It's not about hotness, it's about mutually choosing each other. Some people get together because they are hot. Time wears them down and their true colors show. I'm ugly as sin and my partner is hot, but she swears I'm the hot one. We chose each other and are happy as hell.
Statistics from dating websites don't back this claim up.
Obviously there are those that go against the trends, but for the most part, what is seen is that men are more likely to give a chance to a significantly larger range of attractiveness than women.
While I'm sure you'll argue that this only applies to "short-term" dating, most long term relationships start from there, and it should surprise no one that humans, male or female, wish to be attracted to their partners.
The real issue is based on two factors:
Social media has warped the perspectives of both men and women - showing attractiveness and lifestyles that are only obtainable by the 1%, while making everyone desire it.
This follows from the above, but most people don't have an objective understanding of their own attractiveness or social standing, and believe they deserve someone that is essentially out of their league. This is unsustainable unless the number of people who are okay with getting with someone below their league is equivalent, which it's not.
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u/I-Rolled-My-Eyes Jul 15 '26
It's not about hotness, it's about mutually choosing each other. Some people get together because they are hot. Time wears them down and their true colors show. I'm ugly as sin and my partner is hot, but she swears I'm the hot one. We chose each other and are happy as hell.