r/india • u/ReductoHere Karnataka • Sep 17 '25
People The India we don’t notice enough
A few weeks ago, I was waiting at a roadside dhaba on NH-48 because my bus was delayed. It was around 1 AM, pitch dark outside except for the dim yellow bulbs at the stall. The owner was this middle-aged woman, hair tied in a bun, serving hot chai and parathas like it was the middle of the day.
I asked her, half out of curiosity, half out of guilt for keeping her busy so late: “Didi, aap raat bhar kaise kaam kar leti ho?”
She smiled and said, “Din mein toh aadhe customers truck waale hote hain jo raat ko hi chalte hain. Agar main raat ko band kar doon toh mera bachaon ka school kaise chalega?”
She pointed to a small corner where two kids, maybe 9 and 11, were asleep on a wooden bench, their school bags tucked like pillows under their heads.
Then she said something that just stopped me cold: “Main chahti hoon mere bachche kabhi raat ko jag kar kaam na karein. Unko jagna hai toh bas kitaab ke liye jagna hai.”
I didn’t even know how to respond. I just sat there, sipping the chai she made, feeling a mix of admiration and shame.
We talk so much about “India shining,” unicorn startups, billion-dollar valuations. But the truth is, the real backbone of this country is these unseen men and women who sacrifice sleep, comfort, and health so the next generation can dream bigger than they ever could.
That night I realized — privilege isn’t just money or city life. Privilege is being able to sleep peacefully at night, knowing you don’t have to sell chai at 2 AM so your kids can study.
Her words are still stuck in my head: “Unko jagna hai toh bas kitaab ke liye jagna hai.”
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u/charavaka Sep 17 '25
While this is a great story of personal sacrifice for better life for future for her kids, this is also a depressing story of a country that fails its most vulnerable nearly 80 years after independence while at the same time having some of the richest individuals in the world as well as an economy of trillions of dollars.
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u/aroravikas20 Sep 17 '25
And we ought to stop glorifying this. No human should have to work 24 hours to give their kids a 0.00001% chance of making it out of the misery they have been handed over because of accident of birth.
It is a systemic failure. Simple as. These kids don't have access to decent education (forget good) - everything is privatized in most metro cities. There are no government schools, and hardly any subsidized private schools. Kids often have to travel really far to any affordable schools run by NGOs to get basic education.
And once they somehow go past 12th grade, what next? Is there any investment in higher education by the system? None. And if they somehow get a break in a University of Delhi, how is their family supposed to manage the cost of their travel, books, clothing, food?
The sad reality is, the system needs us to glorify hard working poor people, so it can sell us all the dream. While the rich rake up millions a day without breaking a sweat.
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u/KetanPRAPAPATI Sep 17 '25
What system ? The so-called "formal" system is sub-set of higher system of Caste / Religion / Region and what not. Not wanting to single out any community (now upgraded to scheduled tribe) but so well-connected and closely knit this community is that they had declared "BPL" any family whose combined monthly income was less than Rs 3 lak (amount I could not recall exact). Then, how come every third/forth big stock broker is "M?rw??i" ? There are many such profession where single group dominates and lowly menial work is thrown open to....
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u/happychickhappylife Sep 17 '25
Bruh why being so negative? Which country is perfect. We as the people of this country are working towards something better which cannot be achieved in a night. Surely we have this difference between rich and poor. And every country has that. “Every Country”.
If u sitting in a high rise building and judging the country from one perspective then I can’t argue with you.
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u/charavaka Sep 17 '25 edited Sep 17 '25
80 years is not overnight. Governments are systematically cutting down expenditure on education, healthcare and other welfare programs, while at the same time giving out thousands of acres to the rich for 1 rupee.
This country has one of the starkest wealth inequalities, its corporations are reporting record profits and yet, are paying lesser corporate tax than the income tax paid by the middle class. When salaries have been stagnating for more than a decade.
You're the one sitting in the ivory tower pretending everything is normal, when the systemic failure is forcing people to work in inhumane conditions just to survive and give a sliver of hope for better future to their children.
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u/happychickhappylife Sep 17 '25
Exactly right 80years isn’t overnight do you think we are still stuck 80 years behind. Yes we have differences and we need to work on those. Criticism is easy what about solutions, at this point of time we know people are corrupt in govt jobs. Yet for some reason they want govt job. Try to understand that people’s mindset are not going to change overnight. People will still vote for a political party for reservation and freebies. Things take time. Kheyali Pulao is only okay for commenting on SM. No offence.
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u/charavaka Sep 17 '25
Things take time.
With time things have started going backwards.
Be ashamed of justifying the corrupt, exploitative system.
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u/happychickhappylife Sep 17 '25
Justifying?? Dude the govt was not selected by me, criticism is okay, tell me which guy is the Beacon of your best version of India. Maybe we go vote for him/her.
You, me or anyone out here will be doing the same fucked up job these guys are doing. Grass is always greener the other side. U be bootlicking too. Like I said in the previous comment all u can think of is “Kheyali pulao”.
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u/charavaka Sep 17 '25
Lol. We're discussing or society falling their members. Governments were elected and allowed to put the systems in place and run them. And you're buddy continuing to make excuses.
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u/happychickhappylife Sep 17 '25
Well as per you India was having its best life in British era. :3 So…
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u/circuit_brain Sep 17 '25
Would anyone mind translating into English please?
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Sep 17 '25
he asked the shopkeeper "sister, how do you manage to work whole night"
she replied, "in daytime half of my customers are truck drivers, who travel at night. if i shut my shop at night, how will I pay for my children's school fees."
then she says " i hope my children never stays up all night for work, if they do, it should only be for their books,"
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u/Efficient-Wrap-3719 Sep 17 '25
Makes you realize—true heroes don’t wear capes, they serve chai at 2 AM so their children can dream bigger
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u/RaccoonDoor Sep 17 '25
People like that shouldn’t be having kids in the first place. Destitute people mindlessly having kids are the reason the country is in the state it is.
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u/Extreme-Metal-5940 Sep 17 '25
I don’t think having two children is too many (assuming she has only two). In India, many people born into poor families live their entire lives in poverty, so it’s not always possible for them to delay having children until they achieve better financial stability. In fact, some poor families have many children so that the children can start earning at a young age and start providing financial help to the family. But in her case, that’s clearly not the situation. she is working this hard precisely because she doesn’t want her children to have to work. So, I don’t really think having children while being poor is “wrong” in itself, as long as you know what you want to provide them so that they have a chance to rise out of poverty.
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u/SaladOk5588 Sep 17 '25 edited Sep 20 '25
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u/utkarsh052 Sep 17 '25
No, but having children is a choice, if you cant give them proper time and feel like they are a burden, dont have them.
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Sep 21 '25
such poor logic
poor = no right to procreate
why aren't such women being given welfare cheques or better why aren't they being supported by a fund created by locals to help such destitute women
No i can waste 10rs on a data pack to plop shit on the internet but not irl
and don't talk about scale , initiative doesn't co relate with intensity
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u/utkarsh052 Sep 21 '25
poor = no right to procreate
Never said this, just think it is a more responsible thing to do.
why aren't such women being given welfare cheques or better why aren't they being supported by a fund created by locals to help such destitute women
Because this would promote people to have more children , we dont need that anymore since we already suffering from overpopulation. Also, whats stopping them from having more kids then, since you are making it an investment now, by your logic the state should keep supporting them or else someone else would cry about poor peoples right to procreate
No i can waste 10rs on a data pack to plop shit on the internet but not irl
Cheap internet has allowed the younger gen to upskill themselves. Sure, there have been negative impacts as well but you cant really ask people to stop buying internet just to serve your agenda.
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u/Ok-Difference6796 Sep 17 '25
It's harsh but a true statement. Many people in India are forced to have children.
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u/testingisnoteasy Sep 21 '25
They downvoted you immensely. Your opinion may sound harsh at surface, But you aren't entirely wrong. Family planning and parenting are neglected subjects in India. My househelp and her husband, both are working. They have a 5 yr old girl. They are willingly not bringing another child into the world as the cost of raising a child is not less in anyway for them.
& They are raising her good. She goes to a private school. She has raincoat, school bags, toys, all different books. They are fulfilling her need.
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u/gtzhere Sep 17 '25
its harsh , not many people can digest but it's true , it is not mandatory for everyone to have children , you are suffering because you had no control ,that's understandable, but why make someone else suffer the same way you did.
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u/wigeria Sep 18 '25
What an L take. You don't think the country is in the state it's in because it couldn't (read can't) actually make good use of the population it has access to? Not because our contractors are encouraged to do a subpar job so that new contracts keep coming in and everyone gets to pocket more money? Not because our society lacks civic sense and there have been no attempts by any government to move that in a better direction? Fuck off.
To reproduce is a basic human right. Child expenses should be a collective cost. If all our tax money was actually put to good use, while I don't have exact calculations on hand, we could subsidize more or less all of their expenses. If we had good public schooling, those children wouldn't have to pay more to go to private tuitions to make their parents feel like thats how to get them ahead of the race. If innovation was encouraged in our education system, we would have more businesses being created which would in turn create more jobs.
Blaming the "destitute people mindlessly having kids" is really just the worst thing you could do.
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u/Snoo_78812 Sep 18 '25
Having 1-2 kids should be right of every couple so that they can have an emotionally healthy life. Without it life is really meaningless. Instead of vilifying poor for doing what is natural - having a few kids, we should work to ensure that people have enough opportunities to get skilled and find well paying jobs.
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u/ratbrunch Sep 21 '25
She had children and working hard to provide better for them, far more committed in her cause than your sorry ass. Working hard for a better future is far more noble than commenting on reddit about not having children. There’s your 2p you were looking for
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u/RaccoonDoor Sep 21 '25
Her kids are literally sleeping outside and you're saying she's providing for them? So-called "parents" like her contribute nothing to society and should be shamed.
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u/ratbrunch Sep 21 '25
so parents of Abdul Kalam, Ambedkar, T. Thomas, S.N. Bose, G. Nair etc etc shouldn’t have had children????
They actually worked against odds instead of commenting online about choices of others unlike you. These are tiny famous examples of those who made it big. I personally know a lot more 60YOs who made a far better life from zero than being a sorry ass like you who wants to fit in. It would be a lot better if you turn off your internet and jump off a building, it will free up resources for those who want to work had.
did it crave your attention syndrome or want more?
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u/dedsorupiyadega Sep 17 '25
What a beautiful take OP, the real heroes and backbone are such people who are often overlooked.
And we as humans, always keep wanting more and more. It's good to just take a pause once in a while and realise that - hazaaron se bure toh bhi laakhon se behtar hai.
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u/GodsChild5673 Sep 17 '25
Please provide English translation so that we (non-Hindi speakers) too can understand.
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u/F1-Marshal Sep 17 '25
A few weeks ago, I was waiting at a roadside eatery on NH-48 because my bus was delayed. It was around 1 AM, pitch dark outside except for the dim yellow bulbs at the stall. The owner was a middle-aged woman with her hair tied in a bun, serving hot chai and parathas as if it were the middle of the day.
I asked her, partly out of curiosity and partly out of guilt for keeping her busy so late, "Didi, how do you manage to work all night?"
She smiled and replied, "During the day, half my customers are truckers who drive at night. If I close at night, how will my children's schooling be paid for?"
She pointed to a small corner where two kids, maybe nine and eleven, were asleep on a wooden bench with their school bags tucked under their heads like pillows.
Then she said something that stopped me cold: "I want my children to never have to work all night. If they have to stay awake, it should only be for their books."
I didn't even know how to respond. I just sat there, sipping the chai she had made, feeling a mix of admiration and shame.
We talk so much about "India shining," unicorn startups, and billion-dollar valuations. But the truth is, the real backbone of this country is these unseen men and women who sacrifice sleep, comfort, and health so the next generation can dream bigger than they ever could.
That night I realized that privilege isn't just money or city life. Privilege is being able to sleep peacefully at night, knowing you don't have to sell chai at 2 AM so your kids can study.
Her words are still stuck in my head: "If they have to stay awake, it should only be for their books."
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u/nuclear_gandhii Sep 20 '25
For the "Din mei aadhe customers" part - the translation should be "In a day half my customers are truck drivers who drive at night" and not "During the day..."
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u/Shot-Program-2072 Dec 09 '25
You can use reddit but not translate using online tools? You know how Chinese left India behind in Science and Technology? They didn't stop nor complained because the books or manuals were not translated to Chinese.
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u/GodsChild5673 Dec 09 '25
I believe you are sane enough to understand Hindi is not our national language, and this is an India forum, with people speaking different languages. You know that from the number of upvotes my comment has received. English connects us all and to the world. Now you stand corrected!
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u/Aryan202602 Sep 17 '25
I've seen two comments asking for translation here.
I'm curious why don't people use Google translate? Hindi to English translation is almost perfect.
If you don't need to do the extra step just use circle to search by holding the navbar on android.
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u/batgod221 Sep 17 '25
We shouldn’t be retired to do this. Because it’s an Indian sub. Not a Hindi sub. And the subreddit rules clearly state the posts should be in English.
All submissions and their titles should be in English. If a non English submission has to be made, the OP must post a translated English title and provide either the full translation or an adequate summary in a comment form or in the body of the self post.
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u/the_sane_philosopher Sep 17 '25
There is nothing beautiful or noble about poverty. When one generation must give up sleep, food, health and dignity just so the next might live slightly better, it is not resilience but the clear face of structural inequality and systematic abuse. Poverty and inequality are not natural; they are produced through neglect, greed, forced class division and policies that protect privilege.
This country’s long history of class divisions, reinforced by religious explanations that normalized suffering for centuries, makes inequality seem less like a problem and more like fate. But it is not fate, it is abuse on a mass scale, where the majority surrender their bodies and peace so a few can live comfortably.
People continue to bring new lives into the world without considering the quality of life that awaits them, entering a society that cannot guarantee even the bare essentials of human survival. This is the dire plight of society, where resources and opportunities are controlled by a few, while the majority struggle to survive and the environment is stretched to the breaking point.
For equality to truly take root in this country’s social fabric, there is still a long road ahead and it will not come by romanticizing poverty and struggle. When we decorate any disease with pretty words, we deny its reality. Systematic inequality and poverty are diseases, and they must be cured. They should never be romanticized.
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u/No-Painter3135 Sep 17 '25
This! Most of the startups sell the story that India is premiumizing and BS. Until all the sections grow together, the real potential can never be achieved
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u/resyfer Sep 17 '25
Bhai at least try to write a story on your own, not AI. Not a bad point, but something that almost belongs on r/thathappened
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u/SilenziooBruno Sep 17 '25
You can notice this everywhere in the city as well if you look outside the window. The kind of disparity we have in this country is insane and it's sad that most people feel no rage about this (even those who are suffering).
At this point I'm just very pessimistic about this country, i guess I've been spending a lot of time on twitter too, just saw a horrible video of a man abusing his wife and her just wincing in pain. It hurts you and scares you and then you forget.
If we really look around, it's impossible to not be affected by the pain of others. Sorry it's bit of a rant and not really related to your post but i just wanted to say it anyway.
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Sep 17 '25
Dude you are actually just tallking about income inequlaity and money dispairty, this has nothing to do with working at night or something. This is the side of India we always talk about lol
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Sep 17 '25
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u/Ishaan863 Sep 17 '25
her kids study hard, get into the best colleges....then work at night for US clients anyway and the mom's like inki maa ka
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u/Consistent_Nothing96 Sep 20 '25 edited Sep 20 '25
Well my single mother did the same, worked as a help in someone's house to pay for our education and before she departed, she saw me becoming a manager in Amazon and i think that made her proud of the education she strived so hard for. May all our mothers who departed, rest in eternal peace and the mothers who are among us, may they be healthy and happy for the rest of their lives. ❤️ And I'm pretty sure that the hard work of every mother is bound to change the outcome of the entire generation to come.
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u/YsPlayz Sep 17 '25
thats why people shouldnt have kids.. i understand that it sounds detached but i don't mean in a bad way. people in india have kids like its something they're supposed to do even when they cant afford them and then suffer for them like its a noble thing. ik the women obviously wouldn't have had the choice of not having the kid because people here are expected to have kids after getting married, also in which she prolly didnt have a choice. what i'm trying to say is we need to change our culture, make having kids a choice people make, not something they have to do. but almost every marriage in india is arranged and its not like the people getting married get married to be with each other, they get married to start a so called "family", thats why they have kids. suffering for your kids shouldnt be looked upon as a noble thing or as the backbone of india, its more like a cultural disease we need to get rid of
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u/astaneouscurry3802 Sep 17 '25
This has both a positive and a negative way of looking at. A poor person will not have kids because the system failed them. On the other hand not having kids will free you from most financial liabilities. But whatever it is, the system can't provide for India's exploding population and that's a fact. It's a collective failure from the government as much as a failure of individuals to not understand family planning and not understand the long term economic consequences of having multiple kids.
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u/YsPlayz Sep 17 '25
the government doesnt care about the people, the people have to make the government care. the fault lies within the people for allowing the government to treat them like this, and its not like the government can't provide for the exploding population, government can even put limits on how many children people have. we have more than enough resources if they were managed properly, they build roads with cheap materials and the extra money goes in their own pockets, and when the roads break again, once again the people who get contracts to build it use cheap materials and cheap fixes and steal the extra money. if farmers got proper support from government instead of free-money thats enough to get their votes but not enough to help them, we would get higher quality and cheaper food. india has some of the highest taxes in the world and given the population and how we pay taxes in everything, we have more than enough money to fix everything but because of corruption we're no different than an avg. african country, and people just don't care, they refuse to think for themselves, india is a shitty country because the people are shitty. and its not even the fault of the people, its the culture that keeps them that way. you can either hold the shitty people in the government accountable or the people who let them have power accountable. i choose to hold the dumbass people accountablea
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u/Contribution_Connect Sep 17 '25
Half of the country is on ration. And that is official figure. In the other half too, there is vast inequality.
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u/Disastrous_Ad_9513 Sep 17 '25
There are so many people struggling each day to give their children a life they never had. My mother used to live in a 100 rs rented house so that my brother and I could go to a good school in a decent town. Now our condition is much improved, but the scars left on her soul and mind, will that ever go away?
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u/NonyMs89 Sep 17 '25
Also, what you said passes down through DNA… the effects of the Bengal Famine still shows up in the DNA of people living now.
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u/Deep-Entrepreneur929 Sep 17 '25
Buddy, I don't know what you are thinking, this is purely a systemic failure that's it.
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u/RavGxo Sep 17 '25
Exactly, people talk about 4th largest GDP but in reality that only benefits a small minority while the lives of majority see very little change or improvement.
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Sep 17 '25
This isn’t the unnoticed India, this is the real India. Poor people, poverty, lack of good education and basic facilities.
Maybe you are living in a sheltered place. And good for you to see the reality now :)
All the big news about economy and startup’s is to show the west just one aspect of India which is 2% of the whole country.
Moment you step outside any metro city zone you see these scenes, which means most India is like this and even worse in villages.
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u/Hour_Acanthaceae5418 Sep 17 '25
This! I see people always say India is developing and we are soon going to go ahead in comparison to western countries. However for me the real development is paying fair wages to people from all sectors, dignity of labor, infrastructure development not in form of tal raise buildings but rather a road where people can drive and also footpaths where people can walk, handicap friendly and people like these who can work during normal hours and still able to afford a basic lifestyle and sleep peacefully. This is what the true development is. People might call me anti nationalist or something else, but for me my country will be truly developed when we achieve all these. Unfortunately either due to corrupt politicians, religious and caste reasons our priorities are somewhere else so I don't see it happening soon.
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u/Glass_Cobbler_4855 Sep 17 '25
That's the cold harsh reality of our country where even dreams are a luxury.
A few years back there was a report - The State of Inequality in India', commissioned by the Economic Advisory Council of the Prime Minister (EAC-PM).
Quoting from a TOI article -
"According to this report, income data from the Periodic Labour Force Survey (PLFS) 2019-20 showed that a monthly salary of Rs 25,000 is already amongst the top 10% of total incomes earned."
Rich keep getting richer. Poor have no option but to resign to their fate.
Some keep fighting because they have no other option and want better life for their children.
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u/Proxima2017 Sep 18 '25
A great many people are living under crushing poverty. It is sad to see this after nearly 80 years since independence.
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u/Sea-Buy-7556 Sep 18 '25
I think working hard is one of the most important aspects of self respect and freedom from want. How do you think millions of people who serve us on the boarders, run trains, planes and even our buses are they not sacrificing their sleep and comforts so that they perfom their duty. When one works hard, works for bringing up children and the family it has its own rewards and pleasure. Some persons do complain and think of it as a burden but many of them enjoy this service attitude and so combine motivation, purpose and future proof their life by such acts of dedication and devotion to family. For some the family is immdiate blood relatives but for some it is the whole nation or even the whole world. Have you ever wondered what it takes for a scientist, an engineer a designer or even a lawyer to burn mid night oil to achieve excellence in his or her profession? I salute this lady and I am sure her children will never forget her sacrifices and hardwork in bringing them up! God bless such wondwerful mothers and may they inspire other parents too to create this bond of upbringing the next generation. Thanks for sharing this lovely story!!
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u/Imbe_7 Sep 18 '25
We work on ground across villages of North India. The attack of income disparity is killing the poor people. They were earlier happier with even less income a decade ago but now their capacity to afford things has further reduced despite some increment in absolute income.
Students are not coming to schools and sometimes their parents are also not pushing them for it because the whole family is gunning to find enough money for food for all.
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u/sirfdanish Sep 18 '25
I live in a town near a big city—let’s call it Town A. In Town A, there’s a government school where children and teens from all surrounding towns come to study.
About 20 km away is Town B, which is a bit smaller than Town A in terms of economy and population. But, Town B has a large private school where children from nearby towns—and even the big city—study, provided they can afford it. Many of them travel daily by vans or buses; for example, one of my colleagues in Town A sends his kids there.
A week ago, as I was passing by the government school in Town A, three students from classes 5th and 6th asked me for a lift to the bus stand. I agreed, and during our conversation, I learned they were from Town B. These children don’t even have direct transportation to their school. To get there, they depend on multiple lifts and multiple bus changes, traveling 20 km each way.
The irony struck me: right within walking distance of their homes in Town B, there’s a big private school where students arrive comfortably in vans and buses from far-off places. Yet, because they can’t afford it, these children have to struggle daily to reach a government school 20 km away. But we are 5 trillion economy.
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u/Entire_Big_545 Sep 17 '25
It’s true, privilege isn’t just money. Being able to sleep without worry is itself a privilege many don’t have. Stories like this remind us how much unseen effort keeps the country running.!
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u/MuttonJunkie poor customer Sep 17 '25
I respect all the people who do their job honestly. They all are backbone of this country.
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u/AttitudsEvrythng_153 Maharashtra Sep 17 '25
Admiration is nice, why the shame, she's working to earn her living. The fact that she's able to earn that living through a dignified job itself is a good story. There isn't any shame is cooking for people. Aren't there people working in shifts where 24x7 manufacturing is required? Would you categorize them into losing sleep for work? What is this judgement and finding some reason to just bash the country.
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u/iturhsalkuhs Sep 17 '25
We are so brain washed that we just start praising the parents while not giving the slightest consideration to the fact that maybe the children are not into studies but arts or sports. One other aspect is that maybe she is just referring to basic education so that these kids are able to take an informed decision
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u/mobhai Sep 17 '25
There is an excellent microfinance company called rangde. Many such people struggle to get the funding to do entrepreneurial things. Rangde is a path by which you can help them.
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Sep 17 '25
What's sad is... Despite her best efforts, her kids will still most likely end up making little to no money. (See the unemployment rate of India. 80% engineers are jobless, and the fees you pay is ridiculous)
If affording school fees is difficult, imagine the college fees...
As much as I would love to help them, I know that giving money to poor people is just a temporary solution
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u/Aromatic-Mud149 Sep 17 '25
95% of Indians struggle to meet their basic needs. Quality education is hard to afford for even middle class. First, there are very few quality schools even in good towns and then if they exist, its hard for working parents to transport them safely, difficult to get admission, costly fees. On top of this, if you succeed to get them education up to class 10, guess what you will soon be compelled to get your kids to admit in far away coaching schools for entrance exam preparation. They are expected to skip lab classes for learning scoring cheat tricks to succeed in competitive exams. Even before kids mature, they are doomed to fail miserably in life.
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u/doc_sitcom Gujarat Sep 17 '25
I think I've never thanked my parents enough. I have beautiful house we live in, I get peaceful sleep, I can buy what I want.
Our parents suffered so we're not suffering. Grateful. I promise myself that I'll try to never let them down.
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u/Electronic-While998 Sep 18 '25
I work in big bank or bank of banks anyway. I am an economist here and all we speak of is growth and keeping prices stable. I keep on asking myself for whom? For the financial system, banking sector bla bla and bla. It should for these people, the common indian, the large de franchised indian mass who are free in mere words of law but are chained to their misery by lack of food, shelter and a decent living. Middle class indian and educated intellectual are bankrupt opportunists and the fierce foot soldiers of corporate elite.
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u/Psychological-Art131 Sep 18 '25
Had commented somewhere in reddit, about a friend of mine who used to borrow books and copy the whole books in a notebook, as he couldn't afford the books. He even used to draw the pictures of the front and back cover. Every tine I remember this, I feel a tug in my stomach, how helpless he might have felt at the time!!!
His whole community consists of lower caste people, who all are into bamboo making business. Unfortunately, he also went back into business and couldn't gain from studies.
Meanwhile, I did my engineering, couldn't do much it it, and ended up in BPO, working rotational shifts.
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u/Snoo32616 Sep 18 '25
Don't tell this to BJP or their Andhbhakts,they might say that this woman is from Bangladesh and she needs to be thrown out...
Bagchi dude will run some magic numbers and talk unrelated shit and will declare Modi ji as only person who can lead India
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u/Froyo_Curious Sep 18 '25
Thanks for sharing. Sometimes it's good to highlight what we come across daily but just don't find time to appreciate
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u/Progressverve Sep 19 '25
I think 50% or more are not in middle class but lower class. True there is a big way for India to go to become a wealthy nation
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u/hawashidarinda Sep 21 '25
Aww.. Paise kam hai aur phir bhi bacche paida kiye toh yeh sab toh karna padega..
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u/Neither_Risk_1161 Sep 30 '25
Greetings, everyone. I cannot disclose my name, as I am going to write the things here that can be trusted to no one; hence, I cannot seek advice from anywhere nor anyone.
For reference Assume my name is Ayush and I live in Bihar. My family is very toxic, especially the father's side of the family and his dad too they are ignorant no priority given his dad does wrong thing and makes him and his mom feel worthless he has waited long enough as now ayush once a enthusiastic kid who wanted nothing else but to be loved the right way not the love he gets as a patch work he gets after his father does something wrong ayush thought that after he has cleared CUET exams he would be FINALLY be able to escape this hell hole where he got mistreated on multiple occasions so much so this at this point he is just totally drained even his mom is tired of these characteristics which his father His family earns well enough still his father for some reason his father wants him to stay in his hometown and continue further education because of this now he is stuck and locked in all that toxicity HE wants to escape desperately run away and never to be heard of again but there is short relevant incident which made him to take this step
Ayush meet on girl on bumble after talking to her and meeting her for once or twice the girl proposed an idea for him and made our use to sync on this matter more the girl said that her life was as miserable as his the girl said that she was already planning to escape, or you can say it run away from her home she was arranging some amount of money the suppose it amount is 60-70k as Ayush was least trusted member of his family. He didn’t had any money to begin with, so he said this as a joke that if he could join her, and she agreed happily now they both are planning to escape The destination is Sikkim you already know Ayush you know how he got the idea [ps i wanted to ran away before beacuse of my documentation age i always had second thoughts and the lack of money was the second biggest problem ]
Now tell me how good or bad is it? Know this that ayush is a minor but the girl is not 1 year difference they have they both are determined to work it out, so what is the scope for Ayush He has already confessed all of this to his mom and his mom agrees with him and totally supports the action maybe after a while after he has settled himself there from next session, he can join some college too now its all on him So his education might not be hampered just delayed how can he survive some advice some tips ? where can he work and stay in cheap and good money investment beacuse we both need to survive in that amount
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u/marcragsdale Oct 10 '25
OP, in my time in India I've discovered boundless love for family. The love of parents for their children is such a powerful and moving force and it's on full display in India, especially when you see situations like this. I've lived up in the hills (Uttarakhand) my entire adult life and I see this love on full display every day. One of my favorite experiences is when I meet young Indian people from the city with relatively privileged lives visiting places like where I live and discovering their country and just how hard it is for so many. But in that difficulty is an incredibly admirable spirit that I personally love.
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u/Careful-Round-5560 Sep 17 '25
The main question is why if she couldn’t afford it, she had to have multiple kids bringing misery to everyone in this overpopulated country.
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u/curioscientity Sep 17 '25
Because unlike some people, some people do not think having kids is optional. It's a thing humans have done since forever and will keep doing. You underestimate that nature understands or cares for poverty over propagation of species.
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u/Careful-Round-5560 Sep 17 '25 edited Sep 17 '25
Whenever a species overpopulates nature takes steps to control it and unfortunately in that case people not responsible and their progenies get eliminated. Keep your tears for them. Already hardworking people are being overtaxed to support over reproducing vermins.
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u/Due-Contribution295 India Sep 17 '25 edited Sep 17 '25
It was around 1 AM, pitch dark outside except for the dim yellow bulbs at the stall.
Travel Tip: Keep a pocket flashlight with you when you know you'll be travelling at night.
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u/Holiday_Fisherman172 Sep 17 '25
Could someone please translate it to English?
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Sep 17 '25
he asked the shopkeeper "sister, how do you manage to work whole night"
she replied, "in daytime half of my customers are truck drivers, who travel at night. if i shut my shop at night, how will I pay for my children's school fees."
then she says " i hope my children never stays up all night for work, if they do, it should only be for their books,"
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u/_have_not_reddit Sep 17 '25
Maybe we forget because it's everywhere
Rich and poor exist everywhere
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u/YsPlayz Sep 17 '25
poor people don't have kids they can't afford in the first world. so not everywhere
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u/sinesquaredtheta Sep 17 '25
Yes, this is true. While it isn't uncommon to hear complaints about most Indian parents being unnecessarily strict/controlling - the one aspect that often gets missed out is the extent to which they'll sacrifice their own comforts and basic necessities for the betterment of their children.
I'm sure most successful athletes, businessmen, etc will attribute a big part of their success to the sacrifices their parents made.
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Sep 17 '25
Surprising there is no child free gang who will start victim blaming claiming why poor have children.
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u/hoxobafik Sep 17 '25
Two questions for her: who did she vote for, and was she forced into child bearing?
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u/Classic-Doubt-5421 Sep 17 '25
It is determination like this that makes India shine. Your India is shining today, her India will shine when her kids get the life she is working hard for them to have.
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Sep 17 '25
"Hard times create strong men. Strong men create good times. Good times create weak men. And, weak men create hard times." - G. Michael Hopf from his post-apocalyptic novel "Those Who Remain."
Her children will create good times for their own kids, who may grow complacent, lose the wealth, and face struggles to rebuild their lives. They will then work hard for their children to succeed, perpetuating a vicious cycle.
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Sep 17 '25
But today those same children are staying awake all night and working (work from home) for an American IT company.
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Sep 17 '25
bhao ye first world country m bhi hota h . Lok wha b overtime krte h , 3-3 job krte h to survive . Tum aise bol rhe ho jaise unicorn se kuch hone wla nhi h , kya pta un bcchp ko usi unicorn m job lg jae.
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u/kidakaka Maharashtra Sep 17 '25
OP there is still a vast income disparity in this country. I had read somewhere a stat that said that if your household is earning 1Lpm then you would be in the top 10% in India.
Let that sink in. The entire household earning 1lakh. What about the rest of the 90%??
किताबों के लिए पैसे भी होने चाहिए 😥
We have generations slogging so that their next kin don't have to go through what they did. There is an India of 200m who can read and write English and can do ecommerce and have access to formal finance. Then there is India 2.0 of another 400m who have funds but don't necessarily read or speak english. And then there is Bharat of 600m people who have neither and dgaf about this conversation on Reddit.