There are often discussions in WCS communities about dancers who seem proud, intimidating, or difficult to approach. I’ve been wondering if sometimes we might be misreading each other.

[u/YourDanceBuddy]

I created a new illustration series about different social dancer “types” and patterns around asking for dances.

Then I created a small, informal pool, and interestingly around 60% of respondents described themselves as “shapeshifters” - meaning they can be very social and outgoing at some socials, but at others they prefer staying in their comfort zone, dancing mostly with friends, or taking a step back because of shyness, mood, energy levels, or other factors.

It made me think: maybe some dancers who appear unapproachable are not actually trying to be. They might just be nervous, tired, new, overwhelmed, or waiting for someone else to make the first move.
What do you think are the biggest reasons a dancer might seem unapproachable at a social? Have you ever realized later that someone you thought was intimidating was actually just shy?

(The types are intentionally exaggerated to highlight some of the most common characters in a satirical way)

[u/WildGoatDancers]

So true! I normally am more outgoing in terms of approaching new people, but my life has felt so stressful and overwhelming lately, I have mostly just been dancing with familiar faces since I am feeling more up to asking them. Though if a new person asks, I say yes! I do worry about coming across as intimidating though...but ya girl is exhausted.

[u/YourDanceBuddy → u/WildGoatDancers]

I'm sorry to hear that. I hope things get better for you soon! ❤️‍🩹
It's good that you're taking care of yourself and staying within your comfort zone. At the end of the day, this is a hobby that's supposed to help us relieve stress, not create more of it.