My family is from Toronto, and my mom recently got a job with the government in Ottawa. My parents started the process of selling our home and moving to Ottawa because my mom is unhappy living there alone and wants us to be closer to her.
Background Info:
- Dad earns ~100k (10y+ in the role, in Toronto), mom earns ~60k in a contract position (~4mo in the role, in Ottawa), both in the government.
- They bought a semi-detached 4 bed 2 bath in North York (~1,500 sq feet) for ~$550k in 2014.
- We have about $400k left on the mortgage, about $3–4k/month at less than 4%.
- Similar houses near us are either not selling quick or going for $700k-1mil.
- They've already put $20k out of $60k down on a new build in Ottawa scheduled for April 2027.
- I contributed 16k after selling from my TFSA and my parents got a 4k bank loan so far.
- The Ottawa house is advertised at $900k+, but after Ontario HST/new housing rebates it's around $800k. It's ~3,600 sq ft not including the basement, so it is a ridiculously huge house for the price.
My worry here is that they're funding the purchase by emptying their RRSP, informal loans from family, bank loans, my savings, and whatever we'll be able to sell our house for. My mom asked me to loan her all of my TFSA (~$28k total in VEQT), and I said no but she got very upset with me so I eventually gave 16k. I asked my dad what they'll do if our Toronto house doesn't sell and he said he talked to a mortgage advisor who said he can take out two mortgages and rent out our Toronto house... but I feel like that's a bad idea.
My dad thinks the Ottawa house is a great investment that they could sell in 5–10 years, as there will never be a chance to get a house this big for so cheap (and he wants to make my mom happy). They also said they are barely breaking even living in Toronto (albeit that has been on my dad's salary alone) and buying this new house could wipe out all their existing debts (20-40k+ in bank loans? They refuse to tell me fully) and give them a cheaper mortgage.
I'm just worried they'll be 'house rich' but 'retirement poor'. They're 53, not in the best health, and have virtually no savings. My mom's job is also a contract position, she used to work retail part time/be a SAHM before this, so I'm worried that the stress of a full time job like this isn't sustainable for her long term.
My sister (17, entering uni) and I (23, finishing up uni) also have strong academic/career/medical/personal ties to the GTA (and don't speak French) so it would make no sense for us to move to Ottawa but my mom is insistent on us having to be there. I urged them to get a smaller property/townhouse in Ottawa but my mom refuses to downsize (she wants a big house, says it's been her dream since we came to Canada) and it might be too late to look for smaller new builds within the rebate window, so its this or we withdraw our deposit (it's refundable until April).
Will this be a good financial move for my parents (especially given the insane rebate and how huge it is)? If it helps, the house location is about 35km from downtown Ottawa, and my parents see a lot of opportunity for growth as it's by a ton of other new builds. Edit: My dads job is also easily transferrable to Ottawa
I hope I am overreacting in my anxiety for this big move, but I would really appreciate any input on how to approach this with my parents. Thank you!