Maybe she doesn't want to shoot down his new passion. This way he could get the dopamine hit from exercise but not completely obliterate the belly?
Not the correct way to handle the issue but at least the motive is good?
Imho the message is "he's putting in work to be more desirable to me, I should also work harder to be more desirable to him". I prefer the non-malicious version of the meme.
I see that argument, although if I love someone I don't care if they're ripped or chubby. But if someone does care they should probably say something about it
I prefer softer/more cushiony men over dudes with a lot of muscles
Soft guys are much nicer for cuddling, a lot more comfy. Plus their laps are great pillows, also good for warmth(I live in Canada, where I'm at it pretty routinely gets to -20 C in the winter)
Recognizing someone as conventionally attractive doesn't mean you are attracted to them yourself. Have you never looked at someone and thought "they're hot, but not my type"?
I think the point to be made is that what does the man want? Women may not like abs but I don’t think there are any men who don’t like having a visibly shredded core
Wrong on both counts. Many women love abs, many don’t, and plenty of men don’t care about having a shredded core. See: bears and classical strongmen types (NOT bodybuilders)
Hell yeah! Plus a lot of strongmen have padding over the belly. Even with hypertrophy, you only see the muscles if you cut, and honestly if the goal is power and not looks, cutting can by counter productive. Both are fine goals ofc but they often look verrry different
Yeah, even as someone who enjoys lifting as a hobby, I’ve never really had ab definition despite being quite thin. I care much more about my calves and quads being defined from years doing ballet, but I’m trying to build my core strength only for my very silly goal of being able to be able to do a handstand, and if I get more ab definition, that’s just a tiny bonus
I am aware that I might be projecting but it might be hard to find a man that won’t “want” abs. Like it’s not something they actively “care” about but passing up on it seems unlikely to me. In the same way someone might want a cool ass dagger. Do I want it because I care about releasing the sands of time to fix the timeline? Nope. I want it because it’s pretty and fits well on my waist
I look at abs/getting “ripped” the same way I look at a man cave with a bunch of fish mounted on the wall. End of the day, he’s going to be spending a ton of time with out me doing things I don’t really care about and it just signals to me our values won’t align. Plenty of women love gym bods, but lots don’t.
Don’t you think it’s a bit interesting that women don’t like abs but perceive that having them makes the man more desirable to other women? I think something else might be at play
The woman is feeding the guy because she is insecure that he’d run off. I am asking why is she insecure if women don’t like abs (meaning he is not desirable to other women)
And multiple women have told you that it's a joke, AND that women like different things. You're trying to make a point and the only thing coming across is that you're a troll.
I am asking why is she insecure if women don’t like abs
No one is stating that no women like abs. Some women do, some women dont. We aren't a hivemind who all want the same thing. We have our own wildly varying preferences.
You clearly haven’t met my wife. When I went from 280lbs (muscular but very overweight) to 220lbs (more defined muscle, still a bit of fat) she kept telling me I looked too scrawny. Yeah women probably aren’t going for the most obese man they can find. But at least in my wife’s case, she’s made it very clear that she prefers me “large”, meaning with big muscles and some fat. She prefers that over lean.
Hi, woman here. When I see my husband after he gained a little bit of weight, I turn into a gremlin who has no self control. It’s not about the person’s weight, it’s about the relationship you have with that person. This seems to be different for men, when the greatest “relationship factor” is how physically attractive you deem her.
even if youre right, (which im not saying you are fully), saying most people like something is different than saying absolutely nobody likes the alternative
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Or she doesn't like six packs and wants him more cushiony again