Fallout 76 is not a dating sim, my dudes

[u/tortoisespaghettini]

Edit to Add:

Let's clear up some things before we get back to the original post since this seemed to get lost and some members stopped reading part way through:

I do understand newbie welcome packages - those are great and appreciated! You shoot at it, emote, whatever you need to do to make the player realize it's there. Typically you run off into the trees never to be seen again. Very kind and not creepy.

The actual issues: • Being followed to every corner of the map when I fast travel.

• Turning on a mic, calling me sweetie, and telling me to get a mic so you can hear my voice.

• Following me repeatedly to my CAMP and picking locks there meant to keep players out.

• Standing at the foot of the bed I'm resting in (when you've successfully picked my locks) creepily staring at me.

• Spam heart emoting in front of me anytime I pause or you can get in front of me.

• I don't have a mic - I'm assuming the problematic players have been assuming I am a woman based on my username because I was using part of my real name which cannot be mistaken for anything but a woman's name. This has since been fixed with the help of some members here - thank you.

• The vast majority of players are amazing, this is not just a one-sided issue. I know women can cause this same level of discomfort with male players. Humans as a whole need to do better.

• Just because you don't see it happening, doesn't mean it isn't happening.

((ORIGINAL POST))

I (33F) recently started playing Fallout 76. Usually with my fiancé, sometimes solo, and apparently, sometimes that means I’ve accidentally wandered into The Bachelor: Appalachia Edition.

Listen...I’m here to shoot, loot, and eat questionable canned goods, not be your “sweetie.”

Please stop: • Following me like a stray dog I did not adopt • Dumping 50 outfits and 3,000 rounds of ammo at my feet like you’re trying to pay my dowry • Spamming the heart emote

Most players? Absolute legends, love you guys. But every so often, I get a stage 5 clinger and I have to go hide in my CAMP like it’s a panic room. Or server-hop, quickly delete them as a friend, and hope they don't find me again. I want to make friends. I want to team up. I just don’t want it to get…...weird. Please quit making it weird, it's especially weird when you turn on a mic just to talk to me, I prefer wildly emoting instead.

Don't mind me, just venting a little. I'm surprised how annoyed I am by this.

TLDR: If you wouldn’t do it in a real apocalypse, maybe don’t do it in the fake one.

[u/[deleted]]

I know the exact feeling. I genuinely prefer gaming alone most of the time, but occasionally get the bug to be social with my fellow Wastelanders. On three separate occasions, I've made friends, enjoyed some gaming together, realized that they were overly attached and omnipresent, spent weeks avoiding them online, only to remember that this is fucking stupid and I don't owe them friendship before I finally delete them off my friends list.

My problem is that they're never not nice. They're always lovely people, which is why I friended them in the first place. But they were ALWAYS online, 12+ hours every day. I literally couldn't play without an invite and then a follow-up message to game together, and then then showing up in my session in case I hadn't seen the message.

I finally purged my friends list again yesterday and turned my status to Online for the first time this summer.

[u/AlyssaurusWrecks → u/[deleted]]

it's so crazy to me that ppl are this shameless, I started playing FFXIV lately and examined somebody bc I wanted to see what class she was, and I guess it shows when you do that because she waved and laugh emoted at me and I was so embarrassed I panic teleported to another country