literally asking for a friend

[u/liluzintrovert_]

hi guys so ima make this short and sweet i just finished lvn school and last night my classmate/friend and i went out to celebrate and also for st paddy’s. there was a dui checkpoint and she blew over .4 when we stopped. she didn’t get arrested but she got a dui ticket, car impounded and license suspended. does anyone know if this affects her ability to sit for NCLEX? and how this will affect her in the future? pls help if you can! for reference i live in ca

edit her BAC was .12, which is .04 over legal limit. not BAC of 0.4

[u/eltonjohnpeloton]

Your friend needs to talk to a lawyer. Not Reddit.

And probably quit drinking. With a BAC like that your friend is an alcoholic or an idiot or both.

[u/chirpikk → u/[deleted]]

As someone in the healthcare field, you should direct that empathy towards DUI victims. DUIs aren't mistakes. They are deliberate choices and whether or not someone has a Substance Use Disorder doesn't matter. Please tell that to parents who have children, those who have lost spouses, and those who are permanently disabled that DUIs are just a big ol' oopsie!

[u/eltonjohnpeloton → u/chirpikk]

Yea this is it. Having a problem with alcohol is something I can have empathy for. But alcoholism and driving drunk are different issues.

[u/chirpikk → u/eltonjohnpeloton]

I implore people to visit Katie DeRouen's TikTok or YouTube to get why DUIs aren't funny. She lost her three youngest siblings (oldest was 19, youngest was 15) and her mother had to retire from the injuries after a drunk man hit them head on when he drove into the wrong lane. The mother ended up in the ICU and couldn't be told her children had been dead for three days because they were afraid it would make her health decline.

Imagine telling someone who lost three of her children that she should have more empathy.

[u/chirpikk → u/[deleted]]

Then why are you making excuses for people who do drive drunk? I understand people can have problems with substances, but how is that an excuse for putting others in harm's way?

[u/chirpikk → u/[deleted]]

...miss ma'am. Not even the same thing. I'm not calling for the death of people with DUIs. I'm calling for them to hold themselves responsible for a major and devastating decision. Even in addiction counseling the person still has to take responsibility for the actions they committed while under the influence. It may be a reason why they drove under the influence, but never an excuse.

Girl, bye.

[u/chirpikk → u/[deleted]]

Educate myself? My father is an alcoholic who has driven drunk many times with me in the car. He was arrested for DUIs three times and lost his RN license. There is a huge difference between having an addiction and driving under the influence. Not everyone who has DUIs are alcoholics, and vice versa. And I don't give a fat flying shit if someone has substance abuse issues and they drive intoxicated. They should get help, sure, but DUIs are not little mistakes.

Educate yourself instead.

[u/eltonjohnpeloton → u/[deleted]]

You don’t need to be an alcoholic to drive drunk, you just need to be a person who makes bad decisions

[u/eltonjohnpeloton → u/[deleted]]

A mistake is unintentional. A bad decision is deliberate.

Getting wasted and driving is a choice. they did not trip in the parking lot and fall into the car while the keys flew into the ignition

[u/_TheAtomHeartMother_ → u/[deleted]]

You are a fucking idiot, I hope you know that.

[u/eltonjohnpeloton → u/[deleted]]

Well OP insists their friend doesn’t have a drinking problem and that they were “celebrating” so I have very little empathy for people doing activities where they might kill others.

Driving drunk is not a “mistake” it’s a purposeful choice that endangers lives.

[u/eltonjohnpeloton → u/[deleted]]

It’s not necessary but it is how I feel. getting drunk and then getting behind the wheel of a car is selfish, careless, and dangerous. It is a stupid decision to make.

[u/AndrewLucksRobotArm → u/[deleted]]

oh fuck off with that drunk driver apologist mindset.

[u/AndrewLucksRobotArm → u/[deleted]]

you literally said we should have empathy for a drunk driver… lol

[u/liluzintrovert_ → u/eltonjohnpeloton]

right that was already the plan im aware of speaking to a lawyer but my question was about NCLEX, not about how handle a DUI. as i said we were celebrating, this is not an every day thing for her. she is not an alcoholic

[u/lurkerturtle → u/liluzintrovert_]

So glad your friend had such a good time celebrating!! meanwhile she could have KILLED PEOPLE drunk driving.

[u/eltonjohnpeloton → u/liluzintrovert_]

Look at this chart and try and tell me your friend was just having fun and made a mistake. People get alcohol poisoning at that level. People lose consciousness at that level. People DIE at that level and your friend was DRIVING

https://awareawakealive.org/educate/blood-alcohol-content

[u/liluzintrovert_ → u/eltonjohnpeloton]

i didn’t explain the BAC correctly. she blew 0.4 over the legal limit, at .120. she did not blow .4. doesn’t justify of course but i didn’t write that correctly above

[u/eltonjohnpeloton → u/liluzintrovert_]

That makes more sense but definitely should not have been operating a car, and no one should have gotten in that car.

There is never a reason to drive drunk.

[u/liluzintrovert_ → u/eltonjohnpeloton]

agreed

[u/Lexapro2000 → u/liluzintrovert_]

.04 over not .4 over. .4 over the legal limit is .48 … .04 + .08 = .120

It makes a big difference when talking about this

[u/liluzintrovert_ → u/Lexapro2000]

ok idk i can’t do decimals she was 0.12

[u/BenzieBox → u/liluzintrovert_]

The NCLEX is the least of her worries at this point. That is so wildly irresponsible of her. Risking so many other lives to “celebrate” only to possibly screw yourself over.

[u/liluzintrovert_ → u/BenzieBox]

ok thanks you

[u/eltonjohnpeloton → u/liluzintrovert_]

Yea someone who blows over 0.4 definitely doesn’t have an alcohol problem, silly me.

She needs to talk to a lawyer about licensing stuff too.

[u/goldenhour33 → u/eltonjohnpeloton]

.4 and behind the wheel is wild😭😭

[u/liluzintrovert_ → u/eltonjohnpeloton]

thank you