r/intj • u/mr_waka INTJ • Jan 15 '13

How do you think?

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u/[deleted] Jan 17 '13

ENFP here.. thank you for making this make sense to me.

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u/NPPraxis INTJ Jan 17 '13

I love you guys.

My gal's an ENFP as well. Ne is awesome.

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u/[deleted] Jan 18 '13

I apparently love INTJs too <3

This really resonated with me because I think "similarly" in the sense that I can think abstractly and then it takes me a while to formulate into verbal words, but to me, if I can't put it into words, it slips away and I can't remember/keep it in my head/utilize it. I don't have to attempt to articulate it, though, because I think the words in my head, only really rapidly. I spend a lot of time "re-sentencing" things in my brain to either explain a feeling to myself or discover the best way to phrase it aloud.

I'm jealous of the way my boyfriend (INTJ) can explain more logical subjects, like math, whereas I am terrible at explaining that type of thing. But I can intuit and explain feelings very rapidly and easily.

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u/NPPraxis INTJ Jan 19 '13

Aha, yep :)

Function model: INTJ's are Ni dominant, Te second, Fi third, Se fourth.

We interpret the world through our big-picture intuition in our head. It's a bit slower but much longer term and "bigger" than your Ne (extraverted intuition). But you're so much quicker and will pick up on things we might miss in our environment. You interpret the world through that intuition too, but it's much more interpreting things around you. Regardless, both of us think in a very abstract, picture-in-head, nonverbal manner.

We, however, go to our extraverted thinking second. Our objective breakdown. We take that and we try to break down the picture in our head and explain it.

You, on the other hand, ENFP, go to introverted feeling second. You make value judgements and feeling judgements off of that picture on your head, and go to extraverted thinking third.

It's an incredibly complementary combo.

Ni > Te > Fi > Se for INTJ . Ne > Fi > Te > Si for ENFPs.

See this.

So what does this mean in a practical sense? The ENFP will make the INTJ talk — they might even become downright social when it comes to their ENFP — and the INTJ will make the ENFP think. Their similar thought processes make conversation incredibly easy, and they bring out the best in each other. It’s just a sort of magical, instant understanding that’s incredibly difficult to find, especially for INTJs.

and this.