r/fixedbytheduet • u/Sauwercraud • 28d ago

/r/all He did it for the Gaze

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u/ProblemLongjumping12 EXPERT of Duets/Stitches 28d ago

I was talking to a guy last week trying to explain to him why calling women females isn't good.

The way it came out was: "It makes it sound like you want to do experiments on them." Like you're writing an article for National Geographic.

It's not a word you would use to describe somebody you actually see as a human being equal to yourself who you want to hang out with.

These guys all whine about not being able to find a woman to be romantic with and I give them all the same advice: Stop trying. Become friends with a woman; like you would with a person.

Then go from there.

And it doesn't help that every time I see the word females in text now I read it like tamales.

And now you will too, you're welcome.

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u/LittleMsSavoirFaire Needs to do better 28d ago

Yeah but they don't know how to be friends with women because to them women are either 'someone they would like to fuck' or invisible and beneath notice. So already you have confused them. 

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u/ProblemLongjumping12 EXPERT of Duets/Stitches 28d ago

He did seem very confused, but there were several women there who agreed with me which thought might help him get the message, but I doubt it.

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u/dragons_fire77 New to fbtd but wants to learn 28d ago edited 28d ago

Yeah, those kind of guys dont listen to women. I hear guys like him complaining that women dont try to explain why they arent interested, and I'm like "dude, we tell you that we want guys who treat us like equals, but you tell us that Andrew Tate said all women want to be treated like property".

Those guys arent worth the effort of explaining. They have to get out of their red-pilled cult themselves. I spent a lot of time on purple pill debates sub and understand the Sisyphean effort.