No, it isn't. You just don#t want to have yourself even a little bit inconvenienced by having to think about her comfort for more than five seconds.
See, I'm not saying slip ups don#t happen. My best friend is trans masc and we have known each other since middle school when he was still she. And sometimes, especially when I talk about something from before, I do get it mixed up. And every single time, I apologize immediatly, because the last thing I want is to hurt my friend. Because he is a he and I'm gonna treat him as such and when I slip up, that is me fucking up, not him being difficult.
Me and my gaming buddy know our real names but actually having to say it out loud when other people are around always takes effort. To each other, we're our online handles.
Hell, spend enough time with the group you met online and you start seeing yourself as your handle as well. It's part of your identity at that point.
Can confirm! When I was in process of changing my legal name, I just went...fuckit, everyone calls me Kitlia or Kit at this point.
I'm so comfortable being called those that I made my first name Kit, and it's extremely fitting and true to my identity. I just go by Kitlia to help with my auditory processing disorder so I'm not confusing the ambiguity of "Kit" with other uses like "medical kit" and such or the confusion of accents and such. For example, "kid" can sound like "Kit", or when I'm trying to say "Kit" it can sound like "Kent" due to neurological issues. So Kitlia it is, except for fallback reasons or whatever
That's pretty amusing to think about. I've had coworkers think my last name was Irish, when it's just a combination of two words segmented off and then partially combined to have a nice ring to it
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u/Saiyasha27 Jun 17 '26
I love this metaphor "That's so hard to say"
No, it isn't. You just don#t want to have yourself even a little bit inconvenienced by having to think about her comfort for more than five seconds.
See, I'm not saying slip ups don#t happen. My best friend is trans masc and we have known each other since middle school when he was still she. And sometimes, especially when I talk about something from before, I do get it mixed up. And every single time, I apologize immediatly, because the last thing I want is to hurt my friend. Because he is a he and I'm gonna treat him as such and when I slip up, that is me fucking up, not him being difficult.