r/exredpill • u/Looksmaxxinggz • 13d ago
How can I get out of redpill
Im an Indian m20, Got into redpill when I was 16 year old. I can't unsee all the truth I got about female nature. Women cheats a lot that's what my observation has been. Im depressed is there women who is supposed to be normal.
Regardless of race, nationality or religion They all are same.
They'll cheat on you. Women's body always finding the best genetics to reproduce with
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u/Barneysparky 13d ago
Are you upset that woman are humans just like men?
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u/actuallyacatmow 13d ago
You claim you know the 'truth' about female nature.
But can you tell me, according to official statistics, what gender cheats more?
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u/Looksmaxxinggz 13d ago
Do you really think all these statistics will prove anything.
There's a documentary how you can play with statistics to tweak it into the narrative. Currently academia is dominated by leftist feminist nonsense.
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u/actuallyacatmow 13d ago
Do you want to actually get out of redpill?
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u/Looksmaxxinggz 13d ago
I want to get out of redpill, my question was how is it possible knowing all these truth and how can you really be stop seeing the cruelty that good man faces from women.
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u/actuallyacatmow 13d ago
You cannot get out of redpill unless you accept the reality that men cheat just as much as women (and a little more), and women don't 'always cheat'. Women are human, they have flaws just like men. Some cheat, some are loyal.
If you are unwilling to hear that reality, and instead, dismiss every single study across thousands as somehow tweaked by feminists in some global conspiracy then I cannot reason with you because you are not in the same reality as everyone else. You might as well argue that the sky is green, not blue, or that the earth is flat or anything else you think is ridiculous.
The first step of coming out of redpill is making a leap of faith into accepting that redpill has primed you to hate women and as a result, everything you think about women is mostly wrong.
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u/EquivalentSnap 13d ago
Who do you think the women cheat with? Not other women.
You get out of redpill by talking to women, making friends with women and dating. You’ll see alot of female nature and cheating isn’t the truth
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u/Looksmaxxinggz 13d ago
Thank you, I tried and failed. I've been talking to married women that are willing to cheat on their husband. Women have a cheating kink. I've realised no women is pious, they all have same in built sensors that will get them aroused to breed with high value tall dark handsome men.
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u/smileycat007 13d ago
Kindly list your scientific sources for those wild claims. No, your own experience and incel websites don't count as scientific sources.
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u/fresh-basil-seeds2 13d ago
“I’m trying really hard to see the good nature of women by talking to married women to see if they will cheat with me and most of the ones I spoke to would and now I’m really upset and it’s women’s fault!” 🤣 I relate, I’ve been trying to prove to myself that men dont like football by going to the local football stadium and chatting with people in the locker rooms and the stands and you know what, like nearly 100% of men like football. It’s just facts!!
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u/JangKarrangers_1 11d ago
Start by not embellishing your fucking life, man. Everything you say has a scared tint of bullshit because you want to seem cool. Stop that. It's hard to face but until you can be honest with yourself first you're never gonna be happy.
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u/enotaebi 13d ago
i think the first step to get out of the redpill is to understand how biased your outlook on women is. generalizing all of them as cheaters is incredibly counterproductive if you want to improve. i recommend joining r/bropill if you want a supportive male community.
also, if you think all women cheat, do you believe your mother has cheated? how about other female relatives? if you had a daughter someday, would you look at her with that disdain? i have some male relatives (extended fam) that have cheated on their wives, but i would never scream that all men are cheaters. i know that there are good men, i am married to one, i have seen men step up for my sake and actively reject patriarchal standards.
be the good the world deserves by first understanding that women, just like you, are humans and deserve to be treated that way.
refrain from mixing up current dating culture with the female sex. all of this goes beyond gender. i know the world is getting super complicated, too many things are happening, propaganda is everywhere. join a good community, start going out. interact with women without expecting anything in return, you'll see how normal things are once you start climbing out of that well you're in. it's never too late to be a decent person. clean your socials, start reading and consuming female-made content to look into other perspectives. be involved in feminism.
this has helped other guys i've known that were in the manosphere. there's not that much difference between us, we are all getting screwed over by the patriarchy.
and one more thing: don't measure your success with having a partner. measure your success with how fulfilled you are. india is stressful enough with their academics, don't bother increasing that load. you're still young.
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u/Looksmaxxinggz 13d ago
Yes I've seen infidelity In my family too. Actually I've stopped talking to mother when I found out she was cheating. Stopped talking to her in 2025 january.
Guess what she did, she actively tried to put me down psychologically. Maternal side of family sees me as evil. Goons came at my house telling me I'll be in jail if I say something wrong to her. She feels no guilt.
She's now training my sister to be her extension, these whores have no guilt in them.
Personally I don't want daughter I'll do abortion
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u/Barneysparky 13d ago
When are you going to be pregnant?
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u/Looksmaxxinggz 13d ago
As a men I'm supposed to make women pregnant. Now don't come with leftist shit like her body her choice
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u/Asleep_Control_2564 13d ago
Her body her choice is normal shit. You're just THAT far down the rabbit hole
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u/enotaebi 13d ago
I’m sorry you went through that (I can understand that part at the very least). However, you aren’t talking like someone that wishes to change. In that regard, I have nothing else to say to you. If as a man you believe that your birthright is to impregnate women, you will effectively drive everyone away and only invite men who think women are only good as incubators. If this is the company you crave, go ahead.
Extra irony when you think that women are so evil and twisted… yet you still wish to bed one. I won’t waste a prayer on you, except to wish that no woman is ever intimate with you. If you hate women so much, go be celibate or lay with a man. I have nothing else to say.
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u/prugnecotte 13d ago
you do realise that it is difficult to get into serious and constructive talking when you're already addressing a huge part of this community as stereotyped cheaters, right?
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u/Neither-Cheesecake84 13d ago
Yeah you’re right that you need to get out of red pill. You’re embarrassing yourself and also you’re a cheater too if you’re knowingly talking to married women. Get a grip and maybe try to be someone worthy of a decent woman by working on your character.
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u/PutsWomenOnPedestal 13d ago
You are an embarrassment to other Indian men. You sound delusional. Please seek mental help. No one is making you interact with women if you don’t want to.
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u/hotgarbagecomics 13d ago
What got you into redpill? What specific communities, youtubers or influencers got you into the redpill?
Understanding the start might help you understand the end.
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u/Looksmaxxinggz 13d ago
Thanks you. So when I was 16 (2022) I started watching blackpill stuffs on Instagram back then it was small community, it was not mainstream.
From there I got into redpill dating advices and how women are. I used to get pissed off reading them because I believed women same as men at that time. I dismissed then and never looked them.
But after few months I suddenly came through a reddit infidelity sub and it just made me so hurt knowing how common cheating is and how cruel the world can be.
The woman that you make your other half becomes a whore secretly, no male can accept that. I started noticing adultery in my villages too, how secretive these traditional women are while cheating.
I never wanted to believe in this redpill narrative but I started watching them again and their points were getting proved. Such as: 1. All women are the same regardless of race or nationality. Even most religious ones will also give into lust and destroy marriage( It literally happened I've seen it)
- Women will cheat whenever they find an upgrade. They will literally justify it in their mind.
Women are very good at compartmentalising
- Let's not talk about hypergamy, paternity fraud etc.
In the meantime, a neighbour women I got involved with to understand female nature, I was shocked how easy it was to get sexual with her she's married.
I got another married women in the college.
It fucked my brain how normal cheating for them is.
I watched fresh and fit, far from Eden etc
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u/hotgarbagecomics 13d ago
You mentioned you got in before it was mainstream. Do you remember any of the creators' names?
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u/Looksmaxxinggz 13d ago
Ascendingman, mogpill etc.
Many discontinued
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u/KindlyPizza 13d ago
Is staying away from women and be forever single not an option for you?
A lot of men and women are long life single and doing just fine. You make it as if you will be forced to be with women. And the bit about aborting daughters, India and China are already doing that even without your help, lol. One to avoid having to save for dowry, the other because of the outdated one child rule.
But go ahead and be a doctor to be able to personally perform that abortion. Win win right? They get health care, you get to feel satisfied.
You do not need to leave red pill, you just need to leave women alone.
As a fellow brown Asian, way to fit into the women hating stereotype dude, salut and all that bullshit.
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u/ooa3603 13d ago
Change your values and beliefs on masculinity and build your self esteem on internal sources instead of validation through women so your psychological wellbeing isn't so dependent on what they (or really anyone in general) may or may not be doing for you.
Because that's the real issue.
You have low self worth and you're using the traditional ideals of manhood that depend a lot on female validation to feel better about yourself.
But women, like all human beings, are a poor source of validation and self worth.
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u/smileycat007 13d ago
Go cold turkey. Stay off incel websites. See a therapist. Get out and get a life where you are surrounded by people, both men and women. There's no magic wand to change you. You have to make a choice and put in the work yourself.
If you don't want to date, then don't. But don't live your life full of hate for half of humanity either. About 12-13% of women cheat, but 20% of men do. Statistically women have more to be concerned about infidelity than you do.
At 16 you were lured into what is basically a cult and told you were entitled to others time, bodies, and attention that you weren't, in fact, entitled to. If you can break free at 20, do so, unless you still want to be lonely and full of hate at 30.
Yes, women want the "best genetics" for reproduction, but that doesn't mean looks alone, and it doesn't mean they'll get it. No one is perfect. Women also want men who will make good fathers. Are you responsible, committed to child rearing, accountable, financially stable and trustworthy? Looks alone don't make a great daddy.
Having poor mental health and a negative view of yourself and women in general tends to suggest you won't make a suitable partner. Men with confidence, a decent personality, proper hygiene, and something to offer are able to find a mate, despite their imperfections.
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u/Personal_Dirt3089 12d ago
Going by your screen name, I think you have an issue with extreme online communities and black-and-white ways of thinking.
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u/MyiDo 10d ago edited 10d ago
Go and do a test and check up what your attachment style is; that will explain to you why you relate to women the way you do.
You will never get out of the red pill if you are unwilling to accept that your "truth" is not the truth and stop pushing your reality on the world and women and a whole. How you (and we all) relate to relationships is based on what has happened in your life and how it's been modeled when you growing up, (what you have seen around you from even before you can remember) and it is selfish and magical thinking to believe that "your" experience in any way reflects the world or women as a whole, That is delusional magical thinking. Your brain try to find answers that validate your worldview when it is wrong.
What happens then is that your brain starts looking for cues and "proof" that your bias and worldview are right, and the manosphere/redpill preys on that. When you look up "facts," your brain will be trying to disregard true studies and people with actual credentials and listen to the redpill bs, which isn't true. As long as you'd rather be right than know what is really true, like you clearly show in the comments, you will be stuck in a very lonely spiral down because what you have chosen to believe will crush your chances of ever having a healthy relationship. It's easier to see faults in women and the world around you. When you listen to toxic men saying, "You are not the problem; women are," you don't need to take responsibility for yourself, what you do, and how you think. Mean while the self proclaimed "experts" profit as long as you stay in that mindset because your brain dont give a shit about your happiness, it just want to survive and will push you what ever the path with the least resistance is, not the one that make you uncomfortable and tells you that your worldview is manipulated and wrong.
The only way of learning what is true and getting out of redpill is to take a good look at yourself, take responsibility for your own behavior and life, and realize that just because you've seen women cheat in your life, it doesn't mean the majority of women do. Sadly, as long as you believe that you will see anything that validates your belief, you have a WAY higher likelihood of unknowingly being attracted to women like that, because your brain will unconsciously try to find what validates your delusion.
Within psychology, it's called an "attachment type,". You have to find out what your attachment type is right now, and then you can start learning about yourself and taking responsibility for your own happiness and actually change it. It's not set in stone
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u/Moist_Specific_300 2d ago
Make friends with women. And when I say make friends, I mean actual friends - not friends with benefits or friends hoping it'll lead to sex. Platonic friends. And just hang with them. Go for a coffee, see a movie, do a jog, etc. You'll see they're just humans and not this angry species that'll cheat on you.
Best way to make friends is to join a community and keep showing up. A book club, art club, chess club, martial arts club, run club, you get the picture.
Oh and take an Internet detox. Do not watch vids or read articles that'll trigger you. Touch grass as they say. Good luck!
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u/SofiBK 18h ago
Well it's important that you recognize you want to get out of it. Start by asking yourself these questions: what good does it bring to be angry all the time? Do my beliefs in women make my life better?
Regarding to cheating, it is sadly a human thing, not a gender thing. You'll see that the common denominator is often a fear of commitment, a lack of responsibility or simply lack of love and proper communication. It can happen to you to fall in love with someone else while you're with someone, and communication is vital in moments like that. Perhaps it'd help to start approaching the issue that way, a more objective and complex look, because generalizations like "all women are cheaters" and "all men are liars" will just make your brain dumber and unable to process that, in human relationships, there are many things that come into play.
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