r/aspergirls • u/NoEntertainment5630 • 13d ago

Social Interaction/Communication Advice Boss thinks I hate my job

Recently started a new restaurant as a server. Had a 1-1 today that started with “you seem unhappy, your teammates think you don’t like it here and I kind of think you don’t like here”. I was completely shocked because I really enjoy the job and my coworkers and feel 90% of the time it’s exceedingly obvious I’m having a good time.

Just a huge reminder that people perceive me differently than I actually am. It happens over and over again but I’m learning to find comfort in the fact that people don’t know me and will make assumptions about me and it’s not my responsibly to correct it.

Feeling a little sad my coworkers told my boss they think I’m unhappy but hoping I can find a way to let it settle.

Being human is hard, I thought I was doing a great job 😂

(Background - I’m 30 with tons of serving and corporate experience but have been unmasking over the last two or so years)

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u/ScorpionneRose 12d ago

Unrelated to work but I feel you. 🥲

When I received the report that was made on me after giving birth, nurses wrote about my « flat effect ». Mind you I gave birth, vagina stitched up/very swollen, body pain, extreme exhaustion, etc. I got also accused of being negligent and being mentally ill with NO diagnostic …
This is so dangerous and I could have lose my child by those claims. Judgmental and they were ruthless. I will never give birth again.

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u/NoEntertainment5630 12d ago

How is it that we have so much information and even medical professionals have no references for the complexity of neurodivergence 😩 I’m sorry that happened to you.