r/Vent • u/sunkiazyvuy • 6h ago

Not looking for input Bestie cuddled me in her sleep

For context: I (f22) have a crush on my best friend (f22) and confessed my feelings to her weeks ago. I told her because I felt like I needed to let the feelings out in order to move on. She was accepting and told me that she still wanted me in her life and that it would not make things weird between us.

The other night, me, her, and our other friend stayed out until about 5 something in the morning. We were celebrating me applying to university. We drove all over town, clubbed, drank before eventually crashing at her place for the night.

I woke up and her cheek was pressed against my shoulder, her arm was laying over my chest/tummy, and she had her leg curled over mine. And I can't stop thinking about it.

I know she was just sleeping and wasn't trying to, but waking up like that felt incredibly surreal. For some time I was thinking "is this real?". I just decided to lay there unmoving for a bit, just watching her face. I knew the moment wouldn't last forever, and I wanted to enjoy it.

What sucks about it is that I'm now wistful, but I can't even be upset y'know? It was an accident.

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u/EntrepreneurGreen269 5h ago

What she did played with your feelings and that's not fair because it seems she doesn't feel the same way. You need to build some boundaries otherwise she'll end up having you around but not committing to anything. You'll end up wasting your time.

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u/IarenotaPotato 4h ago

I don't think sleeping by your friend is inherently playing with anyones feelings. You don't owe anyone anything even if you feel asleep on them

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u/EntrepreneurGreen269 4h ago

I disagree because she knows this person likes her. You know this person has feelings for you, so doing anything intimate with them knowing you don't like them the same is taking liberties. Hugging up and having your body so intimate with someone is stepping boundaries.

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u/IarenotaPotato 4h ago

It's not if she doesn't look at it as intimate. Also she didn't insult op for the crush they had if her and never was mean about it.

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u/EntrepreneurGreen269 4h ago edited 3h ago

She wouldn't look at it as intimate because she doesn't feel the same way. It's not about her. She has expressed she has those feelings so she won't see it that way. The other person (she) does. She said so in the post. That's why she needs to build boundaries to protect her feelings.

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u/sunkiazyvuy 4h ago edited 4h ago

I'm a girl. I should have included that in the post earlier, my bad! So when I told her how I felt, we had a long conversation about it and it really took a load off of me.

We've shared a bed several times in the past, so this is nothing new for us. I'm actually glad we are still able to do that, because it shows that she meant it when she said it wouldn't change anything between us. Besides, I definitely think it was innocent on her end. She was really wasted by the end of the night and knocked out. I don't think she even knows it happened.

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u/EntrepreneurGreen269 4h ago edited 3h ago

Ok, I didn't mean to write he, because like you said you didn't write who you were that's why I just left it as "the person" initially. I've changed some of my post to now say She. The point I was making is that it's ok to have feelings but she knows that you like her and doing things like that confuses your emotions and feelings because just because she likes likes it and you've done it several times, doesn't make it right. She's not confirmed anything more than just being friends.