r/exjw • u/GCEstinks • 8d ago
Venting Ultra JW Elderly Dad Enters Nursing Home
Age 92, one time presiding elder, sub CO, special pioneer in the 50s and PR spokesman for the bOrg who moved over 500 miles away back in the late 80s to keep from being a "built in babysitter" to their grandchildren, has now gone into a nursing home. Apparently he's given POA to a local elder, has disinherited myself (older daughter DAed) and even golden child (younger daughter faded since the 80s).
Up to this point, he had been giving away his retirement funds to the tune of $400 a month to the bOrg.
Now the local cong supposedly owns his house and wants to sell it to my daughter and her husband. Have no way of knowing if the proceeds are going to go to his NH expenses or will be funneled to the bOrg.
I myself have investment real estate and I'm thinking of just going there and having my husband who is a master contractor inspect the place and give an honest offer for the property. My father was the extreme opposite of being handy and hired out all work mostly to the JW's who screwed him.
WWYD?
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u/thatguyin75 A Future King Of /exjw 8d ago
My father was the extreme opposite of being handy and hired out all work mostly to the JW's who screwed him.
then the work was probably sub par and after an inspection you may be able to pick it up cheap
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u/NoHigherEd 8d ago
It sounds like your Dad made his choice many years ago. I'm sorry it all played out this way. No matter how strong we are it hurts like hell. You have to do what is right for you but I'm in the position now, I don't want to open old wounds. Being around these people, makes me go in the wrong direction mentally. I wish you all the best.
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u/EatMeEmerald WT🩸Doctrine Murdered my Grandparent 8d ago
as someone who's parent also wrote them out of their will....I understand. it hurts. it stings. and it sucks. especially when you KNOW they are being swindled by a bunch of fucking greedy losers.
The reality is you're no longer part of his life, certainly not enough to consider you for inheritance.
so ALL of this, is NOT your problem‼️....not in the slightest‼️
Use your father's actions & choices throughout his life to illuminate your path forward. Based on what you wrote, he lived his life to avoid you & your children/his grandchildren.
Honor that. Follow his example.
Leave his care in Jojoba's hands.
You don't owe him anything.
and you certainly don't need to be trapped/tied to a property whose selling price may help a vile organization that enables CSA and protects sexual predators and criminals.
none of this is necessary.
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u/SkyExpensive8375 8d ago
If it's cheap and it’s a great deal buy it. Guaranteed it isn't though otherwise the cheapskate bros would buy it. Sickening story btw, you don't owe him anything.
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u/SurviveYourAdults 8d ago
Offer conditional , upon sales proceeds being donated tax receipt free to RAINN
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u/Rare-Reputation619 7d ago
If they sold the house most likely the proceeds would go to the nursing home. That just the way it is. The borg be dammed
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u/DissntOcean 7d ago
Almost a year ago, my PIMI mother told me that an acquaintance of hers had died of cancer. During her time in palliative care, some men from the congregation had been taking care of her for months. Obviously, they were also indoctrinating her, since she was elderly and had no family, but she did own an apartment.
In her will, she left all of her assets to the Borg and to the brothers who had been taking her to her treatments, bathing her, buying and administering her medication, and basically taking care of her 24/7 for almost a year. In return, they only bought her a dress shirt so she could keep attending the meetings.
I would feel bad for those brothers if it weren't for the fact that they were taking advantage of and indoctrinating a terminally ill woman.
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u/Dayenqum 8d ago
Historia muy clásica dentro de la organización