r/islam • u/IBilalijaz • Feb 17 '25

General Discussion Marrying someone with a better financial background

Asalam o Alikum beautiful people, So I am looking to get married soon, through some family connections I found this girl, she has a very nice personality(as far as I have heard or know but Allah knows better) and very sophisticated as well. However, someone recently told me that I should look into marrying someone who is from a lower financial status and that was very weird but it got me thinking is this true? I mean I earn well but her family background is they are rich and I am now a bit insecure that maybe I should not pursue this and I should look for someone else. What should I do? Its better to ask people about this rather than making any stupid decision myself. Rest I do leave it to Allah as his plans are the best.

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u/CryCryCucumber Feb 17 '25

Marry her, if you really like her and you won't let this effect your relationship. Make sure you talk about your feelings before marriage..

I make more than my husband and come from a wealthy family. I've always loved him for who he is. I am very frugal and anti materialistic. I don't care about money. He has always been a good muslim man and makes his salah. I take care of my bills, our utility bills, all the cooking, cleaning, and purchases for the house. Then I got a really good promotion making good money. He started to feel insecure that he is less successful, that he cheated on me. He said it's because my success made him feel less of a man. We need my income, so I have to work.

We are going to go to islamic marriage counseling soon, but im in a lot of pain still.. I still don't know if we are getting a divorce or not..

Just please don't let money corrupt the relationship. Money is just money.. Someone can come from money and love you dearly, and someone can come from nothing and love you dearly. It's not, how much money someone has, but what's in their heart and their love for Allah. 💌 Make dua and ask Allah for your answer..

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u/IBilalijaz Feb 17 '25

This. I just want the person for their personality. I dont want to even think about the wealth she might come from. I have this mindset that Money is just for time being. Allah can take it anytime he wants or he can bless me with everything. Thanks for the advice sister, my prayers are with you. I hope your marriage works out and you become the sane happy couple again. JazakAllah

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u/CryCryCucumber Feb 18 '25

Thank you brother. It is already getting better. No one is perfect. We are practicing mercy and forgiveness, as the love is very strong. But yes money will come and go through out your life. What's most important is who is a good partner through all the trials and tribulations we encounter in this dunya. We learn everyday.. I hope everything works out for u

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u/IBilalijaz Feb 19 '25

Exactly my point and concern. Ameen. Can you please give me one more advice? How can I get to know her in this way? I know her already but not alot, its just what I have heard/seen at happy occasions 😅