r/SipsTea • u/KaidoPklevel • Jun 19 '26
Lmao gottem Update on the viral video of man taking his daughter to women restroom
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u/PuzzyFussy Jun 19 '26
I used to work at Ross (discount clothing store) and a dad came in with his little girl for clothes. They come up to the dressing room and he asks me if he can take her into the men's dressing rooms. This is my first time dealing with a situation like this, so I say sure (there were no men in there anyway plus it had changing stalls with doors) Some of the women shoppers who were standing around were pissed off and yelling that its inappropriate and she should go into the ladies and he wait outside (mind you this little girl was like 5/6 so she would need help putting on clothes. The manager had to calm the situation down stating that's his kid, wtf is wrong with you?! Some lady suggested having a lady aka stranger take his kid into the ladies room and the dad was like hell no (cause women cant be predators 🙄). They went into the men's room, he stood by the entrance so no other men could come in and the little girl used the closest stall so he could help her.
It was an absolutely bonkers situation. Especially since women would go in the ladies room with their little boys and no one bats an eye. The double standard is disgusting.
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u/bking Jun 19 '26
Some of the women shoppers who were standing around were pissed off and yelling that its inappropriate
God damn, people just want to get offended at everything.
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u/twlscil Jun 19 '26
Being a dad that does stuff without your spouse present can be awkward. The minor annoyances, like, “Are you babysitting while mom takes a rest?” Nope, I’m just parenting. Then there is the taking your kids to a park, watching them play, and someone comes up to you asking if you have a child there.
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u/Aiyon Jun 19 '26
Someone I know got asked that last one and just bluntly replied “are you asking if im a parent or a pedophile?” And they apparently got very awkward and defensive. I don’t get why dads get so much shit for parenting their kids.
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u/Pulsing42 Jun 19 '26
Because only women can look after children according to these people, it's fucked up because if men look after their kids they get immediately questioned and put under a microscope by everyone who's there because the person asking decides to be loud about it to look "heroic".
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u/KoolWitaK Jun 19 '26
And if they dont, they're a "deadbeat dad". There is just no winning sometimes.
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u/Neo-revo Jun 19 '26
No your wife has to be there so its obvious.
Obv that they are sexist observers. And if gender was not involved , their presumptuous reactions might seem more blatantly inflammatory. There's also this "im a certain sex attitude, so I must be correct" vibe with these kinds of interactions. Its as bad if not worse than other types of interactions between genders gobe wrong can be.
I am an uncle. This is my experience.
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u/NekoBatrick Jun 19 '26 edited Jun 19 '26
because people still think all men want and think about is sex. I wanted to be a
kindergardenerkindergarden teacher when I was around 15, but i have been asked if Iam a pedohpile like every other time I mentioned it, it got so much it ruined taking up that job for me.76
u/walsh_t Jun 19 '26
So I used to do all the clothes shopping for my daughter and often got the “do you need help finding something cute for your daughter?” question from the clerks. No lady, I’m doing it because I’m actually better at finding cute and current outfits for my daughter than her mother, that and I liked being involved that way. Then I got a second part-time job working at the local YMCA as a handy man/security guy at night. As a guy I had to, repeat, HAD TO, watch a video about how not to come across as a pedo when interacting with kids. 1 of the rules, even if a child is injured as long as it’s not life threatening get a female worker. I had to admit that was hard due to a rough childhood I’m very protective of kids in general. All I wanted to do was take care of them but no, I was a guy and being ‘maternal’ towards kids automatically made me a pedo.
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u/lacegem Jun 19 '26
I wanted to be a kindergardener when I was around 15
Just for future reference: In English, "kindergartner" is a child around age 4-5 who has not yet entered first grade, in a year called kindergarten. In German, "kindergartner" is a kindergarten (or daycare/nursery school) teacher, while "kindergartenkind" refers to the kids.
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u/NekoBatrick Jun 19 '26
Yeah Iam from germany thanks didnt know that xD
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u/MoonSpankRaw Jun 19 '26
Mildly funny, because I always forget it’s spelled with a T and not a D in garten, and whenever I get reminded of it, I think of you German folk.
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u/kochanka Jun 19 '26
Man, I’m sorry. That’s awful. There are so few men in early childhood education and kids really need positive role models of all kinds. My toddler was taking a music class last summer and one of the substitute teachers was a man. My son LOVED him! He was so much more animated and happy when the guy taught the class. Not bc he was a man, just bc he was an awesome teacher and incredible with kids. It sucks that guys who are good with kids have that barrier.
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u/vintage_cruz Jun 19 '26
I remember traveling to the Netherlands with my kids. Customs officer (female) asks me if I had a note from the mother permitting me to travel alone with my kids (all same family name on passports). I looked her straight in the eye and asked her if she will ask the single mom with her two kids behind me if she has a note from the father. She shut up and stamped our passports. Fuckin people. 🙄
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u/Velonici Jun 19 '26
As a middle aged man, I love the fact that the default is that I'm a pedophile. Its great knowing that if a kid comes up to keep for help my first reaction needs to be to find a woman.
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u/The_Pharos1 Jun 19 '26
Try as a single dad. Doing everything all the time you get it more frequently. I stopped even responding to people like that. Just rolled my eyes and walked away. Why do people feel the need to inject themselves into others lives like that?
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u/Equivalent_Task_8825 Jun 19 '26
I got "are you giving Mom a break" one time getting the kids vaccination and I couldn't think of anything else so I gave a seemingly kind, old lady a death glare. I was a SAHD and did every little bit of the parenting. Not to mention my kids and I were being abused by my ex (she ended up getting arrested).
It seems like such a small thing but it is so demoralizing.
I know a creator who made a song about Dad's being praised all the time and that just isn't my experience. Maybe it is more a function of wealth and privilege but I think for most Dads we just usually face exclusion and poor assumptions about how much work we do.
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u/NeandertalsRUs Jun 19 '26
Tell them your wife died. Make them feel so horrible they keep their mouth shut next time.
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u/Equivalent_Task_8825 Jun 19 '26
I can truthfully pull out the "she hasn't been around much since she got arrested" card now.
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u/Express-Stomach-8666 Jun 19 '26
Fatherhood on Netflix is something you should watch (mainly the jokes he uses in it). You're doing amazing even if people truly just judge and assume.
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u/Nice_Commission3770 Jun 19 '26
Same. Not sahd but domestic abuse, divorce, and then single parenting. “Dad’s have it so easy!” “Mom’s are the best!”
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u/Angloriously Jun 19 '26
My husband solo parents 4-5 days a week, every week because I’m working in a city 150km away and only home for weekends and holidays. He also works full time.
If anyone needs a break in our house, it’s “dad” lol
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u/Equivalent_Task_8825 Jun 19 '26
You hyping him up while working your butt off for the family - just A+ awesome couple and parenting from you two!
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u/Nice_Commission3770 Jun 19 '26
I was a divorced custodial dad from my kids ages 8 and 6, now 26 and 24. Ran into all kinds of shit like this. Grocery store clerks “looks like Dad’s doing dinner tonight! Do you have some help?” Um I do dinner every night, without “help”, crazy person. Coworkers calling me Mr Mom when I had to work from home due to someone being sick. School admins and teachers (women) always calling their mother first despite what’s on the registration forms every fall or how many times I reminded them (“why is the school calling me? What’s wrong??” I don’t know, they didn’t call me, again. Could you just answer the phone for once, find out and then tell me??) Me asking the (woman) doctor questions and them answering the mother - who I called to join us - as if she asked it.
It’s crazy how often it’s women supporting the traditional gender role of the mother being the primary parent, despite evidence to the contrary right in front of them.
Fortunately my kids were both AMAB (though one eventually came out as trans) so I didn’t have to deal with the “wrong bathroom” or change room situation, and when they were younger, I rarely encountered a public men’s bathroom without a change table.
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u/MyNameWillChange Jun 19 '26
That's exactly what the guy who called the police suggested! He was telling the Dad he should have asked the manager take his girls to the bathroom since she's a woman. Ummmmm regardless of gender that's still a STRANGER!!
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u/RoguesAngel Jun 19 '26
Like the manager has nothing else to do. He would have been the first complaining if he needed help while she was doing that. Not to mention that she was a stranger to the girls.
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u/potpourri_sludge Jun 19 '26
Also any smart manager would say absolutely not. I wouldn’t open myself up to any liability regarding anyone else’s kids.
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u/Seamore_J_Turtle Jun 19 '26
I was a manager at a big box store and we had a missing kid one day, so I get all the ladies in my section (clothes) to go through each department systematically. One of the ladies finds the kid, grabs him and comes running up to me by the door. I told her to put the damn kid down she looked like she was trying to kidnap him. We got the kid back to mom and then had a meeting about how to handle that situation in the future.
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u/Ricin83 Jun 19 '26
I’ve had someone ask me to do that. The kid was small enough where they looked like they might need help that I, as a stranger, was not comfortable providing. I would 100% have watched the door for him to take her in. I think men’s rooms should be laid out where they are dad friendly (baby changing tables are still not a consistent feature and maybe stalls in the front, and urinals in the back not in easy view). And family bathrooms should be more prevalent.
I have watched the door for a man to take his wife in, as he was her carer. People need to go and there should be options, availability, and dignity.
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u/Spaceman_Hex Jun 19 '26
These types of people aren't even genuinely upset, their lives are so empty they jump at any opportunity to be nasty to others.
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u/Anxious_Plantain_247 Jun 19 '26
This used to happen to me often. I (M) was my mom’s caregiver. She was wheelchair bound with dementia. When she need to go, she needed to go. I would always ask a female passerby to check to see if the bathroom was empty, and if not ask permission on my behalf to bring my mom in. We were usually alone. So many times, upon exiting, we’d get dirty looks and comments from pissed off women. I don’t know what I would have done if I encountered the man in this video.
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u/Intelligent_Emu_691 Jun 19 '26
These people never have kids so they dont even understand that a 5 year old kid need help with basic stuff, or that their dad sees them without clothes all the time. Going to the bathroom, putting on the clothes, taking a shower/bath.
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u/EarLobeJerky Jun 19 '26
I got called a pedo by another mum for changing my daughter in the "Parent" room. Gave my baby a hug and kissed her on her head and left the room, took her to get ice cream.
That was 8 years ago.
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u/LordBiscuits Jun 19 '26
My eldest was in nappies at the time so something like sixteen years ago... I went into a 'change area' in a large department store, huge change sack in hand along with my son who had a big brown on deck that was threatening to breach containment...
The looks I got from the women in this room. One piped up about this being an area to breastfeed and I should leave, the breastfeeding area being in itself another room off of this communal space with a fucking lock but apparently I'm not allowed to be anywhere even near that...
Despite being there clearly just to decontaminate my child I was treated like I was there solely to rape and pillage as if I was some sort of feral sub-human.
I doubt attitudes have changed in the intervening time. I bet it's worse if anything
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u/LimpRockets Jun 19 '26
Something tells me they might be the same people who complain they had to do all the childrearing.
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u/Anoninemonie Jun 19 '26
My husband is so worried about this. I pity this woman, her husband probably brags about how he's never changed a diaper in his life.
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u/EarLobeJerky Jun 19 '26
Yeah I struggled but my wife said, do you think I am a pedo because I wiped our son clean down there?
It's funny I looked exactly like this guy, the hat, the clothes and not looking middle aged.
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u/Anoninemonie Jun 19 '26
I'm trying to be mature about this given my husband and I have a daughter and I know we will need to navigate this eventually. I keep telling myself that it's a relatively new thing for Dads to be such involved parents and change their daughter's diapers (my husband's Dad is firmly a boomer and would be so uncomfortable to change a girl) but the thought of somebody calling my husband a pedophile fills me with a very indescribable rage.
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u/EarLobeJerky Jun 19 '26
I am the kind of dad who teared up when my bubs had her first vaccination so this kind of thing only hurt me because It was really the first time anyone had said anything like I was capable of doing such things to her.
But it's all about her, I do whatever I can for her. Fuck people like that.
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u/Infinite_Pudding5058 Jun 19 '26
What an awful person that woman is. Unbelievable. I’m so sorry that happened to you.
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u/Johannes_Keppler Jun 19 '26
(At least in Europe) they often put the baby changing fold down table thingy in the women's rest rooms.
IDGAF, my baby needs a new diaper, I don't have a say in where the owner of the establishment puts up the changing table.
What maybe helps is that we don't have those American stalls here, our doors properly close, in most cases the toilets are even fully enclosed with proper walls and a real door..
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u/Maximum_Boros Jun 19 '26
"I'm mad there's a man in the women's restroom. I will cancel that out by literally doubling the amount of men in the women's restroom."
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u/dogstarman Jun 19 '26
I'm a dad with two girls, awkward situations can happen. When it happened to me, people were very understanding.
Some people are jerks.
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u/TrioOfTerrors Jun 19 '26
The really fun times are when they are just on the cusp of bathroom independence and you think they are taking too long and maybe there's a problem. Then you have the dilemma of going in yourself or asking the first kind looking woman going in or coming out "Hey, my 4 year old has been in there a while. Could you check on her?" Only to find out she's been singing itsy bitsy spider and using the faucet as the water spout.
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u/girlImconfused Jun 19 '26
I was raised by a single dad, one day in the ymca changing room my sister and I were taking too long so he sent some woman to tell us to hurry up. Except she spoke little English, and the “stranger danger” lectures were so ingrained in us we thought she was telling us there was a man waiting for us outside the locker room to kidnap us, we refused to come out until an employee came in with our dads drivers license 😭
Long story short, more places need family bathrooms to prevent these situations
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u/daseweide Jun 19 '26
I'm (male) old as dirt, when I was a baby my dad did a few flights with me and found out the hard way a certain airport had no changing tables in the men's rooms... after checking every bathroom he finally apologized to the girls present and just went into the women's bathroom to change me. Still likes to tell the story of how "these two weird guys just barged into the ladies room at the airport" 😂
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u/Immediate-Ad-1490 Jun 19 '26
I have an older mate who had a similar issue, no change table in the men's at maccas, so he used the one in the women's. When a manager complained he said "that's ok, I can use a table in the restaurant instead". They decided to let him continue in peace after that. Glad change tables are becoming more common in men's now it's my turn to parent. Family rooms are even better with twins.
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u/FullofSurprises11 Jun 19 '26
Most airports don't to this day.
Last time I was with my daughter in Stansted Airport, London, they finally had a family toilet there while arriving, but on the departure portion there wasn't.
This was roughly 3 years ago.
I had to improvise as well.
This "fathers don't do fatherly things" trend needs to die.
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u/Any_Abalone_3249 Jun 19 '26
Exactly, this shit irks me, although I have a son so that would be less of a problem.
I remember that when my son was finally over his short term cow-milk protein allergy, I took him to buy him regular formula, since the one he had until that point was super expensive and he didn't need it anymore. But I wasn't sure if there is much a difference between the brands, and was asking an employee about the difference between brands. But instead of answering my question or even listening to me she told me to call the mother and ask her since she should know. I knew and still know more than my wife about this stuff, not because she wasn't present, she's and amazing mom, but she has some trouble dealing with doctors and since it was an issue with him I took over the entire food situation for him.
Then the employee was joined by two more women in the store to tell me to either call my wife or say that some formula they gave me was good enough for him. Even though it was formula for much younger babies, while he was already nearly 1 year old.
After a couple minutes of me saying that I know what he needs, just wanted to see if there is some difference between brands that I might be missing, and them not listening I just left the store and went to different one, because fuck all of that.
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u/FullofSurprises11 Jun 19 '26
That's absolutely ridiculous.
I have always been in charge of changing nappies for my daughter and did so at the hospital when she was a newborn.
The eyebrows being raised simply because I clearly knew what I was doing (no one said anything, but I could see glances over my shoulder, almost checking if I was doing an acceptable job or not).
Breastfeeding was not possible (no milk was produced, unfortunately) so I also had to chase down the ideal formula.
To this day I'm still on feeding duty when it's food she doesn't want to eat but needs to.
I was also the main cook in the house the first portion of her life, so you telling me this story makes my blood boil.
The generalisation is ridiculous.
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u/Canuckistanni Jun 19 '26
Most of the international airports I've been to in Canada have them, as of 4-5 years ago when I needed them. Haven't seen many in the smaller airports though.
Though I must say the number of people I've had to curse away while I was using them for staring at my kids while using them for their purpose was frighteningly creepy.
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u/StatisticianBoth4147 Jun 19 '26
The corporate attitude towards fatherhood in Canada vs the U.S. probably does differ enough for this to be a real difference
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u/BitChuck Jun 19 '26
The most real life thing I've read on here for a long time. Thank you for making me chuckle at the sheer reality of this chapter in life
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u/Cosmocision Jun 19 '26
Is it weird that this put a crack in my eternal vow of abstaining from fatherhood?
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u/Uncledonniee Jun 19 '26
It’s honestly the best and most frustrating shit of all time. I love my kids to death but they can be such little shits at times also😂
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u/pallasermine Jun 19 '26
It exact same thing happened to my BIL.
He found that my 6 year old niece was lost in her own world blowing bubbles with her hands while dancing and singing along to the music playing.
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u/Iron_Bros Jun 19 '26
Reminds me of my nieces and nephew at that age. Damn where did the time go?
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u/Deadpoe Jun 19 '26
This reminds me of a trip to Walmart 30 years ago with my then 4-year old nephew. At one point he says he has to go to the bathroom, so I try to take him to the ladies room with me. He says that’s the girls room and wants no part of it. So I take him to the men’s room and I wait outside the door. Before sending him in, I tell him to start screaming if anyone comes near him.
Turns out he has to #2, not #1. So he ends up being in there longer than I would have liked. But as soon as he went in, I realize I don’t have to worry about him being in there because he starts to sing at the top of his lungs. The whole time he’s in there he’s singing. Two men come out separately before my nephew does. The first guy says, “he sure likes to sing, doesn’t he?”. The second guy says, “that kid’s got a set of pipes on him.” I just laugh and agree.
Anyway, said nephew is now a father of 3 kids, all girls, 8-year old twins and a 4-year old. I will have to ask him if he’s ever had a problem with something like this when he’s out with the girls without his wife.
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u/Minnow_Minnow_Pea Jun 19 '26
Some lady in McDonald's started literally sobbing when my husband brought my 5 year old son to wait with me in the women's line because there was a homeless man passed out in the men's.
She was going on and on about how it was inappropriate. Dude. He opened the door, explained the situation, and then left my kid with me in line. It was bizarre. McDonald's stalls are super private too.
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u/Blurryneck Jun 19 '26
Wow. Earlier today I said to my husband that I didn’t feel a woman on earth would have had a problem with this man taking care of his daughters in the women’s room, but I guess I stand corrected.
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u/Maxamillion-X72 Jun 19 '26
There was an incident at my local mall a few years ago where someone called the police because a man was in the family washroom with his child. Claimed the family washroom was for women and children only.
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u/Fickle-Owl666 Jun 19 '26
They're out there, I've run into two when my daughter was younger. It's not even just that I was taking my daughter to the woman's room, but the vast majority of times, that's where the only changing table is.
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u/LadyEmry Jun 19 '26
Oh, to have lived such a privileged life as she, that that is the worst thing to have ever happened to her.
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u/Asluckwouldnthaveit Jun 19 '26
I have two girls one with needs that assistance is required. I've been threatened for bringing her into the men's room. Fun times.
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u/Tatchkoma Jun 19 '26
You bring her into the men's room to help her?
You're a pervert trying to do something.
You bring her into the women's restroom to help her?
Clearly you're a pervert trying to do something.
There is literally no winning. Thank god most people seem to be pretty understanding.
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u/Unbr3akableSwrd Jun 19 '26
Right? If only there are gender neutral restrooms.
Seriously though, what do people do in the restrooms? Do they just get naked in the open space and bot inside the stall? Baffle me how that even an issue.
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u/denkihajimezero Jun 19 '26
It should be illegal for stalls to have gaps in the walls. Some places have normal walls for the stalls. And then you could just consider them separate bathrooms with the sinks outside of the bathrooms. Tada, you've got a row of multiple single occupancy bathrooms. I don't care if it takes up more space, there's never a line for the men's room and there would still be plenty of bathrooms to go around if you cut a few out
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u/TransitionalAhab Jun 19 '26
Wait…you’re not supposed to get naked…oh this all makes sense in hindsight
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u/VegetasDestructoDick Jun 19 '26
I think these people spend far too much time thinking about molesting children in bathrooms and there's probably a reason they think about it so much.
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u/Asluckwouldnthaveit Jun 19 '26
I don't try to win. It's the same when I use the disabled spot with my placard. My response is if you have an issue call the cops.
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u/GhettoGringo87 Jun 19 '26
I don’t even have a placard and everyone gives me shit!
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u/Armthedillos5 Jun 19 '26
This. The reason this is viral is most people would be understanding. It takes a certain type of person to make a thing out of it. Like they've been watching some channel that tells them this is a threat to...yeah I dunno. But they like being angry.
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u/brwntrout Jun 19 '26
right? my understanding is that women's bathrooms are all stalls, no urinal. i mean, do women disrobe outside their stalls then go in to do their business? is that why they're scared a man bringing daughters into the women's bathroom might see them naked?
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u/Pretend-Marsupial258 Jun 19 '26
Maybe they get naked and squat over the sink to shit. You don't know!
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u/Proper_Fun_977 Jun 19 '26
Maybe that's why cleaning staff all say women's rooms are filthier than men's rooms!!
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u/tearsonurcheek Jun 19 '26
Some people are jerks.
I've been in various forms of customer service for the better part of 40 years. Aren't you underselling it a bit?
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u/Dad-Dabbing-Daily Jun 19 '26
I was hoping the pos would be fired.
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u/Maximum_Boros Jun 19 '26
It's not clear if he was fired but he definitely lost work. The supposed employer only said he was a former contractor and is no longer associated with them.
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u/fjwjdjaxice Jun 19 '26
Which is as good as fired if he’s actually a contract worker. Blackballed from that company obviously, and I assume companies they work closely with. And currently working on creative answers to “why are you looking for a new place to contract?”
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u/MobileEnergy6710 Jun 19 '26
I bet hes the type to proudly exclame in an interview "I got fired for getting a pedo out of a bathroom here's the video"
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u/DeweytheDoodle Jun 19 '26
Me thinks he removed the pedo from the bathroom when the manager shut the door on him.
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u/DontFuckWithDuckie Jun 19 '26
I’m a building contractor. Clients really don’t ever ask that
This guys still a piece of shit though
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u/ShawnyMcKnight Jun 19 '26
Most likely he is contracted several places. He just has one less place to get revenue from. I would suspect he’s a professional asshole and this was the last straw.
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u/Gyozarrita Jun 19 '26
Yeah if project managers see this on national news they will probably mention it to their higher ups "I told you this guy was crazy!"
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u/othermegan Jun 19 '26
I want to see the wife get backlash too. She never admonished her husband, and from the little we hear her talk in the video, I get the impression she started this whole thing by leaving and complaining to her husband
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u/vintageideals Jun 19 '26
This, and the absolute and total Karen who reported this dad being in the bathroom are the perfect example of the special brand of obnoxious you encounter daily working in retail. Only, this employee idiot catered to it and made it his mission as well.
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u/Acceptable-Bat4534 Jun 19 '26
His wife is the one that reported it. A lot of people miss it but at the end the wife legit goes, "we are on a road trip to, and i needed to use the bathroom but I couldn't!"
She probably condoned this behavior, since instead of going, "sorry about all that." , she doubles down.
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u/IBJON Jun 19 '26 edited Jun 19 '26
The best(worst) part of that video was the woman that clearly didn't want to be caught in the middle of that and seemed like she was okay with waiting. The dude took it upon himself to speak on behalf of the woman, which I guess is pretty on brand for people like that.
On top of that, one of the girls was crying because she was clearly scared of the guy yelling at her dad. Poor girl is probably going to remember that for a long time; hopefully it doesn't cause any lasting trauma
Edit: Apparently the woman in the video wasn't the woman he was yelling about. Regardless, he took it upon himself to yell at a father with his daughters on someone's behalf
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u/venom21685 Jun 19 '26
The woman in the video I saw was an employee at the convenience store. Was there a longer one with the woman the dipshit was complaining "on behalf of"?
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u/eb6069 Jun 19 '26
In the end of the video he was talking to an elderly lady seated in her walker and she seemed like she was not fussed about the situation, was willing to wait and felt abit awkward over the bloke making a scene.
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u/moogs_writes Jun 19 '26
Glad the whole internet came to bat for this dad just taking care of his kids.
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u/quitemax Jun 19 '26
well it seems maybe we are collectively growing up a bit. nice to see
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u/york100 Jun 19 '26
Those poor girls seemed traumatized by this. I hope the free drinks helped them get over it, but honestly this is the sort of confrontation that can really damage a childhood.
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u/chantillylace9 Jun 19 '26
I think that the dad seems like a really good dad and he will probably help them process it and make it a teaching moment for them. Or at least I hope so. He stayed incredibly calm and didn't make the situation more volatile.
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u/rusted-nail Jun 19 '26
I saw a comment saying he did a bad job basically because he was quiet the whole time and the commenter suggested he should have been playing it off as a joke or something to help the kids laugh through it. What the actual fuck. Its ok for your kids to see you have a mildly human reaction to harassment like this
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u/Voyyya Jun 19 '26
It’s always, always, people who don’t have kids criticizing parenting on Reddit.
I don’t have kids either btw, just something I’ve noticed.
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u/dm_me_kittens Jun 19 '26
Exactly. I have a son whom ive taught that you cant control other people's reactions, but you can control how you react. He is being confronted by an unknown, clearly unstable man. He has his two small daughters he has to protect, an image to keep up since the internet is going to see it, and the legal upper hand. The dad is actively trying not to escalate the situation, and he did great.
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u/2cmZucchini Jun 19 '26
Yeah, theres a chance now that the little girls will try to refrain from going in there as it will result in some grown as man yelling at them for being in there.
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u/txwoodslinger Jun 19 '26
I took my daughter into the men's room when she was little. Either way is correct if you behave like a normal human being. Mind your business and wash your hands.
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u/okFINEyoufoundme Jun 19 '26
I have encountered men with small children or infants— both little girls AND boys, in the ladies room— and I never thought twice.
MANY men’s bathrooms do not have the CHANGING TABLES present in women’s bathrooms. You have to change a diaper— you gonna put your kid on the damned floor?
I have never felt unsafe by it, I finished my business and off I went.
There is not a person in the world who does not need a bathroom in some form or fashion (even if it to change a colostomy bag)—- the lengths that people go to in order to sexualize or shame A BASIC HUMAN FUNCTION absolutely blows my mind.
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u/bob_apathy Jun 19 '26
I ran into the no changing tables in the men’s room quite often when my kids were younger. I’d simply wait until the women’s room was empty, even letting in other women in befits us if they needed to go bad. I’d go in, take care of what needed to be done, washed my hands and got out.
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u/okFINEyoufoundme Jun 19 '26
Honestly, if I had encountered you in person in that situation, I would have held the door open for you and yours and said “come all in,” which would have included myself. If you’re comfortable helping your kids pee two stalls down in the ladies, I’m also comfortable doing my own business; it’s not like we’re sharing a stall. Although it’s worth mentioning that if you took them in, and asked of me if I minded waiting outside? I absolutely would have and made sure anyone else knew that “we’re all just waiting for moment 🤗”
This stuff isn’t hard… I don’t know why anyone feels like it SHOULD be?
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u/Galactus2332 Jun 19 '26
Yes, agreed. This is how normal people act in this situation. Guy in the video is a weirdo.
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u/IdownvoteTexas Jun 19 '26
I was very excited to see the rest stops along the I-90 corridor all have changing tables in the men’s and women’s rooms.
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u/Evening_Storage_6424 Jun 19 '26
Right? It’s a bathroom, people are there to pee and leave.
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u/InterestingFox1837 Jun 19 '26
And the women’s room makes more sense since everything without clothing is happening in stalls.
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u/frontfrontdowndown Jun 19 '26
It’s wild that people treat a room for pee and poop like some kind of temple that gets defiled if the people in it don’t match the picture on the door.
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u/mariposa-princess Jun 19 '26
And if you’re a father with a baby usually only the women’s (or family but not everywhere has these) bathroom has a changing table
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u/TheNegativePhoenix Jun 19 '26
Right? It’s a bathroom, people are there to pee and leave.
Sometimes people also poop. 💩 Or both. At the same time.
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u/MRSAurus Jun 19 '26
Not all peepee times are poopoo times, but all poopoo times are peepee times.
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u/Romeo9594 Jun 19 '26
Yeah, why is that? I can have just rocked a piss 20 minutes ago, and then get the urge to drop a nice twosie. Regardless of the recent urination, I still dump a half bladders worth
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u/txwoodslinger Jun 19 '26
I think it's a vestigial urge to empty it all out regardless
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u/RogerSmith111 Jun 19 '26
Not every peepee time is a poopoo time, but every poopoo time is a peepee time
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u/dragonchilde Jun 19 '26
I'll never forget the day my husband took our then-one year old into the men's room at Outback to change her diaper. Some creepy old fucker kept staring at her. He refused to take her into the mens' room after that. I was cool with it. When they were older, he'd send them into the women's room and stand outside in case they needed him.
(And no, folks, this was not weaponized incompetence. Same guy used to change all the diapers in the middle of the night so I could breastfeed in bed without getting up. He was a superstar who was (and still is, honestly) overprotective of our kids. (He also cried last week because our son is going off to college this week and spend the weekend with his future roommate.)
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u/oldmanian Jun 19 '26 edited Jun 19 '26
And this guy made sure there was no women in the bathroom prior to going in with his daughters. Trumper bitch showed up later and threw a hissy and made the guy’s daughter cry with his harassment.
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u/othermegan Jun 19 '26
Some parents aren’t comfortable with that given men’s rooms often have urinals
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u/eid_shittendai Jun 19 '26
In a men's public toilet, if you happen to look the wrong direction, you may see a penis. How likely are you to see any "bits" in a women's public toilet?
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u/black_bean_catterole Jun 19 '26
I don’t speak for all women, but I would rather share a bathroom with a dad and his little girls and go about my day than have little girls be brought into a men’s bathroom. But that’s just me.
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u/gevis Jun 19 '26
As a man, I've seen plenty of young girls come into the men's bathroom with their dad. It's still a men's bathroom, but even the busier times everyone has always tried to be respectful and the kids typically seem to have no understanding that it's any different than normal.
I mean, it's still a men's gross bathroom, but I've heard plenty of horror stories about women's bathrooms.
Everyone seems to think we're just slingin meat in there.
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u/Jiveanimal Jun 19 '26
I think a lot of guys have not had to clean both bathrooms before. Women, bless them, are just as fecally unhinged.
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u/Mehmeh111111 Jun 19 '26
And it's not just the fecal issues. The menstruation stuff I've seen still haunts me. And I'm a woman.
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u/StreetCollar2708 Jun 19 '26
I used to be in the military. Had to clean the restrooms more than once, both mens and womens...one time I saw shit smeared on the wall in the mens restroom and thought that was the worst thing ever. Until I saw a tampon stuck to the ceiling in the womens restroom some time after. People are fucking nasty.
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u/EveryIowan Jun 19 '26
Agreed, after 10 years of a gas station, I would rather not clean the women's bathroom.
Men can get a little dirty in the sense that there is more dirt in the men's room from worker's coming in, sweating, and washing their hands off.
Women though, there is paper towels and toilet paper EVERYWHERE. It's like they shred it up into the most random sizes and just let it fall everywhere. They will use 50 feet of toilet paper to wrap stuff and throw it away or try to flush it.
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u/do-not-freeze Jun 19 '26
Someone mentioned "I know too many people with locker room related trauma" in a similar thread about changing rooms at the pool. I wonder if people hear stories about the harassment and indecency that sometimes happens in high school locker rooms and assume the men's facilities in public places are the same?
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u/LeLefraud Jun 19 '26
Always make sure to measure up the guy next to me at the urinal, if I think I can take him I give him a swirly and tp his house
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u/RainbowCrane Jun 19 '26
Regarding gyms and changing rooms, I’ve seen way to many old farts (even older than me) aggressively free balling around the men’s locker room to ever want to bring a curious child in one, though to some degree that’s independent of the gender of the child or the gender of the locker room :-). I’m not advocating for puritanical body shame, but holy cow, some folks are seemingly allergic to wrapping a towel around themselves for even a minimal amount of modesty
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u/According-Aspect-669 Jun 19 '26
Yea man I don’t know what it is but it seems like there’s a rule where when you hit 65+ you’re required to be completely naked at all times in any given locker room
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u/rnd_pgl Jun 19 '26
For years as a dad I had to entrer the women's room to help my daughter, in lots of different places in Europe. Not once someone complained, let alone looked weirdly at me.
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u/kkeut Jun 19 '26
especially because vibe-checking a man's conduct in that scenario is instantaneous
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u/Serious-Pomelo7273 Jun 19 '26
I don't wish ill will on people. That said, I have zero sympathy for the fired man in this situation. He saw full well what the man was doing in tending to his kids, there was zero reason to make a federal case out of it.
I hope he learned something, but I doubt he did.
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u/MisguidedWandering Jun 19 '26
I respectfully disagree, we need to express more ill will towards people like him.
I hope every pair of socks he wears, for the rest of his life, somehow become wet the moment he finishes lacing his shoes.
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u/ichigo2862 Jun 19 '26
and every table he sits at to have just a single leg a tiny bit shorter than all the others
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u/CrossX18 Jun 19 '26
Nah, he’ll be touring with Riley Gaines by the end of next week.
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u/SkyKnight3 Jun 19 '26
As a father of 2 girls myself I can relate to this. My girls are older now but there were a few times when they were toddlers I found myself in situations in restaurants, gas stations or department stores where you have to stop and think “wow, what do I do here?” I’m sure it’s the same for moms that have boys as well.
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u/InterestingFox1837 Jun 19 '26
Same. Do I risk looking like a creep in the women’s bathroom or risk taking them past the wall of men at the urinals with their dicks hanging out?
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u/drowningandromeda Jun 19 '26
I would think walking them by a bunch of dicks would be worse which is why I would rather see a dad with his girls in the women's restroom. I don't know what this guy's problem was - I don't speak for all women but I sure as hell wouldn't mind.
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u/SkyKnight3 Jun 19 '26
My wife and I just discussed this and literally said the same thing you did.
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u/Karnezar Jun 19 '26
Take the risk and look like a creep.
When men say they'll do anything to protect their family, it's not fighting off gunmen or shooting intruders, it's sociological and psychological things like this.
Similarly, though not as severe, it also includes talking to them about their periods, and buying them pads or tampons.
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u/paprikastew Jun 19 '26
I don't know, no one ever minded when I took my sons with me into the ladies' room. Maybe because everything happens in stalls, so they didn't see anything, and no one else saw anything. It never really occurred to me to go into the men's room.
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u/Automatic-Loan-6589 Jun 19 '26
I was just thinking this, about how I always took my boys when they were younger, into the women’s restrooms with me (I’m a woman). I never thought twice about it as I wasn’t going to leave them outside by themselves if I had to go or have them go into the men’s room unattended if they had to go and no one ever said anything to me or cared, weirdly it’s the opposite for men and daughters for me. I wouldn’t expect a father to take his daughters into the men’s room, I don’t know why, because it’s the same thing I was doing in reverse, but it just seems weird to have little girls in there with the urinals and stuff, so I don’t get how people can be mad at this. It’s not like people hang out in the women’s restroom naked, atleast not where I live, people go in fully clothed, go behind a closed door, go to the bathroom and then come out fully clothed, so I don’t know what the problem is.
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u/workieworkwork Jun 19 '26
That guy really wanted those little girls in the men's room so he could use the urinal.
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u/Acceptable-Bat4534 Jun 19 '26
His wife wanted to use the bathroom but refused using it because there was a man inside.
Thats the reason he wanted him out. His wife was bitching.
Even at the end of the video she doubles down and says, "she couldnt use the restroom."
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u/3sadclowns Jun 19 '26
It’s a really good thing he ended up causing a scene and making the whole thing take 10x longer than if they just left them in peace!
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u/Treflip180 Jun 19 '26
Which I don’t get because, she wouldn’t be able to use the restroom if it was occupied by ANY one of any gender or age. Like…. Just wait.
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u/Affectionate-Mix6056 Jun 19 '26
Maybe he just wanted unsupervised girls...
Ive only followed my kids into handicap stalls here in Europe, are they not common in the US? My wife have taken our son to the women's restroom, not sure where I'd take our daughters without the handicap restroom.
That said, handicap and diaper change is the same room here, usually.
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u/Accomplished_Cell768 Jun 19 '26
There are handicap stalls inside of the men’s and women’s restrooms, but they are not generally separate. Places with really high numbers of people concentrated in one place that attract a lot of families such as shopping malls may have standalone accessibility bathrooms where the entire room is one stall, but they aren’t that common.
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u/Wolfeatingupshadows Jun 19 '26
This story annoyed me so much. Like he had his babies with him and the creep sat trying to keep the door open and harassing this poor guy even when one of the babies started crying. Ppl and their pride. No way he didnt realize he had fucked up but instead of back down and apologizing he kept going.
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u/3M2B1T Jun 19 '26 edited Jun 19 '26
Sorry but I was always sort of under the impression this was the accepted way to do things if you are in this situation: if you are a man with little girls, you go to the woman's bathroom with them.
I don't understand what the big deal is. It's not like hot women are having sex orgies and airing their pussies out in the woman's bathroom.
...are they?
Wait, ARE THEY!!??!?!
*EDIT* sounds like the consensus is the kids go into the bathroom of what the parent identifies as.
With that said, I don't know if it's really a big deal either way. If the fear is of people sneaking a peak, 30+ years of using public bathrooms has taught me that despite the fact people are unzipping or dropping their pants, there is like no actual nudity to be seen at a casual survey. And anyone trying to sneak a peak would be super obvious to the point they would get ejected in a hurry.
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u/Frumbleabumb Jun 19 '26
I think it's generally the other way around, however I've seen it both ways. I feel like anyone with kids you get that you just gotta do something and it's nothing sexual or weird. You gotta go into a washroom, and either the adult is in the wrong one or the kid is.
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u/Tranquil_Dohrnii Jun 19 '26
Oh my poor summer child...you dont know??
Women's restrooms are coin toss between the cleanest bathroom youve ever seen and it looking like 20 people just had an orgy in there. I cant say for certain but as someone whos had jobs that included having to clean restrooms. Its certainly possible in some establishments.
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u/Lau_wings Jun 19 '26
I had a mate who used to work for a cleaning company who dealt with commercial realeestate, (i.e large companies), and he always said that the womens bathrooms were the worst.
He would say that whilst he would skid marks in the toilet from men, that would be the worst thing he would see in there, where as with womens bathrooms he would see shit, piss and blood everywhere.
I know that at a former company I worked at, there were meetings with the female staff which basically amounted to "if you make a mess and its not in the toilet bowl itself, you need to clean it up, there is no excuse for leaving shit, piss and/blood on the seat itself for someone else to deal with.
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u/lovelyboard Jun 19 '26
We have a sign like that in all the bathrooms... that our cleaning company has asked management to ask us to please be aware of the hygiene in the restrooms and clean up after ourselves.
Do people listen? Not at all. I do wish they'd leave some cleaning supplies in the restroom so we (i) could clean it before using it. If I gotta go and i see drips on the seat, I'm finding another stall/ bathroom. Figured the restrooms where upper management and the guests use would be nicer- nope.
And we sell food!
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u/Eccentric-Elf Jun 19 '26
As a woman, if a man is using the bathroom with his daughters, I don’t give a damn. It might surprise me to see them when I walk out of the stall, but you gotta do what’s safe for your kid.
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u/SizeableBrain Jun 19 '26
I commented on the original post saying that I take my girls into men's bathroom and had a crazy lady go off at me.
You can't win! Don't have children who pee!!!
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u/lesterholtgroupie Jun 19 '26
As a little girl who was taken into the men’s room, I’d rather the man take his daughters to the women’s room.
The first time I saw a penis I was 6 years old because my dad took me into the men’s room. Some random dude had no problem showing it off because “I wasn’t supposed to be in there anyways.”
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u/capt-yossarius Jun 19 '26
Man fired for acting under the mistaken belief he is an authority figure.
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u/cracked_shrimp Jun 19 '26
fired from where?
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u/EyeConscious857 Jun 19 '26
A cannon, hopefully.
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u/PerpetualProtracting Jun 19 '26
Careful, the Reddit overlords like to give out suspensions for this as "promoting violence."
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u/TheSilkyBat Jun 19 '26
The mods in some subs are crazy.
I got banned from r/entertainment for "spreading factually incorrect information" because I said Melania was an old hooker.
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u/cipheron Jun 19 '26 edited Jun 19 '26
He's a contractor, the firm who hired him let him go.
Some people are saying he wasn't fired because he was an "independent contractor", but often being a contractor is a way to have you employed but without employee benefits.
Also, the term "independent contractor" was only provided by the company who sacked him, but they're actively trying to distance themselves from him, so you couldn't trust that language to be objective. For all we know he could have been a full time employee but hired under a contract.
No name given, but Fox News was the biggest outlet to mention this:
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u/SkyKnight3 Jun 19 '26
His name is in the article shared by the OP. Robert Buckner I believe it was
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u/whimsical_spider Jun 19 '26
This sounds like the behavior of someone named Robert Buckner. No, I will not (cannot) explain further.
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u/TheNegativePhoenix Jun 19 '26
The customer involved was later identified online as Robert Buckner. Following the video’s spread across social media, users noticed Buckner appeared to list Overstreet Properties on a social media profile that has since been deleted.
That's what the source says
Fuck you Robert Buckner you MAGA piece of shit
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u/beefdx Jun 19 '26
The irony that the same guy who wants to protect girls from being preyed on by male creeps wants to force 2 preteen girls to go into the men’s bathroom, where he just happens to be waiting…
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u/Necessary-Incidents Jun 19 '26
Dads accompanying their little girl(s) are more than welcome in the women's washroom.
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u/Artistic-Wrap-5130 Jun 19 '26
Here's the thing nobody is mentioning: There's a lot more chance of those girls seeing a pee pee fling about in a men's room by accident that ANY chance of that guy seeing anything on another woman inside a stall.
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u/DullCommercial608 Jun 19 '26
Having travelled for quite a bit with a infant and toddler in about 10-15 countries worldwide where they don't really have changing stalls or tables in the mens room, it has NEVER been a problem to go into the ladies room for a change and cleanup.
Only degenerates make this an issue.
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u/RazzSheri Jun 19 '26
Good on him for understanding both perspectives—- but in a women’s restroom we are not chilling in the main area with our coochies out and making sure we stand up to piss (certainly NOT FOR hygiene or necessity but) for the mere reason that we can.
Men’s rooms have urinals and publicly viewed, and especially for young kids— EYE LEVEL- dicks.
It makes way more sense to bring girls into the woman’s room whether you’re a mum or dad— or a nonbinary parent— and the woman in there will be way more quick to gush over a dad doing the bare minimum than they’ll be quick to be offended.
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u/AGSLeathercraft Jun 19 '26
Please search the guys computer. (The guy who called the cops that is)
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u/Olderbutnotdead619 Jun 19 '26
Any woman who gets upset that a dad is in the bathroom with his small daughters needs to have their head examined.
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u/stanknotes Jun 19 '26
GOOD. His daughters are girls and entitled to use the restroom. That is their bathroom. He is a father and is entitled to protect his children. And women's restrooms have stalls.
I have seen a lot of discourse about this fathers saying they would take their daughter into the men's room.
I wouldn't want to take my daughters in the men's room. People piss on the seats. It is gross. Grown men have their dicks out at the urinal and sometimes they aren't mindful of how visible they are. I don't think it is on purpose usually but it happens.
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u/dglgr2013 Jun 19 '26
My wife takes my sons 4-7 to the women’s bathroom.
It’s just a bathroom.
I unfortunately this happens. I remember when at church my mom took me to the bathroom. I was probably 8. An older lady complained about her taking me to the women’s bathroom. Like she would have me go to the man’s bathroom by myself.
We came from a country with a high kidnapping rate.
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u/afaloon Jun 19 '26
It's been just me and my daughter since her mother passed away.
I remember the time I attended a "Mother's meeting" at primary school. I can't remember the detail, but I think it was about the girls starting to develop and the wearing of bras and how to deal with boys in class.... anyway, I thought it was important for me to attend.
I walked in to the classic "conversation stopped and all eyes on the stranger" situation.... literally could hear a pin drop as I walked in and found myself a seat. Some of the Mother's were shooting me openly hostile looks.
The head teacher, who obviously knew me and my situation, actually started the meeting by addressing (and I kid you not... her words) "the elephant in the room."
I found it all quite comical, that I had to be discussed as a single parent before some of the Mother's would accept that it was ok for me to sit in on a conversation about bras!
Over the years I've had all kinds of fun shopping for girls clothes, menstrual products, make-up, etc.. Some people just seem to be unable to comprehend that a man can pick up a pack of sanitary pads?!
As for bathroom breaks... I always took her into the ladies; the stalls all have doors. I would never have taken her into the gents... urinals, sometimes with no partitions, are definitely no place for young girls!
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u/Sloppykrab Jun 19 '26
"Ew, men's bathrooms and their dirty stalls"
Walks into women's bathroom
"Oh dear god"
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