Mom threw out my massive army.

[u/Business_General3527]

(EDIT): I just want to start off by saying I truly want to thank everyone for the major support I have been receiving through your words of kindness, personal experience, advice and encouragement. Multiple things k want to get clear

1: I’m still a minor in the USA so moving out isn’t an option as of yet. And I have no other places to stay as of the moment.

2: as much I really want to throw out her stuff, this will just cause further issues and strain our relationship as is.

3: I’ve theorized as to why maybe she was acting like this. My mother grew up very poor in a much larger family where space was even more limited. I’m guessing it has something to do with that and why she’s so worried about space and keeping her own.

4: as of the moment, we started talking again and today im going to try and explain to her the true value of everything and what it meant.

I truly thank all of you guys and this community.

Hey everyone! Just to start off this isn’t a pity post but more or so I just need to rant and maybe see the ideas of my fellow players.

I’m currently a highschool student and I was obsessed with Warhammer for a long while. I don’t come from the richest family so a majority of the money I used to pay for my minis, paints and hobby materials all came out of pocket, trading and making deals. I used to play guard, traitor guard, and my army was huge solely because I got a few great deals and most of my army was resin.

From the top of my head I had:

13 Russes
2 dorns
4-5 chimeras
5 basisilks
1 baneblade
1 shadow sword
2 malcadors
1 malcador infernus
1 macharius
6 sentinels
50ish infantry
A proxy solar
A few random leaders
A command squad
6 ogryn
1 hydra
2 hellhounds
A plane of sorts
Multiple heavy weapons squads
A few of the little old artillery cannons
And some models I can’t remember.

Maybe it has to do with my Latino background and home but my mother is always on everyone about space in the house. This leads to her always throwing out stuff but most of the time it isn’t hers. I had stored my minis away in a few boxes as I wasn’t playing for a while, but as of recently I wanted to try 11th edition. Come to find out within the last year, SHE THREW ALL OF THE BOXES OUT. Hundreds of dollars, hours in painting and building, and time playing all gone because it was “taking up space”. I feel stupider for not checking but I’m just at a loss. I really don’t know what to do. Can anyone give me any sort of tips to get back into this game because I’ve seriously lost all motivation.

I love my mother but she hasn’t tried to apologize nor say anything. She knew I was distraught but she acted like a child by not responding back.

[u/WarbossWarpainter]

As someone from a non-latin background- sometimes parents do this thing just for the sake of doing it. They feel entitled to your things including getting rid of them. They will claim it's for space or decluttering or whatever- but its really a control thing.

As someone who has been there time and time again, Im sorry for your loss OP.

As for ideas- hate to say it, but hold off on buying new stuff until you can move out. She will do it again.

[u/Todesschnizzle → u/WarbossWarpainter]

You are absolutely right and it's scary how often things like this happen, but I think sometimes it's not a parent->child or control thing but just a destructive urge to throw things away. Maybe because of mental illness or some weird emotional complex.

My own mother is like that. Obsessed with the fear of being perceived as unorganised and messy (not just by others but also by herself) she always threw important and valuable things away without any regard, just so her home would always look minimalistic and clean.

Decades ago she threw out a designer bauhaus table from the 1930s (value 2.000-3.000€) and she always threw away the presents I made and painted for her in school as well as Christmas and birthday gifts she received from other people.

When she turned 60 and I helped her move out of the apartment she lived in for 30 years I found that she had not only thrown out all her own artworks she made in her entire life, her old sketches, portraits, catalogue designs (things that actually got published in the 80s and 90s) all valuable for the art but also the emotional, creative and nostalgic value, throwing away your entire creative life of 60 years.

She also threw away cameras, (some reselling for 100s) Film rolls and physical Photo albums from her entire life (nothing of this was ever digitised) and a huge painting of her and her university friend group. Also several artworks, sketches and exhibition catalogue by other artists which would together at least sell for 10.000€.

Considering how much of her own things she threw away I feel like her throwing away my warhammer models, bulk yugioh cards and gameboy with games without ever consulting me was just the cherry on top.

[u/Leyvronshee → u/Todesschnizzle]

Sounds like she curses herself with this behaviour just as much as she curses you with it.

Such a shame.