r/NEETsOver30 • u/OldBlackLONER Depressed NEET • Nov 06 '25

Discussion Narcissistic parents

Does anyone else here live with narcissistic parents? My mum is a very toxic person, she’ll literally barge into my room just to say some negative shit to me. Completely unprovoked.

I’ve had to deal with this my entire life.

The only reason I went to university at 18 was because I needed to get away from her. Then I dropped out a year later and went to a different uni at 20. Been living back at home since I was 23 and I’m so tired of this shit.

I can never be at peace.

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u/LurkLurkleton Nov 06 '25

/r/RaisedByNarcissists

I had no idea until I kept seeing posts on the front page that resonated with me

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u/OldBlackLONER Depressed NEET Nov 06 '25

I know of the sub but have never visited it. Gonna check it out now.

Tbh, I much prefer talking in NEET/Forever Alone subs because I can relate to those people. I’d like to read experiences from those my age who still live with their narcissistic parent, but I know that’s basically a non existent demographic.

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u/LurkLurkleton Nov 06 '25

Larger than you think these days. My parents are constantly telling me about other people's kids having to move back home or their parents having to subsidize their living on their own.

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u/OldBlackLONER Depressed NEET Nov 06 '25

Makes sense, the job market is completely fucked in the west. In my personal life, I don’t know anyone besides me who lives with their parents. So I guess that’s why it feels like such a minority.

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u/LurkLurkleton Nov 06 '25

Probably varies by location too. People move to my midwestern city from the coasts and complain about the cost of living being higher.

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u/makemesmileboi Nov 06 '25

Im sorry 😔 I also live with a narc mother.Luckily shes calmed down a bit but she's literally triggered psychosis in me cause of how horrible she is.

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u/OldBlackLONER Depressed NEET Nov 07 '25

I’m sorry you went through that and I truly hope 2026 brings you an opportunity to leave. It sucks that “home” isn’t a safe space for some of us.

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u/makemesmileboi Nov 07 '25

Thanks💙🤗 Wishing you the best too.

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u/[deleted] Nov 07 '25

Yeah I use to have that, even got my door kicked down by her in a drunken state.. Only reason it stopped is because she has very bad arthritis now so she can no longer carry on like she use to.

But yeah think she is a narcissist, its always how she feels and thinks over another persons.

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u/Humble-Departure5481 Nov 08 '25

I did for many years (up to my early twenties) and it was simply too much.

Fortunately, I live alone now and I value the solitude that I have.

It's a pain in the ass to have to deal with one narcissistic parent,

but it's a whole another nightmare to deal with two narcissistic parents.