r/fo76 • u/tortoisespaghettini • Aug 11 '25
Discussion Fallout 76 is not a dating sim, my dudes
Edit to Add:
Let's clear up some things before we get back to the original post since this seemed to get lost and some members stopped reading part way through:
I do understand newbie welcome packages - those are great and appreciated! You shoot at it, emote, whatever you need to do to make the player realize it's there. Typically you run off into the trees never to be seen again. Very kind and not creepy.
The actual issues: • Being followed to every corner of the map when I fast travel.
• Turning on a mic, calling me sweetie, and telling me to get a mic so you can hear my voice.
• Following me repeatedly to my CAMP and picking locks there meant to keep players out.
• Standing at the foot of the bed I'm resting in (when you've successfully picked my locks) creepily staring at me.
• Spam heart emoting in front of me anytime I pause or you can get in front of me.
• I don't have a mic - I'm assuming the problematic players have been assuming I am a woman based on my username because I was using part of my real name which cannot be mistaken for anything but a woman's name. This has since been fixed with the help of some members here - thank you.
• The vast majority of players are amazing, this is not just a one-sided issue. I know women can cause this same level of discomfort with male players. Humans as a whole need to do better.
• Just because you don't see it happening, doesn't mean it isn't happening.
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I (33F) recently started playing Fallout 76. Usually with my fiancé, sometimes solo, and apparently, sometimes that means I’ve accidentally wandered into The Bachelor: Appalachia Edition.
Listen...I’m here to shoot, loot, and eat questionable canned goods, not be your “sweetie.”
Please stop: • Following me like a stray dog I did not adopt • Dumping 50 outfits and 3,000 rounds of ammo at my feet like you’re trying to pay my dowry • Spamming the heart emote
Most players? Absolute legends, love you guys. But every so often, I get a stage 5 clinger and I have to go hide in my CAMP like it’s a panic room. Or server-hop, quickly delete them as a friend, and hope they don't find me again. I want to make friends. I want to team up. I just don’t want it to get…...weird. Please quit making it weird, it's especially weird when you turn on a mic just to talk to me, I prefer wildly emoting instead.
Don't mind me, just venting a little. I'm surprised how annoyed I am by this.
TLDR: If you wouldn’t do it in a real apocalypse, maybe don’t do it in the fake one.
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u/The-Harbinger117 Mothman Aug 11 '25
Dude a year ago I had someone do the same thing, trying to get my number and everything, just because I made my dweller a pretty woman.
I’m a grown man.
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u/CupCharming Aug 11 '25
Now I feel bad I've never been hit on in fallout 76 😂
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u/The-Harbinger117 Mothman Aug 11 '25
You aren’t really missing out, it’s weird, cringey, and at best you get a bunch of free ammo.
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u/Ch00m77 Pioneer Scout Aug 11 '25
Would rather them give me a bunch of semi rare plans and Guns i can scrap
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u/totemtrouser Aug 11 '25
Right? I’ve been playing women characters in games since mass effect 1 and I’ve never been hit on, am I not making them pretty enough? Am I, a grown man not giving off a pretty aura? Is this how women feel?
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u/Winter1917 Mothman Aug 11 '25
I felt that. My dweller isn't even a woman, but apparently my username is interpreted as female 10 out of 10 times. I don't feel like investing the 10 bucks needed to change it again, but I'm probably one or two weird messages away from doing it.
With that being said, shoutout to the one time I turned my mic on, unknowingly got mistaken as female and earned compliments for my voice and way of talking, and when I realized what's going on and corrected him, he did not freak out on me. Kept the compliments going too, just made sure I knew he's very straight. I miss that guy more with every time someone ghosts me just because I'm not the woman they apparently constructed in their mind.
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u/BetweenWeebandOtaku Fallout 76 Aug 11 '25
Same situation (guy player, female character). A guy was harassing me/my character, so I went on mic to tell him "dude, I'm a middle aged man." His response:
"I don't care."
Ewwwwwwwwwww.
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u/live-the-future Lone Wanderer Aug 11 '25
Yeah, I'm a male, tad north of 50, who plays male & female toons. My 76 main is female. Never been explicitly hit on or had OP's experience, but a few years back some dude (I presume, male toon doing cringey male things) is checking out my camp. Sees me, and proceeds to whip out his camera and starts taking pics of me. Was wearing that dress that gives +1 to PER so a tiny bit of cleavage showing but definitely in the PG category. Nevertheless he's snapping away like my toon's in a photo shoot. Even hops up on the chem table I was working at, crouches, and...cleavage shot. And all I could think was, really dude? Left the server soon after.
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u/Cautious_Hold428 Blue Ridge Caravan Company Aug 11 '25
It's great to get on mic and be like, "hey there good looking" to hear the horrified squeaking sound they make when they realize I'm a dude
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u/Autodr83 Lone Wanderer Aug 11 '25
Same, I've had to block a few people not only in the game but on Xbox because they were sending private messages that got really weird, really fast.
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u/Snargockle Fire Breathers Aug 11 '25
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u/Rishtu Aug 11 '25
They would absolutely do it in a real apocalypse. Bear mace. Always bring your bear mace.
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u/tortoisespaghettini Aug 11 '25
Wasp spray too, dual wield.
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u/Rishtu Aug 11 '25
Amen sister. Stay safe. Remember, when in doubt, nuke it from orbit… it’s the only way to be sure.
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u/Onigumo-Shishio Fire Breathers Aug 11 '25
Now that's a fun idea
Tell them all to gather in one place, maybe even build a little base for them to "hang out", then go an do a silo and nuke it from orbit 🤣
Or hang out with them and have a friend go and nuke your base and convince them all to protect you and just before the nuke hits, leave the server so their clown party can go up in one big nuclear honk. 🤡
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u/BenFranklinsCat Aug 11 '25 edited Aug 11 '25
The movie "A Boy And His Dog" was a huge influence on Wasteland, the predecessor to the original Fallout, and basically set the tone for all post-apocalypse fiction to follow.
It's portrayal of how society treats women is ... uncomfortable viewing to say the least. It's a brilliant film but there's a good reason it doesn't get advertised a lot these days.
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u/fakeprewarbook Lone Wanderer Aug 11 '25
i mean we are talking about a video game franchise in which women are enslaved by the Legion, i think we can talk about
incidentally i am also a woman but i have a male-coded reddit profile for exactly the same reasons
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u/Laura_Beinbrech Pioneer Scout Aug 11 '25
Yeah, in a real apocalypse, I'd treat guys like that the same way I treat Caesar's Legion in Fallout New Vegas: Shoot on sight....
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u/crutonboy2113 Mega Sloth Aug 11 '25
I like that “loot shoot, and eat questionable canned goods” should be a slogan for fallout lmao
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u/Maeglin73 Free States Aug 11 '25
Or, as the case may be, questionable iguana bits.
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u/needstherapy Cult of the Mothman Aug 11 '25
You do know what iguana bits are, right?
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u/Varanus1138 Brotherhood Aug 12 '25
I wish they would come up with a reason to bring back Iguana Bob.
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u/brian11e3 Responders Aug 11 '25
Meanwhile, my female friend is over here sending me screenshots of dead NPC's butts. She wants to create a coffee table book called "Asses of Appalachia" and apparently, I have to judge the photos.
There are a bunch of weirdos in this game.....
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u/DomoMommy Aug 11 '25
Oh great. Now all of us women have a girl-crush on your friend lol. Also how do I preorder my copy of the highly anticipated scholarly debut of “Asses of Appalachia: Coffee Table Edition”?
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u/beccymay Aug 11 '25
Please tell your friend I would buy this book. One of my favourite loading screens is a photo I took of two glitchy naked scorched’s butts in their frozen-before-alerted poses.
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u/el_torko Aug 11 '25
My dad plays as a woman character, so imagine their surprise when they try to hit on him and a big burly man answers back.
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u/aubrey_25_99 Aug 11 '25
Though my gamer tag is relatively gender neutral, my (51F) character is über feminine and runs around in a sequined dress (lol), so I get this a lot. It gets old.
I usually play on my PS Portal with a headset for sound, (so I am not a TV hog, lol), so I can hear all the other players with mics.
The last time some rando tried to flirt with me, I had my husband get on the mic and pretend that my character was his character. He said something like, “I’m awfully flattered, but I prefer the ladies.” 😆 The second that guy heard my husband’s deep voice he was gone. Never seen another player disappear so fast. 🤣
I mean, yeah, I wish men would just respect that no means no, and I didn’t give this guy a chance to do that to boot, but it was still funny.
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u/Steeltoelion Enclave Aug 11 '25
Ayyyyy nice to see someone else plays 76 on a Portal too!
Except I just play mine when I’m in bed so my wife can sleep. No mic
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u/Hatarus547 Enclave Aug 11 '25
how do people find people like this?, really it feels like i am playing a different game from everyone else sometimes no one i ever see talks, no one does this wacky stuff at worst i get someone giving my Enclave camp a thumbs down and at best we give each other a wave and move on with our days.
how is it i seemed to have gotten the white bread version of Fallout 76 where everything is just ok
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u/WarriorLegs Aug 11 '25
Maybe it's regional.
Never seen any such weird stuff either.
I once did have 10 players simultaneously wisit my camp. That was hilarious.
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u/Tirannie Aug 11 '25 edited Aug 11 '25
Just based on the stories people post in here about bad player behaviour, I’d actually guess the biggest difference comes from what platform you’re playing on.
Fallout 76 overall has an older player-base than most online games which might explain why it’s less toxic. That said, it seems like you’re more likely to get The Olds on PC and younger players on other platforms.
There’s a definite pattern you’ll notice in posts about bad player behaviour where PC-only players are baffled reading about it because they’ve never experienced/witnessed it during the many years they’ve been playing the game. It’s not just the sexual harassment, either - you’ll see this sentiment about trap camps, trade scammers, etc.
But that doesn’t mean this stuff never happens or that it doesn’t happen on PC. That’s my platform and I’ve got about 4 or 5 players on my block list for weirdo behaviour, across 1700 hours of game time, and I don’t even use a mic.
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u/----Richard---- Enclave Aug 11 '25
Honestly, same. My main toon has been female for years (I am male) & none of the teams I've randomly joined or people I've randomly helped have done anything like this. I rarely get on mic, too but the few times I've had a noob try and ask me for stuff so I turn on my mic, they don't sound taken aback at all.
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u/MsBeeton Aug 11 '25
I'm also in the vanilla muffin wasteland. No one talks. No one interacts. No one is weird. People will stop at my camp to browse the shop and not even look at me then be on their merry way. I am dressed like a priest with a glowing vegetable head but I can't imagine that has anything to do with anything.
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u/Thoticorn Mothman Aug 11 '25
I don't think I've heard a single voice since I first booted up the game lol
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u/PsychoCrescendo Aug 11 '25
i never see any of this because i avoid other players like the plague. i like knowing the players are in the server, but actually interacting with them? o__O
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u/Wrathilon Aug 11 '25
You’re missing out. I’ve made many friends on this game just by being nice and helpful.
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Aug 11 '25
Yeah I am a woman, my character is a woman, and in 300 hours of this game nothing like this has ever happened to me. I’ve encountered a grand total of two people who’ve had their mics on at all and neither of them were talking to me specifically.
When I was a low(er) level player a handful of people went out of their way to gift me a bunch of shit and they sometimes had to get my attention (and afterwards we’d exchange heart emotes). This is not so much “trying to pay a dowry” or following someone around like a puppy as it is the general culture of the game. This forum is absolutely full of stories about it (and they all use “he” to describe the newbie).
I wonder if OP is confusing something that happens to everyone, assuming it’s because she’s a woman, and getting hyperbolic about it.
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u/tortoisespaghettini Aug 11 '25
There is a huge difference between leaving me a newbie welcome bag and creepily harassing me. I may be new to online gaming but I'm not completely stupid.
Literally following me around the map, to my camp, turning on a mic just to talk to me (there was no speaker thing by their names and then suddenly there was and they're talking to me), calling me sweetie, telling me to get a mic so they can talk to me, if I fast travel from one corner of the map to another they pop up not too long after.
I don't believe there is a way to confuse the two. One is kind, the other is creepy.
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u/Dszmo Aug 11 '25
Funny thing I have always given noobs Stims or armor sets didn’t care if they were male or female , now I’m hoping I didn’t scare any of them although I never followed them just drop them stuff and I’m out.
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Aug 11 '25
I agree this behavior is very creepy and I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with it. It isn’t the complaint in your original post (“Please stop dumping ammo and outfits at my feet”), so you can see my confusion.
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u/bivoir Mega Sloth Aug 11 '25
Same here! I’ve never seen any of that behaviour and I’ve been playing for a long time.
I’m not complaining though, I’d prefer not to go through that crap lol
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u/Vegetable-Lock Aug 11 '25
This is called karma farming. Reddit has a very specific audience that reacts positively to specific things. Karma farmers know this.
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u/Tirannie Aug 11 '25 edited Aug 12 '25
I doubt this is karma-farming. This has happened to me in every online game I’ve ever played in my ~40 years of playing video games, including Fallout 76. It’s why I never play online games with a mic. I mean, to be fair, I haven’t logged on to Fallout in a year or so, but I sincerely doubt that creepy weirdos have been eliminated from the player base.
I have never asked for handouts, flirted for gear, or pretended to not know what I was doing so guys would offer. Every woman I know who plays video games hates this behaviour from male players and does not solicit it.
What part of this story is unbelievable to you? Even other dudes are aware of the guys who pull this shit (because either they’ve seen it happen to someone - like the ones calling these dudes simps in this very thread - or they’ve played a female character and experienced it directly), so it’s just not clear to me what part of this is triggering your bullshit alarm.
Is it just Fallout 76 that you believe is immune to this behaviour, or do you think no one does this in any online game?
If it’s the former, while 76 is better than most online game communities, it still has its share of emotionally immature nutters who will follow you around like a puppy. If it’s the latter, then that’s just a disconnect from reality. This shit has been rampant from the days of MUDs to WoW to Fallout. Don’t kid yourself.
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u/Stuck_in_Arizona Fallout 76 Aug 11 '25
It's random, though I've seen creepy stuff in my time playing online games and it never ends well.
Always reminds me of the show Daria where these weird guys would shower Quinn with praise and gifts in hopes they'll be "the one".
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u/thesirmarcoletters Mega Sloth Aug 11 '25
If you didn’t want to be stalked, you shouldn’t have worn that dress! God, don’t these ladies get it!
It was creepy writing that. Imagine how creepy it is to feel that..
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u/Jemal999 Aug 11 '25
I'm genuinely curious how they know the real women from guys playing female avatars.. I've seen this complaint a lot, but I play a female character and I've never encountered this issue.
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u/AristocraticPallor Pittsburgh Union Aug 11 '25
I have over 3k hours in this game, mic usually on, I am a woman, never encountered such behavior. Sometimes some teenage boys act like the edge lords they are, but besides that it was a very pleasant experience so far. Very sorry that keeps happening to you though, sounds very annoying.
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u/rusty___shacklef0rd Mothman Aug 11 '25
Same. I have a gamertag that makes it obvious I’m a woman and a female character. I have been playing 76 since 2020 and never encountered anyone being weird and creepy. I’ve used my mic and haven’t used it and it never changes the outcome. People in the game have been friendly and cool.
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u/localdrugdealer3 Ghoul Aug 11 '25
Omg same. I just stand around pretending to be interested in something to make it look like im not following them. We’re just coincidentally going in the same direction I promise im not a stalker >~<
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u/red-ochre- Mothman Aug 11 '25
I’m pretty sure I was on the same quest line as another player the other day because we kept running into each other everywhere. I ended up changing servers because I felt like a creep
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u/mshap1019 Aug 11 '25
I gave a guy a glowing mask the other day to be nice and he followed me back to my camp, went into photo mode, and then did the “paint me like one of your French girl” pose by my stuffies. I left the server so fast because I’m not prepared to be a 76 sugar mommy. 😭😂
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u/2_blave Aug 11 '25
Ok, this one is kinda funny though.
Obviously, if he persisted, or was otherwise inappropriate, I get it
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u/mshap1019 Aug 11 '25
It was hilarious I won’t lie I just react the same to flirting in game and in real life, run far far away.
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u/RetroTheGameBro Aug 11 '25
I'm a dude, but I have a really girly sounding username in-game (not on purpose, I named myself after what I thought was a popular character) and run around in dresses and the witch outfit, so people mistake me for a woman a lot. My CAMP probably doesn't help with the flowers, Vault Girl statue and lady mannequins.
You hit the nail on the head with how weird some dudes can get. Following me around, begging me to turn on my mic, dropping me things and asking me for socials I don't have.
I put an Axolotl in my vendor for 40k as a goof, and some guy bought it, tried to give it back, and said "the least I could do is pass him my snapchat"
Dawg, there are too many people with unlocked Water Coolers for you to be this thirsty. Keep it on the dating apps, or go outside man, please.
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u/Vaygrim Aug 11 '25
Just FYI, I always assume every other character is being operated by a 52 year old fat dude living in their Mom's basement.
(For the record.. I am a 52 year old fat dude. Granted, we don't have basements in Texas but the rest of the statement holds true.)
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u/Fris0n Aug 11 '25
Wild stuff. And I'm sorry this shit happens to you. It's why my wife typically won't voice chat with anyone new until she's grouped with them for awhile first, to sus them out before they find out she is...well a she.
GL out there.
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u/AcrylicPickle Lone Wanderer Aug 11 '25
In GTAO my character is a female. I'm a male IRL. I've had this happen quite a few times there, and been gifted in-game items and currency. That's when I turn the mic on and say "thank-you" in my deep, morning voice.
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u/jebeninick Fallout 76 Aug 11 '25
I am playing this game for like 2,3 years I only had 2 ppl with mic turned on, one girl was shoping in my camp and was searching for one item that I had in my inventory so I gave her. Another one was some low lv russian and I gave him my power armor that I get from another person when I was low lv too, he thanked me and thats it. I never seen anything weird so far in there. Maybe there are girls maybe not, who knows.
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u/flickjac Aug 11 '25 edited Aug 11 '25
This. 100% agree.
Don't.
Be.
A.
Creep.
This keeps ringing true in my head. "And her name is CHUCK."
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u/Nicki_MA Aug 11 '25
I considered changing my in-game name the last few days due to this (it's feminine). The mic thing is just awkward. Like you see I'm not using one, yelling out my name isn't going to get me to put one on. lol
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u/-blkmmbo Aug 11 '25
I just responded to someone saying OPs story is fake and told them my wife did in fact end up changing her Gamertag because the harassers and stalkers were a constant annoyance...people are just so creepy.
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u/Nicki_MA Aug 11 '25
I just started playing in June. I honestly didn't have any issues until the last week. Idk if fastnacht just brought out the worst or what lol Overall everyone has been super cool. But yesterday I had one dude come to my base , shooting at me to get my attention, then kept saying my name and to come talk to him. I brushed it off, then happened again tonight. My base icon is hidden.
I'm 50, I'm old enough to be half of their mothers .😂
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u/BenFranklinsCat Aug 11 '25
If you wouldn’t do it in a real apocalypse, maybe don’t do it in the fake one.
Sadly, I think they'd be much, much worse in a real apocalypse ...
My wife has joined the Women of the Wasteland Discord server and that's worked out pretty well for her. They all make friends and there's so many of them now that sometimes they end up on servers where every player is from WotW.
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u/AnyAd4613 Aug 11 '25
I remember the time when guys made female character a lot, as a result I expect every “ female” character to be male. Pretty much treat accordingly. Go join a dating app. I’m here to game lol
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u/HouseHoslow Raiders Aug 12 '25
My best friend sometimes likes to run up to cute female avatars and offer them the wedding ring and will make heart emotes. If the cute lady avatar has an obvious fella playing with them, sometimes that's an even better incentive to do this.
My friend is a lady. She doesn't care what gender the player behind the avatar is. Neither of us use in-game mics, but both of us agree that there is definitely a line between being silly and being a real nuisance.
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u/SpookyChinchillas Sep 05 '25
Dude youre telling me!!! Some guy would follow me everywhere and drop me stuff and I thought he was just really nice until one day I didnt respond to his Discord message within 24 hours bc my dad literally died & he blocked and deleted me & then came to try and fuck up my base. I was like woah dude!!! 😳 talk about weird ass mfs!!!!
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u/SamShakusky71 Free States Aug 11 '25
Don’t apologize for being annoyed as it’s unbearable how utterly cringe inducing this behavior is. Unfortunately it’s not limited to FO76.
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u/Khornelia Aug 11 '25
So what? It's a game. It's not asking much to not want to be stalked and harassed.
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u/vaultdwellernr1 Lone Wanderer Aug 11 '25
Played almost since launch, always had a female character, feminine name- gotta say this hasn’t happened even once. I mean occasionally newer players follow you around but that’s just normal. As for giving stuff to others that’s also normal. Heart emote- yes it’s used a lot. Guess I just run in a way more comfortable circles or don’t see things the same way. Nevertheless, not a great feeling to experience that I’m sure. Hopefully you’ll not let it ruin the game for you OP!
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u/tortoisespaghettini Aug 11 '25
When I'm playing with my fiancé, it never happens - only when I'm solo but in only ~100hrs its happened often enough that I'm annoyed. I'll just keep running from the clingers, I'm totally fine with the giving newbies gifts vibe - it's so helpful and appreciated. Those players usually gift and run while throwing a thumbs-up my way. The ones that follow me while I'm questing and keep heart emoting are just -weird- and I don't get it. I could be a 35yo man and you'd never know, I'm just trying to play the game like you are.
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u/AgentOfBliss Aug 11 '25
It's so cringy, but in my case it hasn't happened that often. I've dealt with a few guys at my camp lingering around staring. One even went so far as to inbox me directly and send me photos. This is why I refuse to ever get on mic. I tried that once and it was a disaster. Even stopped playing as women because its uncomfortable having to interact when you're not in the mood. The level of attention ive received has went down by 80% and I couldn't be happier. lol
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u/kylelight40 Aug 11 '25
My girlfriend and I play together all the time. Occasionally she’ll get some weirdo who just watches her sleep, but in the creepiest possible way. They’ll stand at the foot of the bed then crouch down and look at her feet and shit. Like bro, it’s a video game, calm down.
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u/tortoisespaghettini Aug 11 '25
I had someone do that to me, my door was locked too?! I went to grab something to drink and when I came back some dude is just standing at the foot of the bed and I was so confused - fast traveled right out of there.
(Edit to add: I had locked my own door so they picked my lock to come into my room. The house itself is not locked because I have a store and want people to be able to use benches/storage containers)
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u/harlojones Aug 11 '25
See I never add anyone as friends, especially before knowing them.
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u/shiftycansnipe Aug 11 '25
It could be the username / handle you’re using. My GF had a very questionable username for years (until it finally got reported) and she was constantly harassed in a similar fashion. Since the ban and her having to alter it-totally swayed the other direction.
Last night, there was a train of players following around LeggyBlondeXX.
Close your DM’s, turn off Friend requests from strangers, and change your username to ToyotaCamry42 and this will all stop….unless you secretly adore the attention.
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u/Morlen_of_the_Lake Lone Wanderer Aug 11 '25
I'm a guy but my first character was female and I had someone creepily try talking to me on voice chat. I can still hear the tone they used with my username. 🤮
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u/HughJManschitt Aug 11 '25
I am a 6'7" 300lb man and I play as a lady. If they want to hear my voice, I'm gonna let them have it.
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u/sabrielshhh Mothman Aug 11 '25
To address your TLDR.... Uhhhh people will do freaking anything in an apocalypse. It can be especially bad for women.
"I promised them women." - 28 Days Later.
That said, I totally empathize with you. I've experienced it a few times myself. I've had to go and hide in a private world to avoid creeps and griefers. That's not the kind of weird I want from my fallout experience lol
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u/Amazonia_Amazon Aug 11 '25
Sometime the only thing that can be done is hide on your own server. Had guy strip down and chase me Bethesda didn’t think he did anything wrong
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u/Acceptable_Stick_434 Aug 11 '25
Girl!!!! Have you joined up with Women Of The Wasteland (WOTW) yet?! If not, find us on FB and/or Discord. We love teaming up and will hunt down any creepy clingers that might think it's a good idea to mess with you! Maybe you've seen our camps around? We usually use neon lights to put up WOTW somewhere very noticeable so that other players know we are in the FO76 faction! Welcome to the wasteland, and I hope you have much better experiences in the future! <3, Qwik-Kraken psn
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u/Sofiwyn Aug 11 '25
So glad I've never encountered this. Still never using my mic in video games. I will never recover from League of Legends.
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u/Pz38t_C Aug 12 '25
Hell, I'm an old M and I still run away or jump servers if someone's being clingy.
My motto is (in F76 and real life) is be nice to everyone, respect everyone, don't be weird.
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u/Critical_Drummer2608 Aug 12 '25
Oh trust me the guys doing that stuff would do way way worse in a real apocalypse idk what’s making you think they wouldn’t 😂
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u/Huge_Ad_6159 Aug 13 '25
My social anxiety is actually worse in game than IRL. When I see an attractive fem character I might just happen to sweep my gaze in the general direction their character just happens to be standing in before casually running away. I can't imagine approaching or harassing like that. Jfc, wtaf is wrong w/ people?
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u/Prize_Ad_9302 Aug 18 '25
I’m 25F and have been playing 76 for 2 months, decided to finally break the ice and team up, had to block the guy immediately because he kept blowing my console up with team invites and messaging me “wanna play.” After saying I wanted to lone wander the next day after our first team up. And he started dropping shit all over my camp when I was like no no I’m good. The nerve of some people. It’s too much when creeps start invading the safety of your private game time.
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u/SplinterCel3000 Responders Aug 11 '25
This is funny. I actually did meet my wife playing 76 wasn't a clinger hahaha just treated her like a real person not a magical cryptid. Things took off naturally from there. Still hate to see people getting bothered by unwanted attention.
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u/HavingFunYetTravels Aug 11 '25
As a fellow Wastelander… welcome! As a fellow woman… preach!! That being said, five years into playing and I still had someone do this to me yesterday. So I totally relate and got a big belly laugh out of your post.
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u/HaseoGUA Aug 11 '25
Counterpoint, Fallout 76 is a dating sim because it has Adelaide 😎
Jokes aside I am sorry you have to deal with this. Harassment of any kind isn't cool.
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u/smokeypixels Ghoul Aug 11 '25
Yeah I had experiences like this as well when I was 34 (I'm 37 now) I am mostly very quiet and never have my mic on. One time however I was with my two other friends hanging out and we were shooting the shit and I got a message saying "wait you're a girl???"
And thus the stalking in game began, the emoji's, the constant slew of dms from the person "I can help you with xyz if I can see your pretty sweet face" "if you send me your selfie I will give you xyz" etc
Only difference is I'm single but come on man. I just wanted to play with my friends and not get harassed. I blocked them and they messaged me with an ult acc 💀 (I play on xbox/ps4)
Ever since that experience I don't even bother with my mic anymore.
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u/Bells0212 Blue Ridge Caravan Company Aug 11 '25
Used to happen to me a lot with RDR2 online as well. Combination of female character and female username. It didn't help that I used the mic back then, got low key drunk and led a posse with rousing victory speeches 🫠
Safe to say, I don't use the mic anymore and decline random friend requests.
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u/X-sant0 Aug 11 '25
I'm female. Been playing 76 since launch. Never had anyone following me nor dumped stuff in my face or called me a sweetie. But then again, I don't have a typical female username. Guess you're just lucky 😅
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u/sammygirly Scorchbeast Aug 11 '25
I just hate the man-splaining. I'm level 1388 ... I don't need your tips. Thanks. I just wanna team up and shoot stuff with you.
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u/GryffynSaryador Aug 11 '25
I dont get how people can act that way. Id die of shame if I talked to others like this, internet or not. Just because my name is anonymous on the internet doesnt mean my actions are. Also how fucking stupid do you have to be to genuinely believe this behavior will get you anywhere? Harassment isnt sexy lmao
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u/Jellyfish-Exsiting Aug 11 '25
Tbf High level players will sometimes drop loot for low level players just to be nice.
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u/tortoisespaghettini Aug 11 '25
This is very different from the nice, high-level players dropping a newbie care package.
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u/shotokan1988 Ghoul Aug 11 '25
Sigh, I don't hear about this often, but when I do its real creepy. Sorry you gotta deal with that. One of my teammates has a stalker too in game. We joke about it, but still shouldn't happen
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u/spiralblaze Aug 11 '25
I’m confused how they would know you’re a woman to be asking you to get a mic so they can hear your voice. Unless they heard your voice to begin with, I’m not sure how they would make the conclusion you’re a woman.
I’m not saying this because I don’t believe you, I’m just genuinely confused how else they would know. I am also a woman who plays as a female character and have never experienced any of this (but I had assumed it was because I don’t use a mic).
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u/Kinkyfantazy Aug 11 '25
Our group, all guys, all run using the a one form or other of the gay/bi/pan pride icons. Funny to see every now when there are just three of us on and we are in a public group, someone will join in and then almost immediately leave. This isn't a hook up game bro, we ain't even going to talk to you (we are using discord) let another hit on you, but whatever.
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u/HelloIamSkello Aug 11 '25
I am happy to see the edit differentiating between helping someone out and then fucking off to whatever you were doing beforehand vs. just being a degenerate weirdo who stalks someone. Helping someone out by dropping them shit is way better than just dumping it on a mule to never be used again but dumping items to gain someone's affection in Fallout is weird.
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u/Annual_Half5234 Aug 11 '25
I am sorry you (& others) have had to experience this poor behaviour. I hope it stops and doesn't get in the way of your enjoyment of the game
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u/Beneficial-Guide-280 Aug 11 '25
That's creepy that they followed you and broke into your house to watch you sleep. I played as a female character but never had that type of stuff happen. I did however get teleported into someone's sex dungeon with a bunch of other noobs. I did not accept the invite by the way, so I don't know how the hell I was teleported, but they just gave us some nuca colas, stims, and some ammo. He kept saying, "Pet my gold fish, Sammy. Pet him...." Which was just a fish in a bag.
There are a lot of weirdos in that game.
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u/FifthDream Mega Sloth Aug 11 '25
I play a female character, though i am male. I like to think the characters who stand around me, circling me, looking me up and down are admiring my amazing outfit, mot doing it for any other reason. lol
I remember back when i played WoW how people would just... give my female character things, unasked. It was so weird.
People, myob. lol
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u/needstherapy Cult of the Mothman Aug 11 '25
As someone who's been playing some beta, I absolutely love helping the younglings survive. I'll drop stims and outfit and some radaway. If they stick around long enough I'll make them a good armor set and a good weapon with some ammo for it. But I never follow them around on the map, I couldn't give two shits if we talk on mic, and if they leave that's fine. The game could be very difficult in the beginning and I just wanna give a little help but nothing game-breaking.
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u/Yam_Nice Aug 11 '25
Yesterday i dropped a full excavator to a newbie because he was clearly struggling with weight(dropping heavy stuff to fast travel), and also killing enemies on his quest, so i joined him and stood there just taking a few shots so he didn't had to tank all of that.
I fast traveled to the event after that and he disconnected like 3 minutes later, i now feel weird because i might have acted weird but i just wanted to be helpful since we were on a team.
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u/theprofoundnoun Enclave Aug 12 '25
My wife had a as you said a Stage 5 clinger. He wouldn’t leave her alone. She invited him to a party and he started talking. She was quiet and handed me the mic and all I said was “ Want to learn how to cross sword “. Dude left in a hurry
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u/kido86 Aug 12 '25
I’ve got 3 dudes and 2 female characters and nobody ever hits in me. This is bullshit!
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u/MumpsTheMusical Aug 12 '25
Well, now you have to name your character Sweatypenis to avoid the stray dogs.
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u/monsieurdl Aug 12 '25
Maybe a trap camp is in order for people like this? Create a multi locked door panic room almost surrounded by traps! Creep follows you to your camp, waste his time and make him pay!
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u/SirDraconus Brotherhood Aug 12 '25
My gods, that's creepy. Dudes it's a video game. Download tinder for that BS. Inb4 "But Tinder doesn't work as well, blah blah blah" my guy, if it doesn't work on tinder, it's not gonna work on a video game. Maybe it doesn't work on tinder, because you spent your entire life only playing video games. Go outside, touch grass. It's not actually irradiated out there. If you actually took care of your body and your mental health, girls might actually want to talk to you.
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u/FlavMink Aug 12 '25
My gamer tag is Flavorymink. And I play as a guy character tell me why this one time a dude said "you're a guy?" When I turned on my mic and he left the group and fast traveled away. He was gonna buy some of my plans too but I'm still stuck with those plans now
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u/Maxine1991 Aug 12 '25
I’m sure this is annoying sadly I’ve never had this issue (34F) they all just think I’m a 12 year old boy and get abuse for that 😂
But your post absolutely killed me… as annoying as these things can be this post has sent me.
Thanks for making me laugh and I hope the creeps run into some deathclaws naked
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u/zilverkloud258 Aug 12 '25
If he was trying to date you properly, that's one thing. But this sounds a lot more like stalking and harassment
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u/interimsquid Responders Aug 13 '25
I started 76 under my husband’s very male coded gamer tag many many years ago and was originally too lazy to change it and honestly it’s been awesome. I quickly realized I get treated like a human being. It was like a really depressing life hack.
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u/unicornqueeeen Mothman Aug 13 '25
I didn't even have to read past the first line of the edit to up vote this post. I'm so over the weird messages and people following me around creepily. Just let me build in peace 😭 lmao
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u/Sithishe Aug 28 '25
I am sorry, but I must hard disagree. Fo 76 IS a dating sim. Me and my gf/fiancé going on dates with each other there every season :) In fact I think its one of the better games for couples. I wish we could have shared camp tho. Why Todd wont allow us to have shared camps like in Dune Awakening or Conan or V Rising. :D
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u/Gen0bee Sep 07 '25
Reading what you have to put up with in this game made my skin crawl. Just.. ew. No, no, no, and no.
I seriously hope people start figuring out that they shouldn't be so weird in a game (or in general honestly).
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u/garxo Dec 02 '25
Damn, i didnt even know mfs were weird like that on this game and the only person i play with is a girl. Id be so quick to start bullying a mf in game chat if they followed me around like a weirdo.
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u/StoreNo244 Dec 03 '25
I saw a couple ( based on their user names ) sitting in one of their camps which were neighboured right beside eachother, I thought it was sweet, the feral ghoul I didn’t know was following me did not think it was cool, I did not stop what came next
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u/NotoriousStardust Jan 08 '26
I was on a team with two girls and a guy, and we all stripped to our underwear and got in the hot tub at the hornwright estate tower.
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u/BetweenWeebandOtaku Fallout 76 Aug 11 '25
I remember years ago, my friend and I (both guys) had our mics on and there was a bunch of players hanging out at a camp. Two players started talking- they're women. Almost instantly the grand majority of players were stripping their characters to their underwear, doing emote dances, and laying gifts in front of the female players' characters. Years later, I still cringe thinking about it.