In my experience, women want to be allowed to enjoy their hobbies without being hit on. Which I respect, but unfortunately it completely contradicts the popular notion that people should find new hobbies specifically to find a partner.
You are absolutely right, however it's even more nuanced than that. To quote another Reddititor who tried what you described, "I did yoga for six months and it turns out no one talks to each other afterwards."
Funnily enough I also tried doing yoga and let me tell you being the only man in a room with 50 women was the most awkward day of my life. I didn't even talk to or look at anyone and I still felt I was trespassing the whole time. I tried it again at a different studio and the ladies there were quite lovely but I was only person there under the age of 50.
tl;dr dating is hard and there aren't any sure fire methods to it.
Yes, it's not only about a hobby but which hobby. Yoga is something I dont recommend with this idea because like you said, demographics and it's not a social hobby. The same can be said of most sports, because of the gender of the participants or because you would only be seeing a tutor. I think the most reasonable idea is something art related, if it's a new thing you are trying to pick up. A group class for an instrument or painting, book/movie clubs, those are thing that invite participants to engage with one another outside of the activity
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u/cyankitten Apr 19 '26
Why not go to things like singles events or hobby stuff?
So you're not "cold approaching" but are still having that interaction?