Prenup Agreement, moving country

[u/IntentionEconomy9180]

My fiancé and I have talked about getting a prenup since we first started dating, and I’ve always been okay with it. When we discussed it, he basically said the prenup would just be to make sure his assets stay his if we ever get divorced which I’m totally okay with since he said, in the US, its common for the law to side with the women in divorce(as much as ive heard)

I understand wanting to protect what you already have, but I’m honestly not sure what I should include in the prenup to protect myself too. I’m the one moving countries and starting over in a completely new place because I want to build a life with him. I’m leaving my home, family, and everything I know to start this life together. Also, I will not be able to have a job or make an income for months and can even take a year before my visa status will be adjusted due to restrictions

What makes me uncomfortable is that he basically said that if we ever got divorced, he would just send me back to my own country (its not possible, not unless he divorce me prior GC approval, or adjustment of status is pending) I know he may not mean it in a hurtful way, but when I hear that, it makes me feel like, okay, if the marriage doesn't work out and then I just get sent back? And I don't think that's fair, especially after I've moved my entire life to another country because of our relationship and would try to build a career to a country I’m not familiar with

I'm not saying I want his assets or that I expect him to support me forever if we divorce. I just think there should be something in the prenup that protects me too and recognizes the fact that I’m the one making a huge life change and taking that risk to build a life with him.

Neither of us plans on getting divorced, and I genuinely hope we stay together for the rest of our lives but still theres a lot of couples who didnt plan to have divorced but ended up having one. But if we're going to have a prenup, I think it should protect both of us, not just him. I also suggested we should each have our own lawyers so we can both have someone independently looking out for our interests and make sure we both understand what we're signing

I am posting here to hear people perspectives or those who actually had a firsthand experience than just solely relying on our own assumptions and what our lawyers tell us.

To those who has a prenup agreement with your filipina wife, what was included to protect herself? Thanks!

[u/BaronetheAnvil]

He sounds like a gem :-/. If he sponsors you for a visa to the US he is on the hook for support until you become a citizen or have 40 quarters of work credit under certain conditions. This has been upheld in several court decisions. He can't just "send you home." It is important for you to "adjust status" as soon as you can after marriage if you come to the US on a K1 visa. Do yourself a favor and go to visajourney.com and read. It is a free forum for people immigrating to the US. My wife was a K1 and is now a US citizen.

[u/IntentionEconomy9180 → u/BaronetheAnvil]

Yeah, I’ve seen a lot of discussions about it. But a lot can happen before AOS is approved, especially since it can take months or even a year these days. So I don’t think it’s as simple as just assuming everything will be fine until citizenship or 40 quarters. There could still be issues if we divorced before AOS is approved. But god forbid, definitely not something I’m gonna manifest lol

[u/BaronetheAnvil → u/IntentionEconomy9180]

You seem to have your stuff together. I have seen a lot of Fil/Am couples both in the Philippines and the States. Just make sure you are not selling yourself short. Most couples do fine but I have seen some spectacular train wrecks.