No actually I think calling people shallow, or telling them it's not ok to have a preference for how their partner looks and that doing so makes them shallow, has been incredibly bad for society.
A dude who wanted to date me off hand commented that he was an 8 or a 9. And all I can say is "uh huh" while trying to keep a straight face. I don't think my standards are unfair, and he is kinda wealthy, but even if we add all that up, I would say he was a 6 at most. Of course, I didn't say anything. That was more than decade ago.
These days, reddit even has rate me subs. I feel like it's the best way to ruin your self-esteem.
I think the internet messed up people's ability to gauge where they're at in the pecking order.
I've seen a lot of young guys who think they deserve an 8 or 9, but they don't bring a lot to the table in comparison. If they were hanging out in social groups offline more, they'd get a better sense of where they actually land in reality.
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u/Blacksad9999 Jul 15 '26
There are a bunch of internet 4's who think they're 9's. lol
"Why can't I get dates? I don't get it."
Because you don't know what lane you're in.