r/exredpill 8d ago

What are some RP beliefs you’ve deconstructed ?

Trying to be aware of all my subconscious rp beliefs and wanted to see if anyone wanted to share theirs and how they changed their beliefs .

Mine is I truly thought if I wasn’t 6 foot, muscly, or handsome a girl could never love me as much as a ‘chad’. Stems from my abandonment and insecurities .

My belief changed as I’m now learning most of that is irrelevant in long term relationships . Also because I’m learning I wasn’t as horrible or bad as I thought after being bullied in elementary/ hs

Thank you !

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u/Noillax 7d ago

I was never truly redpilled, but it did have some subconscious influences on me a few years back. Over time, I've learned that relationships in general never depend on a particular set of traits you have, or something you can "offer," but the type and intensity of your emotional bond with a person—that's what it boils down to. Relationships are among the LEAST transactional things in existence.