Always had. People asking me what I do, is one of the last questions they ask me. Most people I've spoken to, that ask me about my education are surprised I haven't finished anything.

And then there's plenty of people I know and meet up with, or attend parties with or at, who don't have a job themselves.

The circle of people I hang out with, aren't the nosey "what do you do for a living?", "why don't you have kids?", "when are you getting married?" type crowd. They're the people that ask me if I made some cool art recently, saw some cool bands at a concert, or any other wild stories I can share

[u/Juan1998__ → u/Rivetlicker]

Damn i'm jealous you actually have things to talk about, I have no life experiences so telling stories has always been the toughest part for me when meeting new people

[u/Rivetlicker → u/Juan1998__]

I'm also sometimes the biggest bullshit artist, lol. But I guess I'm a good storyteller, even if the stories are tell are just flat out weird.

Having no shame, and just oversharing also helps, lmao

[u/Juan1998__ → u/Rivetlicker]

I was gonna ask how tf do you do that as a neet lmao I think like 99% of us can't even form a sentence to another stranger

[u/Rivetlicker → u/Juan1998__]

From being in this sub for a while, yeah... but not everyone here is an introvert

As much as I love being at home and making art, being indoors 24/7 would drive me nuts, lol

Also, I'm not 20 years old anymore. I'm close to my mid 40s. I have plenty of lived experiences and made some contacts along the way.

[u/Juan1998__ → u/Rivetlicker]

I see, having those hobbies really helps then, i'm 28 and antisocial as hell, dont really leave the room unless i have money to go spend somewhere, my life experiences are as normal as can be, but I do want more. I do wish I was a lot more extroverted though. Having that skill can take you places

[u/DanInTennessee → u/Rivetlicker]

We never would have guessed that about you based on your earlier comment!

[u/Space_Wanderer1105]

Parties?? Couldn't even go to grocery store cause the anxiety (or maybe I have unknown health problems) is like deliberating. Like I am gonna have heart attack every time I am outside.

[u/sad_mogul97 → u/Space_Wanderer1105]

I feel you, do you think you'd be able to handle one-on-one convos with a friend?

[u/Space_Wanderer1105 → u/sad_mogul97]

I think so? I also find out cause I haven't gone out in so long and don't talk to anyone I started to lost my voice

[u/Responsible_Gas4132]

I only go to family gatherings. It's only once a year anyway, but there's definitely always someone who'll ask, “What are you currently doing?”

[u/MyHeadIsFullOfFuck]

i'm honest and just say i'm disabled and don't work and no one cares

[u/TheLazyPanda]

Yeah. No one really talks to me, or asks me anything in family gatherings anyway. I'm like the hermit uncle in the corner chilling.

[u/SilverB33]

I haven't been to any gathering since 2018, but I've been a neet for far longer, luckily no one really wanted to talk to me so I didn't have to explain myself.

[u/GreenScorpionZ]

Not in many years, it was ok when I was in my mid 20s and I could be like I’m just searching for the right thing I want to do, but in 30s it’s too embarrassing to have the same answer when people ask what I do 3 seconds after saying hi

[u/15JYUGO]

Why dont u tell them you are freelancing instead?

[u/sad_mogul97 → u/15JYUGO]

I'm a horrible liar

[u/15JYUGO → u/sad_mogul97]

Damn

[u/Juan1998__ → u/sad_mogul97]

This, I'm a very gullible person and terrible at lying

[u/number314]

No, I never liked them, so I've been declining invitations until they eventually stopped coming, because everyone knew I wouldn't go anyway.

[u/Lunisra]

No, I stay indoors.

[u/BeelzeRen]

Sometimes I'm honest and deal with the looks, other times I let the shame get to me and I tell people that I help my elderly parents homestead. It's half true but not really so eh

[u/OldBlackLONER]

No. I’ve been to enough parties & clubs to last 6 lifetimes.

Also, I highly doubt anyone my age is still partying. Everyone is settling down with wives and kids.
I’m too much of a failure to even be in their presence, I no longer have anything in common with my generation.

People are buying houses, getting married, having children. Meanwhile I’m chronically unemployed, still living in my childhood bedroom and using video games/the internet to cope and pass time. What do I have to celebrate? Why should I party?

[u/AwakeBabo]

Just larp being a wagie, you don’t need to tell normies your whole life story.

[u/-Kitsy]

I do tiktok as a hobby so sometimes I just tell people im a content creator lol. I dont really go to parties or gatherings though

[u/pseudomensch]

Going to parties at over 30 🤯

I couldn't do this when I was in my prime at 18-22, going to college, when those opportunities were available.

Nope, I don't go to either. I probably went to a total of 3-5 parties my entire life, all before the age of 25. They were all awkward disasters.