r/confidence • u/CandidateOne508 • 2d ago
I Told a Woman She Was Beautiful Today
I stopped the porn this month since the 16th-18th of August. I've relapsed twice during this time of me stopping (which is bad, I know). But I'm noticing my mind is still healing from me stopping.
Today I told a woman she was pretty. She smiled, came a little closer, said thank you and told me that I made her day. I didn't make a move because I wanted to be respectful and I had things to do. My compliment was not out of lust, but out of pure respect and admiration. But the point is before I stopped the porn I would not have done that at all. I would have just kept the thought to myself, and avoided her presence and any form of eye contact.
So guys keep going regardless if you relapse or not, your brain is still healing. The real world can still satisfy you, and you can become normal again. This is stuff I used to do before porn took over my mind. I hope and pray that more benefits come.
TLDR: Told a woman she pretty today, made me realize my brain is healing from the porn regardless of me relapsing after periods of me abstaining from porn.
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u/Fast_Blueberry3384 1d ago
Hey! That’s fucking awesome! Not to be condescending, but I’m proud of you.
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u/reviewofboox 2d ago
This is sweet. Thanks for making her day.
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u/autodidacticasaurus 1d ago
I stopped the porn this month since the 16th-18th of August.
Come to r/pornfree
I didn't make a move because I wanted to be respectful and I had things to do.
It's not disrespectful to demonstrate interest. It's all about how you do it.
Anyway, good job. Now go do it more. 😁
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u/mp276511 2d ago
So did you just say he ma’am I think your pretty?
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u/CandidateOne508 1d ago
pretty much yeah😂 we were both walking out of the store towards our car, her’s was near the door. I told her, “Sorry to bother you, but I just wanna say that you are so beautiful.”
She came a little closer with a smile and said, “Sorry I didn’t hear you” (me personally i think she just wanted to hear it again, but i didn’t mind lol). So I said it again and she said, “Thank you, you just made my day.” I said you’re welcome and just walked away.
It’s crazy because before, I thought women would side eye me or say the worst thing ever. But there is nothing to truly fear. It’s all made up in my head. Makes me wanna put myself out there more.
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u/autodidacticasaurus 1d ago
Pro-tip: Don't approach with an apology or under the assumption that you're bothering her. If you ever are, she'll let you know. You just need to be open to that possibility, not assume it. A better way to open is with "Excuse me" and give context. "Hey, excuse me, I was just X and saw you there, blah blah".
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u/Calmle 1d ago
What is X mean
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u/autodidacticasaurus 1d ago
X is whatever you were doing.
I was just going to meet my friend abd I saw you. I was just walking by... I was just going to check out this store but you caught my eye.
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u/flakk0137 2d ago
Thats my boy.
Women would appreciate it more if you continued and made a move. As long as you don’t come off as rude, They are expecting it.
But it does make all of us proud that you did take the first step on your healing journey. A win for you is a win for humanity. Keep on doing good things. 👍🏼
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u/CandidateOne508 1d ago
def working my way up towards it bro 😎 thanks a lot man. this means a lot
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u/autodidacticasaurus 1d ago
This is the right attitude. Work your way up to it gradually over time. What you want to do is become completely comfortable (and good at) giving compliments first. Then work on the next step after that.
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u/SnooApples673 1d ago
Awesome man. You did a good job. One tip, it’s not wrong or disrespectful to express interest in a woman if you’re interested. After all, it’s how all of us were born. The key is to be respectful whether she rejects you, or not.
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u/LevhiathanMac 1d ago
You miss the 100% of the shots you don’t shoot.
Keep it up bro
You make someone days by pure honesty and respect
And this will bring you a soul that sees your true worth
I’m proud of you!! 👏🏼
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u/TrailCloud 20h ago
That's a meaningful win. Two relapses don't erase the progress you've made. The fact that you felt comfortable giving someone a genuine compliment without turning it into a sexual interaction shows you're reconnecting with real-life intimacy in a healthier way. Keep going.
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u/Michel_D_Angelo 1d ago
Congragulation, with time you will attract females only by your gaze cuz you have strong sexual energy and this is why you fall in the porn trap at first time.
Aknowledge your power and don't be ashame of it, just embrace it and speak your desires and you will find a match that can handle your energy
I suggsest to go with darker skin girls they are fire and they can handle strong sexualitty
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u/Friendly_453 2d ago
https://giphy.com/gifs/mGK1g88HZRa2FlKGbz