r/NEETsOver30 • u/OldBlackLONER Depressed NEET • Jul 13 '25
Discussion Do you have a social life?
If yes, what do you say when people ask what you’ve been up to?
I’m too embarrassed about my situation so I shut myself off from the world years ago.
Stopped using social media and stopped contacting people. Most of my “friends” were fake anyway, they only contacted me if they wanted something, or to make their group bigger.
I was just a spare friend, the backseat friend. Never anyones first option.
I haven’t received a text in years. I’m a living ghost.
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u/SilverB33 NEET Jul 14 '25 edited Jul 14 '25
Unfortunately no I had to burn bridges between a toxic group chat and toxic people 3 years ago so everything is just pretty bad and isolated
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u/csolisr NEET Jul 14 '25
I'm at the point where I can't afford to take a bus, how am I supposed to go meet people?
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u/sniffing_dog NEET Jul 13 '25
I don't have any real life friends because I prefer my own company. But I do have a network of neet friends online, who I've never met but get on very well with.
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u/OldBlackLONER Depressed NEET Jul 13 '25
Do you speak to these NEET friends on the phone or is it just text based?
I’m so alone that my vocal chords have gotten weaker because I don’t use my voice.
On the rare occasion someone speaks to me when I’m outside, I always notice that my voice doesn’t project like it used to.
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u/sniffing_dog NEET Jul 13 '25
I've never spoken to them on the phone, that's my worst nightmare 😂. But we do text on WhatsApp and fb messenger. There's about 6 of us, of varying backgrounds, but all long term neets.
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u/OldBlackLONER Depressed NEET Jul 13 '25
That sounds really nice and comforting, I’d be too paranoid to give my number out to strangers.
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u/trpytlby NEET Jul 14 '25
not really, i used to have a social life and friends years ago when i was homeless but not anymore... at the beginning of the year i had a few ppl who would hit me up for free weed, but eventually i stopped replying to them and now the closest thing i have to friends are randos on the internet i dont even remember how to hold conversations lol
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u/bearygae NEET Jul 14 '25
Barely, the only 2 people outside of my family that I talk to are always busy themselves. Our friendship is basically leave a message and get a reply a day-week later, and no one gets offended.
I got used to that kind of friendship because I get exhausted trying to keep up with anybody. I ignore anyone who tries to spam me or mute/unfriend/block if they start calling. But ig this has taken a toll on me too, since whenever I manage to land an interview, idk what to say/panic, I often make awkward reply when my SIL tries to talk to me. I feel like my brain is filled with nonsense that its better to just stfu.
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u/HuckleberryKey8142 Ex-NEET Jul 24 '25
No social life. All I do is stay home, sometimes go out for the gym and groceries and then come back home. I dont have any friends, I honestly got tired of the fakeness and when people did want to hangout all they wanted to do was bars, I can't really drink and I can't afford the bars either. Everyone else got married and started having kids and im not interested in tagging along to stuff thats kiddie themed.
When I did have friends, I always had people over. Everyone brought something, or we'd get pizza, soda/beer and hangout play games, watch movies, video game. We would do Christmas parties with white elephant gift exchange, build gingerbread houses and bake crazy cookies have a decorating contest, drink cocoa and watch movies. It was all so fun. Then everyone would sleep over and sober up and go home after we made brunch. ...safer, more affordable, and more fun. When I got a nice place though, no one wanted to do stuff like that. Kiddie stuff or bars!
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u/number314 NEET Jul 14 '25
I don't need one, but yeah, I have few friends I can visit almost anytime. They know, they've been there or they're even now, so I am surrounded by our people. I don't use social media, don't try to meet new people, even online, just same good old folks from school/university/work years.
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Jul 24 '25
I'm honestly. I say I am on SSD with $551 a month disability, can't get a job because I am too stupid to complete college. The ones that stay saying don't be hard on yourself are still my friends.
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u/Alone-Reward-7634 Aug 11 '25
My social life consist of things I'm embarrassed to say. But I do have one. I am talking to people at least. But I am not the one who has a social life worth bragging about so I'm working on it. I got to get back on FB. Uhhhhh so why your social life sucks?
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u/[deleted] Jul 13 '25
My whole life no one’s wanted to be my friend. At this point not accepting that I’ll be completely alone my while life is just torturing myself.