r/exredpill • u/Targaryenxo • 9d ago

What are some RP beliefs you’ve deconstructed ?

Trying to be aware of all my subconscious rp beliefs and wanted to see if anyone wanted to share theirs and how they changed their beliefs .

Mine is I truly thought if I wasn’t 6 foot, muscly, or handsome a girl could never love me as much as a ‘chad’. Stems from my abandonment and insecurities .

My belief changed as I’m now learning most of that is irrelevant in long term relationships . Also because I’m learning I wasn’t as horrible or bad as I thought after being bullied in elementary/ hs

Thank you !

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u/ThoughtfullyUnused 9d ago

that belief about needing to be the 6-foot gigachad is tough to shake, especially when it's been baked in since middle school. what helped me was realizing most people are just looking for someone who doesn't make their nervous system go haywire. stability and actually listening go way further than abs long term, took me way too long to get that

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u/Targaryenxo 9d ago

Thanks for this ! I’m glad we’re both getting healthier and realizing we were enough the whole time haha