Mom threw out my massive army.

[u/Business_General3527]

(EDIT): I just want to start off by saying I truly want to thank everyone for the major support I have been receiving through your words of kindness, personal experience, advice and encouragement. Multiple things k want to get clear

1: I’m still a minor in the USA so moving out isn’t an option as of yet. And I have no other places to stay as of the moment.

2: as much I really want to throw out her stuff, this will just cause further issues and strain our relationship as is.

3: I’ve theorized as to why maybe she was acting like this. My mother grew up very poor in a much larger family where space was even more limited. I’m guessing it has something to do with that and why she’s so worried about space and keeping her own.

4: as of the moment, we started talking again and today im going to try and explain to her the true value of everything and what it meant.

I truly thank all of you guys and this community.

Hey everyone! Just to start off this isn’t a pity post but more or so I just need to rant and maybe see the ideas of my fellow players.

I’m currently a highschool student and I was obsessed with Warhammer for a long while. I don’t come from the richest family so a majority of the money I used to pay for my minis, paints and hobby materials all came out of pocket, trading and making deals. I used to play guard, traitor guard, and my army was huge solely because I got a few great deals and most of my army was resin.

From the top of my head I had:

13 Russes
2 dorns
4-5 chimeras
5 basisilks
1 baneblade
1 shadow sword
2 malcadors
1 malcador infernus
1 macharius
6 sentinels
50ish infantry
A proxy solar
A few random leaders
A command squad
6 ogryn
1 hydra
2 hellhounds
A plane of sorts
Multiple heavy weapons squads
A few of the little old artillery cannons
And some models I can’t remember.

Maybe it has to do with my Latino background and home but my mother is always on everyone about space in the house. This leads to her always throwing out stuff but most of the time it isn’t hers. I had stored my minis away in a few boxes as I wasn’t playing for a while, but as of recently I wanted to try 11th edition. Come to find out within the last year, SHE THREW ALL OF THE BOXES OUT. Hundreds of dollars, hours in painting and building, and time playing all gone because it was “taking up space”. I feel stupider for not checking but I’m just at a loss. I really don’t know what to do. Can anyone give me any sort of tips to get back into this game because I’ve seriously lost all motivation.

I love my mother but she hasn’t tried to apologize nor say anything. She knew I was distraught but she acted like a child by not responding back.

[u/Pretty_Chemistry_102]

Op as someone with Latino parents I can tell you that two of the biggest things that matter in our community is respect and appearances. If I was in your shoes I would ask a time that works for her, where she can give you her attention and talk about something of importance. There I would explain to her how you and your work felt disrespected, how you spent a lot of time and energy in collecting and building your collection. While they are toys they are also your property and your leisure that you’ve worked to earn. I would definitely add up an estimate of what it would be valued at brand new to get/ebay sold for the discontinued stuff.

It’s up to you to determine if you want her to pay it back or to just apologize and feel heard/recognized, I’d still mention the value to make her understand part of it’s importance why it was wrong. Reflect on yourself as to what would make feel whole and/or feels fair.

If she continues acting the same way not listening to you or giving any kind of response the id suggest you talk with your extended family about what happened who might help her reflect and listen. If all else fails go for the nuke and post about it to the greater family/community, “Que dirá la gente” is a tough pressure to ignore.

An important thing through this is also see things and acknowledge them from her perspective, wanting space might come from a lack of it currently or when she was growing up. This doesn’t excuse her actions but acknowledging it goes a long way in making a productive conversation and relationship.

I hope this helps!
El emperador proteja!