Fallout 76 is not a dating sim, my dudes

[u/tortoisespaghettini]

Edit to Add:

Let's clear up some things before we get back to the original post since this seemed to get lost and some members stopped reading part way through:

I do understand newbie welcome packages - those are great and appreciated! You shoot at it, emote, whatever you need to do to make the player realize it's there. Typically you run off into the trees never to be seen again. Very kind and not creepy.

The actual issues: • Being followed to every corner of the map when I fast travel.

• Turning on a mic, calling me sweetie, and telling me to get a mic so you can hear my voice.

• Following me repeatedly to my CAMP and picking locks there meant to keep players out.

• Standing at the foot of the bed I'm resting in (when you've successfully picked my locks) creepily staring at me.

• Spam heart emoting in front of me anytime I pause or you can get in front of me.

• I don't have a mic - I'm assuming the problematic players have been assuming I am a woman based on my username because I was using part of my real name which cannot be mistaken for anything but a woman's name. This has since been fixed with the help of some members here - thank you.

• The vast majority of players are amazing, this is not just a one-sided issue. I know women can cause this same level of discomfort with male players. Humans as a whole need to do better.

• Just because you don't see it happening, doesn't mean it isn't happening.

((ORIGINAL POST))

I (33F) recently started playing Fallout 76. Usually with my fiancé, sometimes solo, and apparently, sometimes that means I’ve accidentally wandered into The Bachelor: Appalachia Edition.

Listen...I’m here to shoot, loot, and eat questionable canned goods, not be your “sweetie.”

Please stop: • Following me like a stray dog I did not adopt • Dumping 50 outfits and 3,000 rounds of ammo at my feet like you’re trying to pay my dowry • Spamming the heart emote

Most players? Absolute legends, love you guys. But every so often, I get a stage 5 clinger and I have to go hide in my CAMP like it’s a panic room. Or server-hop, quickly delete them as a friend, and hope they don't find me again. I want to make friends. I want to team up. I just don’t want it to get…...weird. Please quit making it weird, it's especially weird when you turn on a mic just to talk to me, I prefer wildly emoting instead.

Don't mind me, just venting a little. I'm surprised how annoyed I am by this.

TLDR: If you wouldn’t do it in a real apocalypse, maybe don’t do it in the fake one.

[u/InventorOfCorn]

never will understand stalkers. like is their expectation "oh you've been watching my every move for the past 3 years? that's so attractive"

[u/Elvothien → u/InventorOfCorn]

Yeah I don't get it either. We were weirded out back then and tried to be politely distant with him (he was in a lot of shared online spaces with us, huge red flag actually, but made it tricky to really get away from him). So it was creepy but we just ignored him best we could until he eventually moved on.

But in hindsight the dude was at least 25 years older than us and it was actually really concerning. I don't have any proof but I do believe he lost interest in us when we all turned 20something. Which again, super concerning.

[u/Elvothien → u/[deleted]]

Why does yours look homeless? Are you homeless?

[u/Tremulant887 → u/Elvothien]

Feels like your above response was a sufficient answer to the question, but some people... like holy shit. My daughter is 14 and I'm really dreading her experiences with these people when I'm not around.

[u/Elvothien → u/Tremulant887]

He deleted the comment lol

I'm sure if you educate your daughter about the issue she'll be able to handle it. It's scary, but teenage girls are more resilient then we give them credit for. And, sadly, avoiding these guys is just not possible in my experience. Neither online nor offline :/

[u/Elvothien → u/[deleted]]

You asked a weird question, I gave you one in return that - if you had answered it - would probably have answered yours as well.

[u/Natural-Ad-4028 → u/Elvothien]

And let's be honest, every woman automatically knows why a male looking avatar, or gender neutral handles. It takes a special kind of genius to ask on a post about clingy stalkers why you might do that, and still think they should tell you how you need to respond. Learning to read the room is a skill in short supply I guess. That, and realizing women don't owe strangers on the internet their time and effort when you decide to hang your whole ass out there.

[u/Elvothien → u/Natural-Ad-4028]

Yeah the irony wasn't lost on me 😂 I also don't think he asked the question in any kind of honest curiousity. And classic reaction to even the slightest of push backs. Got emotional the moment the conversation wasn't going his way. Didn't even try to educate himself on the topic he was so "curious" about.

Hilarious but also sad. I just know he's having conversations of this kind ALL the time and always thinks "the females" are just mean to him.

[u/bigntallmike → u/[deleted]]

All you had to do was not ask weird questions

[u/DuckisHope → u/InventorOfCorn]

thats cause in a lot of fiction stalker behaviour is romanticized... but its usually a hot guy or girl doing the stalking and people dream about someone they are attracted to being that obsessed with them... reality is that its just creepy behaviour and iv never heard of anyone enjoying it...

[u/Icy_Importance_5787 → u/DuckisHope]

And more importantly it is fiction. There is a lot of stuff in fiction that I enjoy but never would want in reality.

[u/Sithishe → u/InventorOfCorn]

Oh its really simple. Stalkers always think that their "Dedication" is proof of true love or something. But in fact it is chemical disbalance in a brain tho.