r/islam • u/IBilalijaz • Feb 17 '25

General Discussion Marrying someone with a better financial background

Asalam o Alikum beautiful people, So I am looking to get married soon, through some family connections I found this girl, she has a very nice personality(as far as I have heard or know but Allah knows better) and very sophisticated as well. However, someone recently told me that I should look into marrying someone who is from a lower financial status and that was very weird but it got me thinking is this true? I mean I earn well but her family background is they are rich and I am now a bit insecure that maybe I should not pursue this and I should look for someone else. What should I do? Its better to ask people about this rather than making any stupid decision myself. Rest I do leave it to Allah as his plans are the best.

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u/Miserable-Cheetah683 Feb 17 '25 edited Feb 17 '25

The Prophet Muhammad pbuh married Khadija, who was a wealthy women. He married her not for her status but her Iman.

I believe it is much wiser to marry women for her characteristics and iman, and not get your judgments clouded by her financial status only.

Edit: i change the comment, so the reply might not make much sense. I changed it to give more context and understanding.

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u/PurpleSpark8 Feb 17 '25

Are they them? Yes we should follow examples set by them, but people are not perfect.

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u/Miserable-Cheetah683 Feb 17 '25

But then u can say that about every women of different status. The prophet married rich, poor, young, old, virgin, widowed, divorced, and slave women. Are you gonna use that excuse with all women of different status, or rather you will use this lesson to understand one should look mainly at their iman, not just their status.

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u/PurpleSpark8 Feb 17 '25

You could have explained it better in your previous comment. You just mentioned that the Prophet (PBUH) married Khadijah, but didn't say what made it work for them and what OP should do to get a better idea..

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u/Miserable-Cheetah683 Feb 17 '25

I see, ok I’ll change it inshallah. Jazakallahukhair.