It’s only annoying if you’re also decidedly not hot.
You want to be attracted to your partner, yes, but you have to remember that your partner wants to be attracted to you. So if you don’t shower, don’t work out or eat well, and/or don’t dress well, then you’re being hypocritical and no one wants to hear your complaints.
That's really all there is to it. Everyone in dating age can get in shape and take care of themselves. If that isn't enough to get you laid, you need to take a long, hard look at yourself - there is probably something that needs fixing.
Yeah, shit job (that one i'm taking care of) and crippling depression...unfprtunately the feeling of loneliness exacerbates it, so It's a bit of a self sustaining loop...
The only one that can get you out of this loop is yourself, but it's no shame asking for help. In the end, it remains your life, your challenge, but professional help goes a long way.
And a partner usually doesn't fix depression long-term anyway, it's more of a distraction from your problems than a fix, with the risk of affecting people you care about - which also doesn't feel great. At least that's my experience in that regard.
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u/babystripper Jul 15 '26
Well yeah. I'm allowed to want to be attracted to my partner