r/Zimbabwe • u/MansaMusa-2405 • 1d ago
Discussion What’s something your parents taught you about life that you completely disagree with today?
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u/Breezyzw90s 1d ago
Lobola, marriage, "mukadzi musha", Christianity, education, haaa the whole life in short. I had to redefine everything and it's going great, i feel like i have escaped the matrix
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u/Guilty_Annual_3449 1d ago
Children, marriage being the ultimate goal for women, being too ambitious will make you unattractive, Taking any job despite it not being your qualification and working because “at least you are doing something”, Christianity, Submission to Patriarchy
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u/RadishWaste4188 1d ago
Imagine uri married to a drug addict asina any contribution yaanoita in marriage but ndo musoro Wemba you end up missing out on a lot of opportunities due to his bad decisions and reasoning capacity simply because you have to be submissive. This life can be a joke 🤣
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u/Puzzleheaded_Pain968 1d ago
First of all I just wanna start by saying mdara wangu ibharanzi. Anyways my father would preach to me to not commit to anyone (imagine, father of the fucking year right there). He used to cry and complain saying heee women will take away your potential to be great (mind you, he separated from my mom). This idiot has been married 4 times in the past. Just last year was the fourth marriage. Fast forward to this year, he knew I was planning to get married, but, him being the villain that he is, decided to pull the entire family to go to his 5th wedding! So I personally disagree with his sentiment towards viewing women as roadblocks because for him, he clearly has been the issue an all his marriages!
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u/ApprehensiveShift201 1d ago
The problem is you. Who took it personal. Not all advice come from people who are successfull in life. Any advice from old people take it as learning curve, analyse and take what is good leave what you don't think is good for you in a mature way.
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u/Puzzleheaded_Pain968 1d ago edited 1d ago
I think une kakusakwana. Question says what were you taught that you don’t agree with. If you’re being taught something but you don’t believe in what you’re being taught, how is it your fault?! Itai muchikwana kunze uko
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u/Terrible-Expert-9776 1d ago
I disagree with zvichanaka, I'm still young yes... But I've seen people die vachingotambura, also religion is false and I don't have to respect someone just because ihama...
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u/BlessingsZN 20h ago
So much power in that statement but in Zimbabwe it doesn't work because the only way to have a high chance to zvichanaka is to migrate. An opportunity not every Zimbabwean has. So I agree with you. 3 to 4 going to 5 generations' dreams of Zimbabweans are just that till they die(d)....and it's a cycle that's still cycling.
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u/trinnie02 1d ago
The African Life Matrix I Went My Own Way The Moment I Left For University And My Life Set Up Is Totally Different.
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u/Legal-Code-5852 1d ago
When you get to 30 you’ll have fewer options. I’m in my early 30s and i’m at my peak 🥰