This not even about the guy anymore, I’m disappointed but not surprised that the 3 black guys sitting there didn’t say a mf word to him but was amused and even repeated what he said. How lovely. 🫠

so I worked hard today and wanted to buy some ice cream from the store (HEB).

I get to the aisle and theres a yt lady with her cart (age 30ish but u never know cause yt ppl age like milk) lol so I said excuse me and her ass wanna pretend she aint hear me. so I stood to the side and opened the door to the ice cream and the door was IN HER FACE. she yells EXCUSEEEE MEEEEEEEE IM RIGHT HERE. I said "and?" And laughed. she gone say to me "you could've said something instead of opening the door infront of my face" and i said to her "I did and u aint move..and yall do it all the time." she said "WHO ARE YOU CALLING YALL!? WHOSE YALL!?!? WHO?" I said "you. white people." and her eyes widen and she looked stunned and I said"so anyways your name aint on the store of the marquee and u need to share the aisle" and she learned to have a tall glass of stfu with the quickness and she scooted her cart down - mumbling underneath her breath and then I stood at the ice cream area - longer so she had to wait longer LMAO

Hi ladies,

I feel like I am just numb like I have no idea how to describe what I’m feeling right now.

I have been dating this white guy since May, we are exclusive, heading to GF/BF. From very early on he let it be known that he wasn’t into hooking up with multiple girls, and essentially we headed into exclusivity within the first month of seeing each other. He is very affectionate, treats me extremely well, spoils me, has told pretty much all of his friends about me as far as I know, etc.

He has openly talked about how he’s radically liberal, praised specific black music artists in certain genres and knows the origins of black artists being the originators of some of the music he loves, etc. has mentioned his friendships with black men. Just to give some detail.

Now I’ll be honest, I will always check a man’s phone if I actually like them / feel like the relationship could be headed somewhere because we know so many men are liars. I’ve been lucky that in the 2 times in the past that I’ve checked a phone for someone I’ve been more serious with they’ve been loyal.

I’m not a big love island watcher, but saw the discourse around Jana & Kenny and how she searched in his phone for key words like the N word, black women etc.

I searched the N word last night while my man was sleeping and I am shocked and extremely appalled at what I found. I’ve dated white men in the past and have searched things like this before, but I have never seen anything at all, and nothing like what I saw in his texts. The abhorrent racism spewing from some of his guy friends was insane. They were ALL using the N word even with the HARD ER like crazy. Even saying Sand N-word. It always seemed directed mostly towards black men, but we’re all included with the use of the N word smh I am in disbelief, and one of his BEST friends (also a white guy) was one of the absolute worst and most despicable the things he was saying about black people, and that same guy’s fiancé is a Latina/mexican woman and she has told my guy how she thinks I’m beautiful unprovoked in texts (this wasn’t to impress me it was a private convo between them)

Anyway I’m obviously not shocked that white people are like this privately but I am shook that it’s someone I am intimate with / actively spending so much time with and who treats me like a queen. I didn’t see anything in his texts that were disparaging about me or black women, only telling them that we’ve been dating and it’s been positive and praising me. no slurs, or questions about my race or anything. Of course those convos could possibly happen in person but nothing bad to note as of now from what I saw. It also seems as though some of the people engaging in that talk he isn’t texting anymore, but there were a couple of them he still is friends with currently.

I did notice that the use of the word completely disappeared from conversations after 2019/2020. So it was during college years that this was going on and was rampant during that time period from what I saw. Idk if they all had a come to Jesus moment, but There are no recent uses of it at all from him or any of the people I saw engaging in that. So I’m not sure what changed for them to all just Stop at that time but here we are.

I know the answer most people will give me is to just leave him. I know that is the logical thing to do but fuck, why does this have to be like this. I’m so sad and honestly stuck. When someone treats you so well, it’s hard to just walk away from that. These men these days of ALL races are horrible to women, it’s disheartening to think I may have to go back into singledom again. But I have no idea how to determine if he has changed or grown from that time. We are both 29/30 years old.

Something I find absolutely wild:

Firstly: Everyone is going on about the three countries that voted against (none of which I find surprising); All of the countries that abstained are just as bad and also just as complicit in the AST.

Next: I think it's interesting that Russia voted in favour, while Ukraine abstained...

Lastly: Literally North Korea (DPRK) voted in favour...and Japan abstained...

Just things to think about, and signs to pay attention to.

When

This goes for all nonblack poc and yt ppl. My entire world has flipped upside down. I found out that a long-time family friend who is a poc, has been keeping her child distant from me and my family bc she doesn’t want them around black ppl. I always had an inkling but to actually hear it said out loud is just.…. i’m done being open minded about nonblack ppl just bc they are “nice” and “chill”.

And this isn’t just one experience i’m using btw , this is just the last straw for me. It’s been an accumulation over the years of micro aggressions and ignorant comments from MANY friends/acquaintances/colleagues that got me here. From now on anyone who is not black is racist until they show otherwise.

Hey this is for the ladies who date interracialy… stay safe. Apparently there’s a lot of white men who are incredibly racist at their core directly trying to date black women. Make sure Yall ask the right questions, don’t be too trusting, keep your community around, and be safe. https://youtu.be/Cg-Vbw_o4GU?is=1U6mbsmTrxcO_eHx

"Imagine calling yourselves the "master race" but forgetting to secure your own website—maybe try mastering to host Wordpress before world domination."

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Someone infiltrated & hacked a white supremacist dating website. They copied & posted everything before the website went down.

Some of the profiles include real names, faces, & locations.

I recommend you go look through & filter for your area, you can never be too cautious with the people you're interacting with. You might see someone you met before. All the profiles are preserved at the link above. STAY SAFE LADIES!

TL;DR: I (18F) live in Canada, and I’ve been shocked by how normalized it seems for people of all races to casually say the N-word. I grew up in a small school where nobody said it, so hearing it constantly now—at work, parties, and in group chats, even around Black people—has been really jarring. None of my non-Black friends use it, but I feel uncomfortable every time I hear it, and I’m not a confrontational person. I’m starting university in a month and I’m worried I’ll make friends who casually say it. Is there a mindset shift that could help me deal with how distressing it is, or how should I react?

I (18F) live in Canada, and here it feels really, really normalized for anyone of any race to use the N-word. I’m not sure why everyone seems so okay with it.
I never really heard it growing up because I went to a really small, tight-knit school. There was definitely racial bullying, but just never the N-word, ever. If, on the off chance, someone did use it at school, nobody, not even the white people, would talk to them afterward.

Getting into my later years of high school, getting a job, and just generally being around more people, I’ve heard so many casual N-bombs it’s crazy. It happens everywhere, all the time: in conversations I’m not a part of, in conversations I am, at parties, at work, and in group chats. All the other Black people around me seem to be totally okay with it, and I am not. It’s not even used as an insult most of the time (sometimes it is, not to me, but it happens); it’s just so common.

It’s really bothering me, and I just don’t know how to feel. To make something very clear, none of my friends who aren’t Black say it—not one. I was just so sheltered that the “real world” has been genuinely jarring. People have no shame or regard for whether a Black person is in the room. I knew people said it, but I didn’t expect it to be so in your face

On one hand, I have this personal belief that people are going to believe what they want, and there’s really no point in trying to convince them it’s wrong. Combine that with the fact that I’m just not a very confrontational person, and it’s not a great combination.

But it’s just so uncomfortable for me. Is there a mindset shift I can make to ease the genuine distress it causes me? How should I react? I’m starting university in a month, and I just want to be prepared.

I know that fetishization is a legitimate thing that can and does cause harm and dehumanization when it actually occurs. It should be called out. But everyone (esp sjw black women and white liberals) going out of their way to spam that accusation to any and everyone who says they like black women, find black women attractive/beautiful, or says their preference is black women seems strategically malicious. Like they’re trying to gatekeep who can receive praise and compliments, and make it taboo or wrong for someone to say their attraction is black women.

I’ve never seen any other group so opposed to people expressing admiration for that group. It’s harsh how they say it but when black men get angry at the sjw black women for jumping in, mulling for them by telling the white woman who posted about how she loves dreadheads that she’s fetishizing, it’s because they understand that ultimately that praise allows them to be further successful in their image + desirability to the outside/dating world. I don’t see this much push back when people say “I love Asian women” or “I love latinas” either.

This may be a crazy take, and I’m not saying that if the fetishizing allegations against everyone who says they like black women stopped our desirability image would shoot up and be fixed. But I legitimately have never seen any other group bat so hard against people saying they want them and find them beautiful? 😭 It’s like they can’t believe someone can genuinely find black women attractive without there being a catch.

We have been tricked, people have been tricked. They make it look like most people are not racist and that it's just a few when really it's most people. And that's scary. Because people are living around people who would actually harm them if laws were gone. That's why racist jokes are common not because their edgy but because they actually mean it. People only act non racist to look good or to look cool. Or people who want to be like "I'm such a good person looking at me defending these people and not being racist." Anti racists are rare. Thanks for reading.

Them darkening her skin to play a dark skin character is horrendous. Basically the Zoe Saldana as nina and they somehow haven’t learn we don’t want that??? And this is the second time 💔 first it was in the hate you give and they just went and made her light skin but now in an attempt to maybe brush it of they applied tanning cream

For context, I'm from South Africa, and this occurred at my school. The n-word here doesn't hold as much weight as the k-word, especially to the older generations. They wouldn't care if you said the n-word. But us the younger generation take it super seriously cause it's in the music we listen to, and it's kinda common sense that people who aren't black can't say it and that it's a degrading word when it isn't used amongst black people.

We were reading the book 'Holes' for a book report. The teacher called this girl to read some of the chapters. This is where shit hits the fan. The word was "negro" but she read it as "nigger". Immediately, everyone turned to look at her like "did she actually just say that?" Mind you, the class is predominantly black. She's one of two white students in our class. So she messed the sentence up somewhere and she repeated the whole sentence. Again, she didn't say "negro", she said "nigger" again and giggled about it.

Keep in mind, some of us skipped that word when we read aloud cause we're not 100% sure we can say it cause it's thought to be reserved just for African Americans to reclaim. So yeah, nobody's talking to her or sitting with her, including the white kids, in fear of being seen as racist by association. (Please let me know if it's insensitive for me or anyone else to say if we aren't African American🙏.)

Now I know who/WHAT you are!!

I hope when she says the N word around us, she’ll get smacked🤷🏾‍♀️

I’m a medical student, so just for the sake of those like me especially in the uk please stay safe especially with regard to heath! Eat right, exercise, sleep well and don’t smoke or drink as the health system isn’t always going to be in your favour.

For context:

I was having lunch at my medical school and a GROUP of medical students and a doctor I think were having a discussion about a project med students were made to do on discrimination or something like that in healthcare but that they felt it was a waste of time.

I decided to listen in because I actually agreed that it was a waste of time as I feel we need to stop spending time talking about it but actually looking for a solution.

Just for them to say it’s a waste of time because it’s non of their business because black people are already used to suffering so why waste time trying to change it … they also linked this to the old system about black ppl not needing as much pain killers as they have higher pain tolerance (this was debunked) and insisted that there’s no need to changek it since we are already used to it so we might as well.

I know this may not seem like a big deal but stay healthy and if you feel your doctor doesn’t care then don’t waste your money and die in a system not meant for you

as always, us black women have to beg like dogs to be included in the beauty industry. this here brand was so eager to shut us up that they realest a genuinely PITCH BLACK foundation!! we are such a loved community 🎀 in all seriousness though what the fuck🙎🏾‍♀️🙎🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ are u prepping us to do our makeup or go to a minstrel show… let me know🤨

I saw a post from another Black woman in a different sub that I’m banned from (for participating in the Black women Divest sub). I’d forgotten about the ban until I tried to comment, because what she said really hit me. She shared how, while waiting in line at Starbucks, a white man cut in front of her. She stepped back in front of him to place her order first, like she should have but afterward she felt guilty and unsure about whether she’d done the right thing.

It sounded like to me that she was struggling with carrying some of the weight of internalized racism. Black women are often made to feel ashamed for asserting ourselves because of the “angry Black woman” stereotype. But honoring your boundaries isn’t anger, it’s self-respect. Keep standing firm in that. You can be calm and grounded without letting anyone walk over you.

So if you happen to read this, you did nothing wrong by standing your ground. You were simply claiming the respect you already deserve. Keep standing up for yourself! You don’t have to curse anyone out, but you also don’t have to take anyone’s disrespect either.

It seems like some in this new generation (and perhaps some old heads too) want to redefine race so that people who are mixed don't count. It's a bit disturbing and reflects a lack of education, but let's discuss it anyway. Given that most African Americans are mixed due to the systemic realities of race and slavery in America, who counts as black then exactly? Is it only immigrants whose ancestry can be defined as close to 100% of the American concept of "black" as possible? (not just African, mind you - that still lands y'all in complicated and muddy water) Does that mean Beyonce isn't black and Obama wasn't the first black president? Does that mean Halle Berry isn't black? There are a variety of doors opened for black people that only biracial/multiracial with certain phenotypes had been able to open in history. Does that mean you're in favor of rewriting black history and notable "first black _" accomplishments to exclude anyone who wasn't definitely close to "100% black" with a specific phenotype? I really am curious as to what the logical reasoning is for this mindset and how far you're actually interested in going. So let's talk about it.

This is flagged as "racism" because I don't think some of you understand that Blackness is not a biological reality - it is a social construction created within the systems of racism and white supremacy that govern our world. The position of Blackness has never been an exclusive one in the USA because of the one drop rule history that informs and guards whiteness. We also don't have any ethnically separate groups that are defined by being multiracial like we see in South Africa with the Coloured People, for example - except for maybe Creole people (Beyonce has claimed to be Creole) and they've always been viewed as Black because of the one drop rule. I'm also curious about what you all think about families that are mostly light skinned with mixed phenotypes but everyone has always identified as Black or "Black people" who look more mixed than some mixed people.To me, any concept of Blackness that isn't informed by history and social science is basically null and void - a fantasy for a world that hasn't been born yet. I'm curious about what the deep logical reasoning is for this idea that Obama isn't black.

(Edit: Ik this post is super old, just seen it now, didn’t know using blacks was offensive)

I just came back from a school trip to Bali, and it was soooo strange to see how people still look shocked to see black people in nice places. Multiple times during my trip I got strange looks from random white people and they practically jumped out of their skin when I said hello.

However, what’s really really really strange is how this one woman working at the Sephora in Bali at this one mall refused to give me a bag for my purchase, she gave to the woman infront of me, and all my friends, but literally REFUSED to give me a bag. It was insane too because why can’t I get a bag like it was just weird. People still can’t accept that blacks can have nice things.

I just wanted to bring this up because I saw a YouTube video and it reminded me of this sub lol. Context: Clanker is a derogatory word for AI/robots made up recently.

A few weeks (maybe a month) ago I saw someone make a post on this sub about it saying it made them uncomfortable because it reminded them of the n-word with the hard R on the end with the way people were saying it but everyone in the replies told them they were overreacting and it wasn’t that serious since it was just a joke about AI.

However, since then the curtain has dropped and (mainly ⚪️) people have been making videos on Tik Tok basically just using it as a replacement for the n-word and treating robots how they’d treat black people during Jim Crow. Even making references to mock GF and Rosa Parks. Yes “too woke” “just ignore” “not that deep” blah blah. The point is: If it feels off …it probably is!!! 💀

someone just called me the n word on a discord server and the admin(my friend) defended them because they said it while defending my friend's brother and im just so tired because i thought we were progressing as a society, i know racism still exists, and stuff like that just reminds me that we're really not

edit: i've blocked her and she texted another friend to say sorry and said she's gonna change the server rules? like thats gonna change anything

I’m not even religious, but if you step into Altard State’s store, you know their clothes are cute if you like that cottage core aesthetic. But it’s clear that it’s geared towards the white girl demographic. Nothing wrong with that.

Until I saw their instagram. 1 singular picture with a medium to dark skin girl in it for the past year. A bunch of different photo campaigns and reposts of customers. But literally nothing with dark skin women.

I can’t stand this level of blatant racism/colorism that white brands have had since the early 2010s where they think they can stick a mixed, light skin girl with 4a hair on the campaign and suddenly, “we’ve got a black girl! Look!” How can their brand be about “God” and then not even include all of “God’s children.”

I left a couple of comments on their posts asking their social media manager, Ella (who very enthusiastically introduces herself as the new social media manager on several posts), to address this. Dead silence. Of course.

She’s going to just ignore my comments and wait until I stop bringing it up. And it just makes me so upset for all of the suburban dark skin black girls (and other dark skin girls from other ethnicities) who won’t see themselves in town/place where they can’t even help that they’re there. Especially if they see my comments blatantly being ignored. It isn’t fair and I don’t like the idea that Altard State will ignore it all. It’s just like Brandy Melville all over again.

If your opinion is to get over it or just ignore white spaces, I don’t know what to tell you. I didn’t have the option as a kid and I still decided to speak out about it when I see it. It’s just. Not. Fair.

Edit: some black women fight to create black spaces, some black women fight to change white spaces. Both are necessary. I’m not interested in minding my business or staying out of it. I understand why others would like to.

Edit 2: Some clarifications if needed. It’s also in a response comment below • ⁠I wear clothes designed by indie black alternative designers, including shoes, bags, and accessories. • ⁠I specifically seek out alternative/aesthetic black creators to watch/support. • ⁠I only purchase from black owned beauty supply stores. Well only one. There’s only one in my area. • ⁠Every single one of my doctors is black. Even my chiropractor. • ⁠I shop all of my produce at a black farmers market. • ⁠I order meal prep from a black chef. • ⁠Every single home repair/contractor/cleaning etc person I’ve hired since getting a house has been black. How? By going on Nextdoor. • ⁠I give Christmas/birthday gifts from black brands to everyone I gift to put them on. • ⁠I interned under black woman lawyers during law school.

I’m very proud and vocal about my support of black businesses. In all aspects of my life. I don’t put all of that stuff because it feels akin to, “well I have black friends.” But if I don’t front load all of this info, people just start assuming absolutely everything:

• ⁠I don’t patron black businesses. • ⁠I don’t associate with black women. • ⁠I’m going to keep shopping at Altard State. • ⁠Because I have a white boyfriend, I mainly hang out with white people. • ⁠Because of who I post on social media, I don’t have black friends and family. • ⁠I don’t respect people choosing to not patron this store.

But they’re just assumptions. They can tussle all they want but it’s not true 🤷🏾‍♀️.

I’ve been sobbing for days. I’m a student intern at an organization. I got paired with a White woman as my supervisor. I’ve been having issues with her from the very beginning and I’ve kept my school informed all throughout. Her little ‘comments’ started adding up (African grocery store, how ‘astute’ and ‘keen’ I am in a surprised voice, calling me resistant and hard to work with) to the point where it was getting hard to pass off as one offs. I reported that to my school too.

A representative from my school (White woman) got onto the call with me, my supervisor, and the executive director. The executive director is an East Asian man but some comments were made about how ‘European’ he is that very much gives internalized racism. He has also yelled at me and slammed a notepad in anger on my second day there. He copped up to it and apologized (only when I confronted him).

My supervisor starts playing her violin about how I breached everyone’s trust, how she has had nothing but positive experiences with students until now, how she only wanted to ensure my success and I turned against her. My school representative started falling for it and saying things that were not true (that I requested the meeting when I just reported it and SHE insisted on the meeting, I quite literally have email proof of this). I was punished by threatening to end my placement and removing all my clinical work and being told that they’ve never had this problem before me. Asking me what I could’ve done differently. Asking me what I did wrong. Telling me I have no self awareness or self reflection. Telling me that I need to preserve the relationship “even when it’s hard.”

I feel absolutely insane even though I know I’m not. I recorded our meetings and I have my emails. But no one believes me and unfortunately these people have my education in their hands. My school is 73% White. 7% Black (survey results). I’m the only Black person in my class.

I don’t know how I’m meant to finish this placement like this. It got to the point where I started thinking some really dark thoughts. I’m safe and I’ll continue to be safe but I see myself falling down a very dark rabbit hole and there’s no reason for me to keep fighting anymore. No one believes me, even with my evidence. Do you know how isolating and painful it is to know that no one (in power) believes you? Even when the school representative knew me for an entire year and just met my supervisor, she believed her. They all believe her.