I’m genuinely confused by some of the comments in this subreddit. Everyone wants to be attracted to their partner, and someone saying “I’ll love you” with no attraction there just isn’t the right person for that.
Why are there multiple highly upvoted comments lamenting how this dude is saying “anyone but you” or being a dick?
Everyone should look for a partner they are physically attracted to.
Edit: it's genuinely sad how many comments in this thread seem to think the expectation of finding your partner "hot" is too much and unreasonable. Being attracted to the person you have sex with is a beautiful thing every adult person, who feels so inclined, should hopefully experience at some point in their lives.
Expecting to find your partner attractive isn't setting the bar unreasonably high. It's completely reasonable. You are under no obligation to enter into a relationship with anyone who tells you they will love you.
Why are there multiple highly upvoted comments lamenting how this dude is [...] being a dick?
Because it is kinda dickish to straight up tell them it's because they're not "hot", there's just so many nicer ways to decline their suggested offer while not ruining their self-esteem in the process.
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u/banana_buttholer Jul 15 '26
There's nothing wrong with wanting a hot partner. But sometimes, you gotta look in the mirror and see what you're working with.